1dpo and I feel hopeless

[Maximus17]

Hiya I am 1dpo today and I really don’t think I am pregnant again and even though I convinced myself that I am not bothered I am really bothered and frustrated and just fed up. I just know I am not pregnant again and have no idea why it’s not happening for us. While I am ovulating I feel sooo positive but not anymore.

 

[Akua]

You really wouldn’t have any symptoms at 1dpo though so it’s definitely way to early to be counting yourself out already.

I think it’s a mental thing us girls do after experiencing a loss - we tell ourselves that it won’t be this month so that if af does turn up we’re not heartbroken.

Try and keep positive. Your time will come. Big hugs

 

[EmmaN27]

It's far too soon for you to count yourself out, it is emotionally draining ttc x

 

[Maximus17]

Thank you girls. I just feel what are the chances of being pregnant probably like 10percent so I am resigning myself for a bfn as that’s what I get month after month. It’s heartbreaking to hope than comes crashing down. My 1dpo symptoms are same as every month low down pains , breasts are aching so it’s all the same. Yes I agree it’s somehow easier to prepare myself for a bfn

 

[Akua]

Don’t worry - I did exactly the same. Even when I had every pregnancy symptom under the sun, I was still saying there’s no way I could be pregnant. Only took a test to shut my husband up.

Somehow it’s easier to prepare for disappointment isn’t it? Ttc is totally crap a lot of the time, especially when you’re long timers like us

 

[EmmaN27]

Yeah I think we all try to gear ourselves up for BFNs to protect ourselves from the sadness of it, but you always have that hope, which means you can't stop the hurt. We are all here to support each other. X

 

[Alexis2017]

I'm still here too. Sending you hugs

I only had brown dc when af was due last cycle. I've had major symptoms..peeing all the time, tired, hungry face full of spots just did a digital test today and was a big fat 'not pregnant ' so no idea Why I am feeling like this. I have been on ivf waiting list 12 weeks so half way to top of the list... I was hoping we could have beaten the docs and got preggers before then. Unexplained and unfair !

 

[Princess81]

Aw at 1dpo the sperm are still only in your reproductive tract. Cellular division won’t even have started to happen. Don’t get yourself down hun xx

 

[Maximus17]

Thanks for all your messages. I had some more cm today so managed another bd session probably not for anything but I thought I might as well.
Hugs Alexis it’s sooo heartbreaking isn’t it. Every month and full of symptoms but nothing in the end. Sometimes I feel like what’s the point of having sex as it’s not going to lead to pregnancy. We did so many times around ovulation this month but seriously it’s not going to happen so I am trying to re think this and maybe just have sex when I feel like it rather than force myself to do it so many times a week. I say that but when the time comes I go for it like mad not to miss my chance. Arghhh feel so stupid to even think that it’s going to happen.

 

[chattychar1990]

I am 2DPO today and my boobs are killing me.
Try not to be negative. It’s definitely easier to set ourselfs up for a negative but you have to be positive it’s the only thing that keeps me going.

 

[Sunflower1]

Maximus, after ovulation I always have a day or two of feeling very low - apparently it's because of the drop in estrogen. Also I know how heartbreaking it is going through this every month! Hugs xx

 

[Maximus17]

yes very heartbreaking, it's just that chances of getting pregnant very low so it's better not to get my hopes up but I still do deep down, I just put on this front that I don't care and I am ready for BFN. And even if I do get pregnant, there is no guarantee that I will stay pregnant and I don't think I could get really excited till 12-13 weeks. so yes it will be a long process...

 

[chattychar1990]

fX for the both of us Maximus.
We are in this together x

 

[Sunflower1]

yes very heartbreaking, it's just that chances of getting pregnant very low so it's better not to get my hopes up but I still do deep down, I just put on this front that I don't care and I am ready for BFN. And even if I do get pregnant, there is no guarantee that I will stay pregnant and I don't think I could get really excited till 12-13 weeks. so yes it will be a long process...

I know how you feel...I thought I was pregnant this month. Once you've lost one you know that a BFP is only the start of the journey and even that doesn't seem to happen.

 

[Maximus17]

exactly sunflower, it's the first hurdle really, such a long journey. I wasn't ready for this , as we had so much hope a year ago, even thinking about the gender. Nowadays it seems so far far away and there is no point to even talk about it anymore. We are trying to move on with our lives , planning on refurnishing the house, or holiday etc... But to be honest I rather have a baby than all of those maternal things. I feel even sad to move on with my life but it needs to happen. I even thought about getting myself a personal trainer next month and feel good about myself (I rather get pregnant and get fat lol)

 

[Sunflower1]

exactly sunflower, it's the first hurdle really, such a long journey. I wasn't ready for this , as we had so much hope a year ago, even thinking about the gender. Nowadays it seems so far far away and there is no point to even talk about it anymore. We are trying to move on with our lives , planning on refurnishing the house, or holiday etc... But to be honest I rather have a baby than all of those maternal things. I feel even sad to move on with my life but it needs to happen. I even thought about getting myself a personal trainer next month and feel good about myself (I rather get pregnant and get fat lol)

A personal trainer isn't a bad idea - getting fitter will probably help your chances and taking your mind off it might lower the stress levels. I know what you mean about it seeming far away. I don't think it will happen for me now.My fertility app keeps cheerfully asking me things like 'where are you planning to deliver your baby?', at which point I tell it to %$@* off!