worried cos I never felt emotional or cried at any scans & scared not fit enough???

[Vicxzy]

Worry 1:

Has anybody else not cried at the scans?
Everybody I know says they were in floods of tears & asked me if I was & Im like 'Ummm no...' & they look at me like Im mental or heartless! TBH at my scans Ive been too busy stressing that everything will be ok & scrutinising the sonographers expressions/ whatever shes looking at on the screen to get all joyful & teary eyed! Im worried now this means Ill be a bad Mum?

Worry 2:

Also I watched that mums behaving badly & the Midwife was telling the overweight girl that she needed to get fit as shed be pushing for around 2 hrs!!!
WTF? Is this true?!!!
Im supposed to have been on bedrest since November as Ive been so poorly so my stamina is shite, I cant even walk up the stairs now without having to sit down!
Im worried I just wont be able to do it
x

 

[Little Rose]

Hi Vicxzy - I never shed a tear either at any of my scans so don't be worrying! We can do all our crying when the baby is delivered! I'm not a crier normally, it's just not in my nature so I don't feel bad for not crying at the scans.

 

[songbird]

I didnt cry at my scans either as i was more concerned about what i was seeing and making sure everything was alright.
With regards to pushing for 2 hours with my first i only had 2 pushes and she was out the final stage of labor only lasted 20 mins so dont panic hun each pregnancy and labor is different. You will be fine and will cope great during labor. also the fact that you are worrying shows what a great mum you will be

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I always thought i'd be in tears at all my scans and i was shocked when i never! Not even the first one...i was too scared to be honest!! Your gonna be a great mam hun, as you know i am worrying about this too and all the girls reassured me. The part about being unfit, if you have to be fit for labour then go help me!! I can't hardly walk up the stairs either, its awful! I don't believe you have to be fit...i haven't saw this mum's behaving badly yet xxx

 

[mumofmany]

i never cried at scans or when baby was born doesn't mean anything hun i still love him as much as others who do cry. and pushing stage is different for everyone you can be the fitest perso in the world and still push for hours or be unfit and push for minutes. the only excersice i do is running after my kids and longst i have ever pushed for is few minutes. so try not to worry.

 

[riotfox]

Don't worry about not crying. I didn't cry at any of the scans. It always made me happy to see him safe and well but I just never felt over emotional. As for the 2nd worry everybodies labour is different and I'm sure you will do a great job. xx

 

[bethx]

Ive never cried at any of my scans either hun, nor when my first was born.. i was too excited tbh.

Dont worry what others think you'll be a fab mum as long as your just being yourself.

 

[Cantstop]

Nope, I've not cried at any of them either. At my ante-natal classes they said that you can wait an hour or two hours for the skin to stretch to be ready to push, but no mention that the actual pushing bit takes that long, as others have said it's different for everyone.

 

[littlemiss83]

I didn't cry at my scan, or with my 1st. Also, I didn't cry after my baby was born (apart from tears of pain) I felt the most emotional I have in my life and I have never had so much love for another person before but I didn't actually cry. Always wondered what that said about me as a person. But everyone is different.

You'll make a great mum, and your love for the baby will come instantly, crying isn't a sign of love... And you will be able to do it fine, no matter how lathargic you feel just now.

When I had my first I had been up til 3am with my OH the nite b4 watching all the shrek movies lool had a routine hospital appointment for scan at hosp at 9am, we decided to go and go straight back to bed, I ended up being induced coz baby's heart stopped, and I thought oh no, i've not even had a proper sleep, but trust me you just get through, the adrenalin kicks in and takes over the tiredness.

 

[pinkymum]

I welled up at my 20 wk scan but didn't actually cry. At my 4D scan I nearly burst into tears when they said it was a girl because I was so happy, but didn't actually cry then either. I think I was just so amazed at all my scans. It doesn't indicate that you'll be a bad mum or that you're heartless

I'm not super fit either hun. You'll do it because you have to and you're body is amazing so don't worry!


x x x x

 

[lea554]

Ive been exactly the same, to the point where I thought I was in some state of denial about even being pregnant!
I never cried, and didnt feel at the 4d 'bonding' scan, that I had particulary bonded, lol! My cousin was more emotional than me!

Now she is here, she is my world....however, I didnt cry at her birth (just tears of despair in between contractions like littlemiss83, lol), and I still dont feel particulary emotional. But Im seeing that as a good thing, in that im not clinging to her, and getting all protective over her, which is healthy for both of us.

As for the labour, I was apprently pushing for around 1 hour - however, time is a funny thing when you are in labour, and although at the time, it was the worst experience, time actually went quite quickly - I can only really remeber the real pushing at the end, being about 10 pushes or so - so dont worry! You will be suprised how you will cope!
x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Yeah exactly as Pinky said, i am more amazed by everything too! Hope your feeling better now? xxx

 

[nmf1987]

i thought i would burst into tears as soon as i saw my baby on a scan but i didn't. think i was sooo worried about being told something was wrong that i was too tense.

obviously i have never been in labour but my attitude towards it is as women no matter how fit we are etc our bodies are made to bring a baby into the world so we will cope just fine. xxx

 

[don-don]

Hey,
I didn't cry at any of my scans and i didn't cry when my LO was born but it doesn't mean anything chick, some people cry some people don't i guess!! And i was pushing for an hour and a half, oh my life its was well knackering, but you do just get on with it, the exhaustion kicks in after xxxxxxx