Work Panic!

[nikki87]

Hi ladies

Im fairly new to this...as this is my first post but have been reading all the interesting posts since before i found out i was definately pregnant - am now 13 weeks+2

Pretty much everyone knows im pregnant EXCEPT work, well when i say work i mean my 2 managers.. 2 of of the girls i sit with know as it was a bit hard to keep it from them with all the sickness i suffered. But the problem i have is the fact my managers are pure evil... they are incredibly twofaced, very very selfish, money orientated (the pay is awful!!) and they pretty much talk to you sometimes like you are nothing... not to mention the fact that they treat us girls differently from the guys in the office.
Now ive been here since december 09 and one of the ladies i work with has just got back from maternity leave. Ever since she came back my managers were always saying to me (joking - but not if u know what i mean) now dont you get pregnant etc etc and it was funny at first until i realised i actually was pregnant i even went into see my manager the other day to ask for some holiday and when i said i needed to talk to him he said please dont tell me your pregnant.... NOW im abolsutely petrified about telling them so much so i wish i could just run out and not come back!! it wouldnt be a problem if i worked for a big organisation but there is only 7 of us in the office and they make it feel like a massive burden being pregnant....

on top of that - and i promise this is my last rant... one of the girls who knows im pregnant and havent been feeling great is really annoying me!! im clearly not feeling my best yet she just leaves me to answer ALL the calls by myself... im seriously gonna lose it!!

pheeeew, im finished now .... sorry for the incredibly long message!!!

Nikki x

 

[Kerrykins]

Wow Nikki, most of that sounds like I could have said it. Just try to think positively and remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel. It's the only thing keeping me going at my job at the moment. They will have to pay me when I am on maternity (ok they get it back from the government but it's hassle for them) so ha ha ha to that. AND they have to keep our jobs open for us. I have no intention of going back to the same company as they treat me so appallingly but they won't know that until the very last day I can tell them...................... I know it sounds vindictive but it's jus the way they have made me feel really. When I told one of my MD's, he mentioned it being very early days and that I could lose the baby six times in the meeting. I think he's quite disappointed that I didn't lose it..........

Sorry, took over with a bit of a rant of my own there.

Just know that you are not alone. Sadly (especially in this day and age!!!!!) there are quite a lot of us out here that are penalised for being pregnant. Legally they can't do it, but unfortunately there are a lot of clever people out there that know how to play the system.............

 

[nikki87]

Im so happy there is someone else out there who is in this situation... im exactly the same, i really have no intention on going back to that place when ive finished maternity defo will look for somewhere closer to home...!!
i seriously cannot believe your MD said that to me....what a d**k!! i really dont blame you for not wanting to go back!!
i think my employees defiantely would know how to play the system, they are the type of people who moan at you if you ask for holiday....!! so annoying but at least once i get it over and done with on Friday i only have 5 1/2 months left till maternity!!!

 

[nikki87]

Ahhh im so glad im not alone!! i havent really been in contact with alot of pregnant women so wasnt sure if this happened elsewhere!!
tis true about the maternity pay - another thing to stress out about... i can imagine the whole time im on leave they will be phoning asking when im coming back....grrr!
Like you i have no intention whatsoever to go back to working there... little do they know mwahaha - its not mean its the way they treat us!! i will probably look for a job closer to home too and that will be my excuse!!
I seriously cannot believe what your MD said!!!! words cant express how id feel if that gets said to me...id so probably just walk out!!!
What a tool!! how have they been with you know?! i think im leaving it a bit late lol but who cares, everyone at work probably knows and so do they as they keep making snide comments... dicks! gets me wound up thinking about it!!!!!!!

 

[nikki87]

p.s how did you get the little thing going across the bottom of your posts...i cant seem to make mine work!!! xx

 

[Kerrykins]

Hiya Nikki,

One thing I did pick up on was that you said they will probably call you through your maternity asking when you will be coming back. Make sure you read up on everything (direct.gov is good for this) as they are not actually allowed to do that. Again, they can be clever and call and pretend they are just asking how you are etc (my employers did that to me......a lot, when I was off sick with stress a couple of years ago) but just be careful how you answer.............

I'm just trying to think of all the positives whilst I'm at work at the moment, not a lot about actually being here but I can start my countdown for getting out of here etc.

My MD has been OK since but I think that's because he has stuck his head in the sand and is pretending nothing's happening - he hasn't mentioned it once since that first meeting. Ah sod him, I don't want to talk to him about it anyway - tee hee.

Just want to get my scan out of the way (which I will finally be having next week!) so that I can tell everyone else at work - might actually get some support then, but then again....................

Oh and re the ticker at the bottom. Sorry but I had loads of trouble sorting it and then it was just there so I have no idea how I did it successfully - sorry.

K xxx

PS If you ever want a rant about work, I am pretty good at it (tee hee) so feel free to PM me x

 

[BevG]

ooh i know this feeling well my ex manager has just gone off on mat leave. since there have been 4 women in my work that have gone off on mat leave in the last 12 months i got told on many occasions not to get pregnant, by the regional manager and by my now ex manager who was preg at the time. kinds pissed me off. the ex manager got preg by total accident with a guy shed been with for a few months and there she was telling me not to when ive wanted kids n my own lil family since i was 18! told work at the weekend and regional manager called me today and said grats, what did i say last time i saw u, dont get preg.... and we need to do a risk assesment. i said yeah u and the ex manager said that a lot, i just ignored u. lol
no way is it fair but they think theyre jokeing as they know they cant actually stop you.

 

[littlemuffin]

I've got to go to my boss in the next 30 minutes and tell her I need jobs taking off me, in the last week they have asked me to stock a freezer (I'm a receptionist, for a very high profile company). And I've got to tell her icant do it. I don't want to mention the baby, as I'm not far enough, but I will if they push me about it.