OK so long story short, I have only just had my first baby who is now 5 months old. I only ever planned on having the one as I want to be able to give him my full attention and really enjoy him. My husband however is desperate for 2. I have really enjoyed being a mum so far so I had started to consider giving my son a sibling but not for at least a few years so that I can spend time with him first, let my body fully recover and have time for a new baby once my son starts nursery etc.
However i have recently found out that due to health concerns, if we were to have another baby we would need to start trying very soon, or we could just accept that we cannot have any more and enjoy our son.
I am finding it really difficult to decide what to do. I hated pregnancy and don't want to be feeling ill when I could be playing with my son. I will also feel really guilty having to give so much attention to a new baby rather than him etc.
What are the benefits and disadvantages of having babies so close together? Did you prefer having 1child to having 2? Do you wish you waited longer before having another? Do you still get some 'you' time?
I really just need all the brutally honest pros and cons to help me decide
However i have recently found out that due to health concerns, if we were to have another baby we would need to start trying very soon, or we could just accept that we cannot have any more and enjoy our son.
I am finding it really difficult to decide what to do. I hated pregnancy and don't want to be feeling ill when I could be playing with my son. I will also feel really guilty having to give so much attention to a new baby rather than him etc.
What are the benefits and disadvantages of having babies so close together? Did you prefer having 1child to having 2? Do you wish you waited longer before having another? Do you still get some 'you' time?
I really just need all the brutally honest pros and cons to help me decide
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