Would you go or not?

[topbird]

Hi everyone

I have a bit of a dilemma...

My brother is getting married when I am 38 weeks pregnant. It is in Brighton which is a 3 hours drive south from where we live (dependent on M25 FRIDAY traffic as the wedding is on a Friday afternoon).

I am under a lot of pressure from my family to make a decision as to whether we are going to go or not.

Can any of you who are a bit later on than me imagine going to a wedding at the minute?

 

[mary70]

i think you should go hun there will be a hospital near by in the unlikly chance you would need one and it would be a shame to miss it, i went on holiday a week before i had my dd

 

[Redshoes]

Personally I'd be fine going at my stage of pregnancy, as long as I didn't have to drive, 3hrs is a long time to be driving with a tender pelvis hehe Stats show it's unlikely to be quick with a first baby and so if labour did start, you could hypothetically be home well in advance of LO's birth, but you need to decide if you'd be OK with being away from home should that happen
I would just say if you feel happy going, then go, otherwise don't because you won't enjoy the day if you feel forced to go I wouldn't have thought
Whatever you decide, congratulations to your brother and his fiance and don't be made to feel bad for whatever you decide, you're the one who'll be heavily pregnant

 

[lmarszall]

I am 38 weeks tomorrow and at the moment i would be able to go.

I would make sure i had my hospital stuff in the car in case though!

I reckon you would have twinges or a few signs if you were going to go in labour then. And as someone else said, if the worst happened there will be hospitals nearby there.

But it is up to you hun xxx

 

[OopsyDaisy]

I will be in the same situation when my cousin gets married in August - I will be about 38 weeks, but I'm planning to go if all is OK. I'll make sure I'll bring my hospital bag with me just in case.

 

[Nicola]

I'm just up the road from Brighton, you'd be right next to the Royal Sussex County Hospital, they have a great maternity unit there and it's where babies from other local hospitals are sent if there are problems after birth and they need higher levels of care. I can't comment about being 38 weeks yet that's still 8 weeks away but I do know Brighton (I live about 15 minutes away!) and the facilities there should you need them are excellent so don't let that worry you in the slighest.

Oh so if you want the maternity/midwife/labour ward numbers for there let me know as my care comes under my local hospital but it's a branch from the RSC (Royal Sussex County) so 2-in-1 type thing. Their numbers are on all my notes etc.

 

[trixipaws]

i'm 38 weeks and i'd probably go now. its my cousins wedding the day b4 my due date and i'v declined my invitation for that, altho i'd hav liked to go. dont wanna steal anyones thunder lol!
it depends how close u are 2 ur brother. if either of my sisters were getting married today i'd do the big drive (just get someone else behind the wheel and make lots of stops!)
n joy if u go!

 

[topbird]

Thanks for your comments everyone....

I am a bit nervous about being away from home that close to be honest, and being stuck on the M25 in traffic if I am in labour!

I think I already have my nesting instinct. Even when we went on holiday a few weeks ago I felt really home sick and we came home a day early!

Worried about if I go into labour what DH will do, where will he stay etc... Also my family will all be completely hammered, so no use what so ever.

Is reassuring that those of you who are 38 weeks pregnant feel you could go. I wil definitely be taking my hospital bag!

Nicola - the phone numbers would be brilliant thanks - I will PM you

TB x

 

[smurf]

I think your family are being a bit unfair presurising you. If I were you I'd speak with your brother and his fiancee and say something like you will try to come but can't guarantee it and will know closer to the time. Whose to know the baby could come the day before the wedding only time will tell whether you can go or not. I got married last year and we had someone pull out on the day cos his dad was very ill in hospital our hotel were very accommodating and they weren't even charged for their room. I would ensure your DH doesn't drink too much on the day incase you do need to get to the hospital and definitely bring your notes and bags with you.


Best of luck and enjoy the day if you do go.

 

[Baileysmummy]

I have a wedding to go to on the 15th july, and i will be around 38 weeks i think.. i dont want to go as its the same as you, its 2 hours away and i dont want to give birth in a strange place.. also its so close to my c section date as well, wouldnt wanna get lost or have to stay over there..

Im not sure what to do either, but i think its totally up to you what you do..

good luck!

 

[Xena]

I was invited to alschafr's wedding for the first week in July (my due date is 30th July) in Norwich (I live in Leeds).
After much thought, I declined, although I really want to go
True there would be a hospital nearby, but my family are all in Leeds. I wouldn't want them to miss the birth just because I decided to go wandering off down south.

However it's different for you, as your family will be in Brighton. I think you might be okay going but it's up to you.

 

[Hellokitty]

I think I'd go...even now!

Maybe I'm a bit reckless?

 

[Nicola]

I think I'd go...even now!

Maybe I'm a bit reckless?

Hey lady it's your due date ....get off the forum and go have little Maia!!

 

[x-kirsty-x]

I'll be 38 weeks on Friday and I have to disagree with everyone else, I wouldnt go.

Not because of the fact that I might go into labour but because Im at the stage where Im huge and uncomfortable and hate being anywhere except home, snuggled up in my pyjamas!

Everyones different though, some people feel fine at 38 weeks whereas others (like me!) feel like shit

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I said yes only because its your brother .
We were suppost to go to a wedding this sunday 7 hours away from here for his cousins wedding but we decided not to go beacuse i will be 37 weeks, but if it were to be my sisters or brothers i wouold risk it.
But thats just me

Good luck

Katrina

 

[Nicola]

Hi

I said yes only because its your brother .
We were suppost to go to a wedding this sunday 7 hours away from here for his cousins wedding but we decided not to go beacuse i will be 37 weeks, but if it were to be my sisters or brothers i wouold risk it.
But thats just me

Good luck

Katrina

I agree with that, I'm only saying yes as it's your brother....we have been invited to a wedding that is about a fortnight after my due date, I've said "no" on a "really dont' think so" basis for that one espeically since it's in Glasgow...from the south coast of England that's one heck of a treck with a week old baby type thing....if indeed he's born on time and not a day late or whatever.

 

[topbird]

Glad I am getting a few NO's now too!!

my gut instinct at this moment in time is that I don't want to go... but I am getting so much grief from my family for saying that, that I thought I would see how you guys would feel... when you were all saying yes you would go I was thinking I was a complete drama queen for even contemplating not going!

My mum keeps on going on about why I haven't been to get my outfit yet. I am not going to fork out on a special posh maternity frock before I know 100% I am going to wear it! She even wanted me to go down the night before as a group of our family friends are going out on the lash and she wanted me to go out with them.....! and yes - she has had 3 children and she is in her 60's!

You have all given me plenty to think about. Smurf I think you are right.. I should not be pressure into making a decision now and wait until nearer the time.

I still may have a low lying placenta anyway, my 36 week scan is not until 2nd July, so my c-section could even be the same week/ week after the wedding, if I have to have one!

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Another point I would like to make is that I dont think I could find anything nice to wear at the minute to flatter my mahoosive bump

But of course you cant really base your decision on that! I think your family should understand if you decide not to go

 

[Sabrina]

I hope you can go, and enjoy, the wedding TB. Surely there's no harm in you saying yes now and changing your mind if you don't feel up to it at the time? I understand your concern about being stuck on the M25 motorway and in labour. I wouldn't want to risk that either!

Say yes then why not put off your proper decision until the week of the wedding?

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I agree say yes , maybe it will get your family off your back!! and if nearer the time you dont want to go im sure they would understand .
good luck decideing hun just take care of yourself
Katrina