firsttimer04
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Hi everyone, I'm new to this but I became deseparate and didn't know who to speak to....Ive been with my partner for a little over 7 years. We are both 29 and we recently found out we were expecting. About a year ago, my partner had made it known to me that he wanted to have children. A few months ago, we decided to try and now we are expecting. Hes been excited from the moment he found out the news but recently we began to hit a rump. We have a friend (his friend really) whom is 22 and is still in the phase to go to clubs, get drunk, and sleep continuously with many girls; as boys his age normally are. As much as I believe this guy is hilarious, I strongly believe that there is a time and a place to be around someone who has such different motivations about life. One night, not too long ago, we had gone out with this person and he randomly kissed many girls that same night, a few he didnt even know. Well, my problem is, my partner asked if he can join this person out after work (he works until late night) at these bars/clubs. I honestly told him I was not comfortable with the situation but if he wanted to go, I was not going to say no. My partner became furious. Claimed I would not let him have fun with his friends, which is definitely not the case (he had already been to 4 bars this month alone). I personally just feel, if he knows what his friend is getting himself into during these times, why are you joining him?
The problem that we are having now is that I did not fight with him about this situation and he decided to stop speaking to me and even placed a pillow in between us while we sleep. I honestly dont know what to do at this point. Why is he being so dramatic? He is completely forgetting he is becoming a father and does not even acknowledge my presence, nor his future childs. Ended up telling me I was becoming unattractive to him because of that particular day. I told him that I dont understand why he is so upset, and he said he is having a child with a women whom does not trust him when he had gone to the bars and came home at 1am and I did not say anything to him. I only feel uncomfortable when he is with one particular person. I keep wondering if I am being unreasonable, but I do not understand why I cannot communicate with my partner about how I feel (calmly) and he throws a tantrum .
He began talking to me after about a week and half of silence and now he just says little things to me, but I feel as though I live with a roommate, and my heart is hurting knowing that I am having a child and I should be happy but Im feeling miserable. I attempted to talk to him about this because I know this cannot be left unresolved but he continuously makes me feel guilty as if I am the problem and I should be ok with him doing whatever without being uncomfortable.
Someone please help me figure out what to do? Im hurt, confused, and I dont understand why this is going to this extreme?
The problem that we are having now is that I did not fight with him about this situation and he decided to stop speaking to me and even placed a pillow in between us while we sleep. I honestly dont know what to do at this point. Why is he being so dramatic? He is completely forgetting he is becoming a father and does not even acknowledge my presence, nor his future childs. Ended up telling me I was becoming unattractive to him because of that particular day. I told him that I dont understand why he is so upset, and he said he is having a child with a women whom does not trust him when he had gone to the bars and came home at 1am and I did not say anything to him. I only feel uncomfortable when he is with one particular person. I keep wondering if I am being unreasonable, but I do not understand why I cannot communicate with my partner about how I feel (calmly) and he throws a tantrum .
He began talking to me after about a week and half of silence and now he just says little things to me, but I feel as though I live with a roommate, and my heart is hurting knowing that I am having a child and I should be happy but Im feeling miserable. I attempted to talk to him about this because I know this cannot be left unresolved but he continuously makes me feel guilty as if I am the problem and I should be ok with him doing whatever without being uncomfortable.
Someone please help me figure out what to do? Im hurt, confused, and I dont understand why this is going to this extreme?