would you go on a hen weekend abroad at 16 weeks?

[ams25]

HI ladies I am just tri-hopping from tri 1 as thought there will be more ladies around the 16-week mark in here! Hope that's okay xx

I am booked to go on a friends hen weekend abroad next month, it's been booked since before we were even TTC and it's all paid for. I will be 16 weeks pregnant at the time.

I just wondered how your all feeling/felt around 16 weeks and whether I will be okay to go, or is it a crazy idea? Obviously I won't be drinking and that doesn't bother me, I'm more just worried about whether I will be able to keep up with the late nights as at the moment I'm asleep by 9pm every night! We are staying 2 nights and I will have to stay out late both nights with the rest of them as don't fancy walking back to our accommodation on a foreign city alone if I do get tired and want to go to bed! To be honest the way I'm feeling at the moment the whole idea fills me with dread, but the bride is one of my best friends so feel I have to go.

I remember getting my energy back and feeling loads better around 15/16 weeks in my first pregnancy so just hoping the same thing happens this time!

I also hate flying and worried about the flight particularly as I cant get drunk on this one haha, but it's only a short flight luckily.

Any opinions Appreciated xx

 

[WTT_june 2014]

Hiya, it's really hard to answer as everyone's experience of pregnancy is completely different. I've had a really easy ride with no sickness or nausea and I really don't feel any different (I'm 16+6) however I know some girls who barely want to leave the house never mind go abroad.

I did get tired easily between 7-13 weeks and would be fast asleep by 10pm, but that has gone now, I think the tiredness eases off after 12 weeks, as I think a lot of the tiredness is in relation to growing a whole new organ (placenta), which is developed and functional by 12/13 weeks. Everything you read says you get more energy back in tri 2, which I'd agree with. That said I can't think of anything worse that being stuck on a night out in a foreign country till the early hours, surrounded by drunk people.

 

[Jenbob]

As WTT said everyone is differnet but if it helps I was feeling soooo tired, still feeling a little tired however defo getting energy back! I'm 15 weeks tomorrow.
As its only 2 nights it might be ok, if it was me and I could take naps during daytime then catch up on sleep when home, I would go. See how you get on anyway. Hope you feel ok and get to go!! Xxxx

 

[kimmyRJ]

It is a difficult one, if I'm honest at 16 weeks today I couldn't think of anything worse than being on a night out let alone 2 nights in a row and in a foreign country where I couldn't go home when/ if I wanted but then I would want to try for my best friend I guess, very difficult one. Xx

 

[Toni_Win]

With my first we went on holiday to Tenerife when I was about 16 weeks and it was fine. I guess it depends what you are doing during the day as to how you will feel on a night. If you get plenty of rest during the day and can sleep in a bit, you could well be OK for a couple of late nights. If it is all paid for can you cancel? If not then at least see how you are feeling nearer the time and pull out at last minute if not up to it. I'm sure as one of your best friends the bride to be would understand.

 

[BonzE]

Hiya! I started to feel less tired around 14/15 weeks and by week 16 felt pretty normal again! Could you get a taxi back if you wanted to turn in early?

I went to New York at 13 weeks for 5days and was exhausted but was walking up to 20miles a day! I think only do what you feel comfortable with! Pregnancy is such a personal thing and it's a time for you to look after number one!

Good luck xx

 

[Sugar10]

I am 15 weeks on Friday and I felt awful only a few weeks ago, but I'm not as tired now, and the sickness has eased, and if I'm honest a weekend in the sunshine would cheer me right up!! You can go out in flip flops and sit down all night and you can lay by the pool or on the beach all day. It depends how you are feeling personally and everyone's different but if it was me, I am certain i would want to go. I'm sure either way will be fine under the circumstances xx

 

[Baby2sky]

I'm going to Ibiza for a week when I will be about 20 weeks. You deff get your energy back a bit in the early second tri x

 

[Pregnot1]

Id just see how you feel , I have to go to one at 28 weeks because I'm bridesmaid and I am not looking forward to it in a bridesmaid at 35 weeks! I just think now it's silly but I don't want to let my friend down

 

[buggy1]

It depends how wild your friends are I'd say! If they are really hardcore party animals and you'll be mum holding back hair while people are sick every night you might not have the best time. If it is a bit tamer though it would be okay. You should feel less tired by 16 weeks.

 

[ams25]

Thank's girls, much appreciated I have said I am going for now, won't get a,refund even if I did cancel so I will see how I am when it comes to nearer the time. I would be gutted to miss it, I've already cancelled another hen weekend I was meant to be going on next weekend, that one's only In England but still a 2-nighter and I'm only 11 weeks next week there's absolutely no way I have the energy for that at the moment. Bride was very understanding bless her. But I'm really hoping I will get some energy back for the 16-week one and be able to go they are quite a group of party animals, there is talk of messy nights and fancy dress on the Facebook group haha. None of them have kids so I am always like the mum of the group anyway lol, and like I said not drinking doesn't bother me (except on the plane!). Luckily the daytime schedule isn't too packed they have built in a bit of free time on the Saturday so I might be able to have a,daytime nap haha.

Thanks for the input ladies xxx

 

[xjdx]

I think it depends on how supportive your friends are and realise your pregnant. So obviously they will take care of you.
Being in a different country and surroundings might make you feel better. It's a break.

I would go, obviously with the right insurance and things. If they had a big drunken night out then I'd would stay in the hotel. But I would want to do things in the day to so it was fair xx

 

[ams25]

Thanks hun that's the thing I would probably go on one night out and stay in hotel the other night, but we aren't staying In a hotel they have hired a floating barge with cabins! Which is a bit random lol. So there will be nobody else there so I wouldn't really feel very safe staying there on my own while they all went out so it's going to be all or nothing! Which is a bit daunting xxx

 

[becky85]

If go! I'm nearly 16 weeks and feeling much better. It will be nice to have a break and get away for a few days. Having said that I'd explain to the hen/bridesmaids and just say that whilst you really want to go you're going to play the late nights by ear. If you feel ok the stay out and if you're tired get an early night - I'm sure they'd understand. I went on a hen do at 8 weeks and it was only for one night but it was great to get dressed up and feel like myself a bit - even if was on the tonic water. One thing iv noticed is if I do have a late night then a couple of days later I have a mini relapse of morning sickness - so of just say if you do go then make sure you book in a few early nights and quiet days when you get back x

 

[xjdx]

You will have to be mother hen and look after them all then. Go and have a great time xx

 

[TTC no2]

My friend went on her sisters hen at 17weeks she was grand. I went homw though when she did. She was on til about 12ish and then we went back. I suspose everyone is diff. She had alot sickness throughout her pg but I think she got something from doc which helped her a lot