10+5 weeks with twins but feeling down

[Shellie85]

Good afternoon ladies, I hope you're all well.
So I'm 10+ 5 days pregnant with my 2nd (planed!) I started bleeding on Thursday morning so I rang the early pregnancy unit and got told to go in for a scan to make sure everything was ok. It was my first scan and whilst there found out that I'm actually having twins!!
I think I'm obviously still in shock a little but I'm really not warming to the idea of having 2 babies. Does this make me terrible? it's just the more I think about it the more I realise how massively life changing it will be. We need to move house, get a new car and prepare for their arrival all in 6 months. I'm not sure how we'll do it!!
Has anyone else felt this way? Everyone we have told including my partner are so excited and happy but I don't feel I can be right now!! Am I being selfish??
Sorry for ranting to you all but your stories and advice are welcomed xxx

 

[MrsLaw]

I think the prospect of having a baby whether it's just 1 or twins can be daunting to anyone so don't feel alone. I've just found out I'm having twins too and still can't believe it. My mind is just racing now, do we have space? How can we juggle two when they're both awake? Lol
Just be happy that the babies are doing well at this point despite the bleed. I'm sure everything will fall in to place, you still have a few months yet x

 

[Wednesday]

I can totally understand how you feel that way... one baby is enough work, and two is crazy! Honestly I would have been so scared if they told me I had two babies in there...

Hopefully the worry will ease off. Do you have any other babies? Xx

 

[Teacup10]

Congrualtions Shellie, I totally get your worries especially if you already have children and know just how hard parenting can be at times. I'm sure when the news has settled you will feel better xxxx

 

[firstfreakout]

Congrats on the pregnancy!

This is my first baby (not planned!), and although there's only one in there, I relate to how you feel regarding worrying that you're being selfish for worrying. Considering how much I've been panicking in this pregnancy, I don't think I would have coped very well with the news of it being twins, so I think your reaction is fairly normal.

I've been worried that I'm being selfish by worrying about things such as how our relationship will change, my job and my personal life will change, and whether or not I'll be a good parent, but the things you're worrying about are practical and reasonable things to worry about!

I saw a twins chat board on here somewhere; it might be worth having a look on there and chatting to some mums who already have twins and seeing how they're coping?

If you find you're struggling with feeling down over this and can't shake it, do mention it to your midwife so they can make sure you have some extra support available if you need it.
Good luck - I'm sure everything will fall into place when the double cuteness arrive x