31 weeks due date fast approaching.

[violet13]

Hi ladies,
Well hospital bag is packed, babies room sorted and honestly the closer I get the more scared I feel I can't explain it tbh I don't know what scared me about upcoming due date and I wondered if anyone else felt that same? I can't wait to see my baby and to hold him it's just I'll have a baby....I don't know just lots to think on and prepare for I don't feel like the house is ready or if anything is really sorted. It feels very very real now. Xx

 

[summer15]

I think it's natural to suddenly become anxious at this time hun, I just posted in Sept mummies thread - I've been so focused on the pregnancy/ preparing for baby's arrival / labour etc - i haven't even considered 'life' beyond the first week in September!! As if having the baby is the ultimate goal - but really that's just the very start ... Don't be worried though hun, it will be the most wonderful adventure and I'm sure any of the mummies on here will reassure you that the rush of love you feel for your baby when he arrives will rid you of your anxiety. But of course the adventures not an easy one - make sure your partner and family/friends know how you feel so they can support you xxx

 

[violet13]

Thank you Hun I am nervous but also really excited to see my baby! Xxx

 

[becky85]

I feel the same! I'm 35 weeks and still haven't sorted hospital bag (although started to assemble a pile of things to go into a bag) and haven't washed baby clothes (the few Iv bought) and still have a few weeks left at work and despite doing much more cleaning and feeling like th house isn't in a bad state I also don't feel like its baby ready - scary stuff! Sure it's normal to feel a bit anxious though we'll be fiiiiine x

 

[violet13]

We will becky, everything will get sorted and things will be okay just worrying over daft things I supposed haha xxx

 

[Bubbles22]

Violet I'm much more anxious than excited if I was being truly honest. There is a constant nagging in the back of my head that life will never be how it is now and that scares the crap out of me. I'm basically nervous about everything, labour, breastfeeding, bonding with baby, life changing, loosing independence, relationships changing, post natal depression, loneliness.... BUT I have never felt that something was so right in all my life. I am just taking one day as it comes and hopefully we will relax into the new stage of our lives.

 

[doll_eyes]

I feel exactly the same, I'm not worried about labour/birth (yet!), but I am starting to realise that we'll soon have a baby in our lives that's ours! Still feels surreal even though she's constantly kicking and I'm clearly having a baby. We've just started laying new laminate in the living room as I didn't like the sanded wood floor when we moved in, hubby is going mad as I want to do everything at once and the house is a tip lol sure we'll be fine. Can't believe we're at 31 weeks already Violet! xx

 

[violet13]

I'm the same!! I'm trying to do too much at once and I'm getting frustrated as I've gotten really big he's grown so much so now I'm going into nesting overdrive, my back is aching like crazy and my knees hurt but I have to do things or I get moody. Bubbles you have summed up everything I am feeling. I'm scared of going early or going late what if labour isn't straight forward what if he doesn't latch what ifs drive is bonkers....for 3 years I've wanted this for 3 years we've tried and failed and now well now he's going to be here and soon.cim also very scared of the people who will be checking on us, the home visitors who's check on me and baby I don't want to be a bad mum I want to be as good as I can be for him but the midwives have been great I love our midwife she's been so caring and understanding and I just want to make sure I do the best. Xxx

 

[violet13]

Doll eyes how fast has the time gone?! We're gonna be parents soon!!! It's truly incredible how we grew this little life and yet they'll be in our arms sooner than we think....I'm just such a worrier! Xxx

 

[Bubbles22]

Violet remember the people who come to visit is there for you and baby to support you. They are not checking up on you. If I have any concerns at all, I'm going to say it to them, it's their job to help, I just hope they are nice ha ha!

Honestly though, I think what we are feeling is normal for some people. I tend to overanalyse everything and strive to be a perfectionist... Both of which are not great qualities for parenthood so I know I will need every bit of help out there and constant reassurance from hubby/ family... God I sound like a lovely person.

Once we meet our little ones I'm sure we will be fine

 

[Mary Poppins]

Whether the house is ready, whether your hair is cut or your legs are shaved, it will all be perfect and everything that seems so important now will pale into insignificance.

Personally I didn't get the 'Rush of love' everyone talks about. I was so pleased my baby was here, I was happy, I thought she was really cute and really enjoyed having her.... But I didn't feel that rush everyone talks about. It hit me on day 10, looking over at my mum holding her and when it did it was so intense, I had to ask for her to be passed back for me as I wasnkist suddenly desperate for a cuddle! If that part doesn't hit straight away don't panic, because it will totally come xx

 

[violet13]

I'm partly worried as I've heard horrible things of the the people who come to see me and baby as they can be right nasty pieces of work. And because we have dogs what if they decide its them or the baby? I know that seems daft but we've been through so much already I don't think I could handle any more heartache or stress. I genuinely can't wait to see my baby to hold him and cuddle him and also know he is there even though I feel him inside me, I've always been maternal and now boom it's almost due date time haha. You guys help a lot, in fact I'd say you've been better support than some friends and it's nice to know whatever worries I have i can always just post and get some advice, support and people who get it. I don't know how I'll be after the birth but I know I can't wait to just hold him in my arms instead of in my body. I can deal with lack of sleep and crying its so so worth it xxx

 

[Bunny432]

I feel the same babe, we move house this weekend too I'll be 33 weeks and I'm so anxious now that I'll go early and we will still be moving. I think it's normal to feel like this even for second, third etc time mum's. I've been told the maternal instinct just happens tho. We will all be just fine xxxx

 

[violet13]

Hopefully bunny, I can't help it tbh haha. I know our dogs will be fine as they are rather protective of me. It's just be nice if some of my friends where as supportive so feeling a bit blah about that today as one friend has t bothered with me at all so it's hurtful and honestly I'm thinking of just telling her I don't need this cr*p I need my friends support not being ignored or her telling me she doesn't want to talk about baby. Xxx

 

[kumber]

Re pets - we have 4 cats, not long reduced from 6 and they're all exclusively indoor. My hv expressed her concerns, I showed her our safety measures - cats have baby-free areas, cats don't go into bedrooms, etc.- and she was happy with that. They can't make you get rid of your pets, especially if you're sensible with them and baby's safety.