39 Weeks and counting

[Bayley]

It's not actually me who's pregnant but my sister is. Anyway my sister has became very irritable lately, like anything will tick her off; example;

She asked "Why isn't he here yet?" and I replied, "Relax, just enjoy the last few moments you'll have being pregnant because you'll miss them when you're not. He'll come out when he is ready." Her response "Blah blah blah, last time I checked you weren't a doctor, you haven't been pregnant so shut the hell up"

She was lovely all the way up to 37 and a half weeks, then it became little outbursts of grouchiness but now it has become an all day everyday thing. She's 39 weeks today, she thinks she is going to go past her due date because all she feels is slight pressure on her pelvis. She also does NOT want to be induced so she has tried the remedies to help bring on labour (Except sex) but they haven't worked.

I'm the birthing partner as well so I'm freaking out to how her attitude will be when she is waiting to deliver, I don't want to say the wrong things. I'll even offer her a foot rub if it will mean she wont shout at me and I hate feet.

So why is she this irritable after being so full of bliss just a week and a half ago? And is there anything I can do to make her relaxed and calm?

 

[AngelLily]

Her attitude actually seems very normal at this point. Being heavily pregnant is very exhausting and you can get very frustrated very easily. I'd just ignore her outbursts as they'll also be caused by hormones too as they'll be on a very high rise with possible labour not far away.

Every mum is eager to meet their babies, I'm 36 weeks and 4 days and I'd be extremely happy if my waters broke now, I'm sick and tired of being pregnant now, it's hard.
No sleep at night,
heartburn,
anxiety,
tiredness,
mood swings.

So, don't worry I'm sure her attitude will change at labour or when baby is born.

 

[Mummybexee]

You'll understand when your heavily pregnant - until then it's hard to describe how you feel

I'm sat in pain bouncing on a ball - would be happy if my waters went now aswell- expect whatever she is like now to get worse and then 500 times worse during labour - it's the hardest thing being pregnant - but it's also hard to be a birthing partner

Just don't take anything to heart that's my only advice

 

[Jojo84]

in your first few months of pregnancy youre so happy to be pregnant usually you overlook the hell your body is going through, in 2nd trimester you get all the exciting things - the bump, the kicks, the wriggles... in the third trimester you're just waiting for the baby to come out... nothing exciting happens until youre in labour and it can be horrid... especially after about 30weeks
Your heartburn makes you feel sick,
youre tired
you cantr sleep cos your heartburn is bad
your legs get restless
you cant breathe sometimes cos everything is getting pushed up
none of your clothes fit
you pelvis feels like its going to fall off
you start to waddle
and youre pretty sure someone sneaked a bowling balls into your knickers at some point.

by 39 weeks you just want to be a mum... (im saying this from how i feel at the moment a little bit and immagining how ill feel if i get to 39) the body sharing is getting a tad old.

the more someone tells you "not long now" you feel like ripping their heads off a little cos theyve given you a running countdown for 9 months already and nowa day feels like a month and the lodger that has taken up residence in your aching uterus - with its friend mr placenta! - is getting towards eviction day and isnt really packed yet.

Immagine having about a stone of extra stuff in your uterus (baby,placenta, fluid), protruding out from your body... putting you off blanace, sitting on your pelvis. its not nice. thats before we even get to big boobs that leak.
pregnancy may be a "miracle" but its also uncomfortable, painful and losing its appeal by the time you get to the end.

Let her be grumpy because she will be happy when baby is here, but for now its just a pain in the ass waiting.

try to ignore her snappiness, just support her and when its all over she will thank you. you'll know how she feels when youre pregnant and begging the uterus invader to get out lol

 

[Bayley]

Thank you for all your replies and I thought I'd let you all know my sister had little boy, Oscar, early hours today. She was in labour for 36 hours so she was very grumpy because she was so close to meeting him and it was taking forever but when he finally arrived she was a different person and actually apologised for being such a bitch (her words not mine)