Why doesn't he understand?

[midnightrose25]

We tried so hard for this baby and "we" re so excited, yet i'm so early it's not really visible, i just feel awful lmao! but anyway... i am looking for pics of the baby, reading up on it, watching videos.. but whilst he'll have a brief look.. he's just not interested. It makes me want to cry right now. Don't get me wrong, he's so supportive and i couldn't ask for a better partner, but he just said yeah its interesting but he doesn't wanna look at it EVERY night. I said to him i don't! He swears i do i'm just excited and want to know whats happening in my body.. is that so bad?

 

[JJ Mum]

Ahh hun don't worry mine was like this every time , they just cant see it yet, they hear you talking about it , but as it's not tangable for them, it's like your still not really pregnant yet.

Wait till your tum gets going about halfway and they can feel the movments , they can start believing that something is real in there and he will come more on board.

Thats why ~I love this forum, OH won't put up with me ranting about babies all night, every night, and all you ladies do, so get your baby fix with us lot for now

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

I agree with ^^for one thing men dont have the physical or emotional connection YET and it is hard for them to understand whats going on - plus, hormones are flying around like never before so when you take it all into consideration you dont need to worry really. My OH was exactly like this first time around but this time its different because he knows whats coming!

 

[Sam's Mum]

I totally agree with the others... it's so hard for it to feel real for the men at first and my husband was the same until he started feeling kicks, but even then he didn't seem to have the same excitement as I did until they were born - and he couldn't be a better dad

 

[Yodabo]

Mine is exactly the same! With my 2nd son ( he isn't the father of my first) he didn't get excited till I had the scan. This time round he's the same, he thinks I go on about it all the time.. I swear I don't, I mean it's the reason i joined this forum was so I wouldn't pester him and I could talk about it to you lovely woman about it all the time! Lol

Men find it hard, they don't feel what we are feeling, my hubs doesn't really believe I'm pregnant till I have my scan and see it for himself...i'm giving him time, he'll get excited soon enough!

 

[twinkle84]

My hubby is great, he always asks how im feeling and we have a book that he does look at occasionally and ask what its doing and what it will look at, but not all the time. He also asks silly questions like 'is it kicking yet?' haha. He talks to it and I tell him it cant hear him yet. But hes like this when HE wants to be. Last night we were watching something and i was talking about the baby and he said 'are we talking or watching this?' so he does have his moments. I honestly think i was worse when trying for a baby. Im lucky because my mum is really interested in everything, so i always have someone to talk to. So as long as you can talk to someone and share the excitment (and theres always us lot), I think its quite nice that at the moment its a special time for us mums and our babies. Chin up xx

 

[rakrak]

you're definately not alone hun!
mine was excited when we got the bfn but now he doesn't feel like it's totally real as he can't se or feel anything himself. He enjoyed the first scan as he got to see it for real but otherwise he didn't really feel like his life was any different. The one thing he does look forward to is when my pregnancy ticker changes. He always makes me log on to the site on a Friday and reply to a thread so he can see how the baby has changed...could be worth a try with your fella hun xxx

 

[PippaJ]

I agree totally. Men don't feel the emotions that we do with it all, it's defo a woman thing. My partner was the same, every night I had my head in a book and would read out stuff to him and show him pics and he never seemed that interested and told me he didn't need to talk about it all the time (where as I did) and I remember getting upset. He ended up crying at our first scan, cried when we found out it was a girl, cried at the birth and is the best Dad ever so it doesn't mean anything, they just don't want it hear it 24/7 thats all.

That's why sites like this are great, women always understand so you can chat to like minded people on here all you like

 

[megsmeadow]

Yeah mine too! He has bursts of excitement, at the scan, feeling the kicks and stuff but I think he does get a bit overloaded with baby chat. He'll occassionally come out with something that'll surprise me, or ask a questions I didn't think he'd be thinking about. Most of the time he doesn't raise it at all. In fact his best mate was more interested for the first few months, that was odd!

 

[amyjayne77]

Same here. Whilst my hubby is so sweet and sensitive, I can see him thinking "hre she goes again" whenever I talk about baby.

I got really upset a few weeks ago when he said he felt "pressured" whenever I asked him to feel if he could feel baby kicking as he never could. He knows better now though lol!!

 

[mrsH2009]

My hubbie wasn't Intrested at first but once he saw the scan he absorbed every bit of info he could at the mo he's proberly a little scared

 

[karenandbump]

My hubby is just the same and was like it until the scan in our first pregnancy and will be the same this time. It doesn't mean they don't care - it's just all in the abstract for them until they can see it xxx