Worried and fed up

[MrsMeaney]

Sorry girls, I need a bit of a vent.

I had my 36 week growth scan today and, although still on the large side, baby girl isn't giving any cause for concern. Unfortunately my fluid levels have gone up again and they're not sure why.

I've been booked in for a scan in 2 weeks to check it again, but the concern is if I go into labour in the mean time as there's a risk of cord prolapse. With high fluid levels, baby is bobbing around and not engaging, so the cord could slip through where her head should be. If my waters break, this is a very real risk and happens fast - putting baby girl's life in danger.

The consultant suggested I stay in until I go into labour but the hospital is an hour away and my husband doesn't qualify for paternal leave, meaning that childcare for Blake would be a logistical nightmare. I told her I couldn't stay in hospital for potentially 3 weeks and she seemed happy to let me go, but the worry is that I won't get to hospital in time if my membranes rupture.

I'm so worried. I'm just sat on my sofa too scared to move lol. If my waters go and my husband is at work, I have to call myself an ambulance, but the hospital is so far away, I'm so worried that something will go wrong and it'll be my fault because I didn't stay in. It just isn't feasible for us. I don't even think I could be away from Blake for that long!

Sorry, bit of a lengthy, worrying about possibilities post, but my husband is very rational and I need to be not rational right now!

 

[MrsMeaney]

Oh and if they're still up next time, I'll have to be induced which flies horrendously in the face of my planned vbac lol

 

[Tootsmaloy]

Oh I'm sorry to hear you're so worried MrsMeaney. Is there anything at all you can do or is bed rest the best way to avoid going into labour at the moment?

Sorry I can't be much help but I feel for you. Rest up, small steps - the first of which is making it the two weeks until the next scan and then fingers crossed. We can be waiting buddies together - my current next step is keeping little miss in until 37 weeks. It's boring, it's frustrating, it's worrying and with my pelvic bone now playing up its bloody painful, but the days go slowly by. We can make it two weeks. Perhaps then you can reasses whether you can stay in the hospital? I know it's hard with a little one.

Positive thoughts with you m'dear xx

 

[mylullaby]

I don't know what to say hunni but didn't want to read and run. Do you think they'd have been more insistent that you stay in if it was absolutely necessary? That's my first thought. Can totally see why you'd be worried but I reckon they have told you the risks to make sure you're aware of them - and the implications of them - but they must be fairly confident that all will be ok if you call the ambulance otherwise they would have advised you not to leave - regardless of any childcare issues (they will always be seen as secondary from a medical perspective even if they aren't to you iykwim) xxx

 

[MrsMeaney]

Yeah I'm guessing that she wouldn't have given me the choice if she didn't think I could go another 2 weeks. We'll see what she thinks at the next appointment I suppose. She might not be so lenient next time!

Yep just a case of taking it easy and keeping my fingers and legs crossed at the moment really!

 

[MrsTLC]

I can completely relate as to how you feel (sort of). I'm also really wanting a VBAC but will probably be facing the option of induction or section. Had PET last time and blood pressure is slowly starting to rise already at 32 weeks.... factoring in the chance of repeated hospital stays with the BP issues later down the line (with an 18 monther and a disabled husband) I am well and truly stuck as to what options I would have if they wanted to admit me.

Try and take some comfort in the fact that you are 36 weeks now and only 1.3% of women go into labour at 38 weeks, which is the next time you will be seen. The consultant would have been quite forceful if she thought there was likely to be an immediate issue.

 

[MrsMeaney]

I saw my mw this afternoon and feel a lot better now. She told me that in 30 years she'd only ever seen 2 cord prolapsed so, while serious, it's rare. She also echoed what mylullaby said - they wouldn't have let me go if it was a serious risk.

She has also made plans with me for each labour scenario - including if my waters break. In which case I'm to get in knee to chest position on all fours and call her. She will then come in the ambulance with me to hospital so that she can make sure all is okay on the journey.

Just knowing there are plans in place has made me feel so much calmer.

 

[mylullaby]

Pleased to hear that seeing the midwife has put your mind at ease a bit. Take it easy hunni xx

 

[vegas]

I can completely relate as to how you feel (sort of). I'm also really wanting a VBAC but will probably be facing the option of induction or section. Had PET last time and blood pressure is slowly starting to rise already at 32 weeks.... factoring in the chance of repeated hospital stays with the BP issues later down the line (with an 18 monther and a disabled husband) I am well and truly stuck as to what options I would have if they wanted to admit me.

Try and take some comfort in the fact that you are 36 weeks now and only 1.3% of women go into labour at 38 weeks, which is the next time you will be seen. The consultant would have been quite forceful if she thought there was likely to be an immediate issue.

Sorry for butting in and completely changing the subject but I've just come across your private message for April! Dunno how I didn't see it before. Thankyou for your lovely message!