Why do people always think the worst..

[Scarlet06]

Ive seen my gran a few times since i found out i was pregnant and she seemed really happy, but i found out yesterday shes been round to my other grans saying im being stupid...

She says im not in a stable relationship, (ive been with him 2 years) Im still living at home ( im moving out after christmas) and he mite leave me and il end up stuck at home a single parent mum.

Its got me really down why does she have to put a downer on things im so happy and my LO means the world to me. It's not like i had a one nite stand and ended up pregnant ive been with my OH for two years and were really happy and i think we'll make great parents.

 

[gingerpig]

I think when you're pregnant you really have to learn to IGNORE your family lol. Seems strange but for the first 3 months my mum talked about nothing miscarriages, and recently I found out my cousin was upset because I hadn't told her I was pregnant (despite the fact she hadn't told me that she is either lol) and that my aunt (other side of the family, great to get it from both sides lol) is secretly worried that my child will get eczema like me, as obviously it's life would be blighted. She would much rather it got asthma as at least you can't see that.... Hmmmmm yes but I have both, and I know asthma can kill you a lot quicker than eczema can if it's uncontrolled, so personally I know which I feel is the more manageable condition.... If they weren't my family I would be able to ignore them a lot more, but as they are I've had to find some coping strategies.

1) when it really winds me up, I just think, "mad as a box of frogs to think like that". This always makes me laugh, and stops me from feeling so grumpy which is a good thing!

2) when I am calmer I then think "although I don't agree I see for them, that this is their way of being concerned about the little one, and although I don't like it, at least they do care".

3) I then think "thank fook for the fact that this is their opinion and it doesn't really have any baring on me or the way I will bring my child into the world! " I genuinely feel very lucky that the main person I will be making decisions about my baby with is it's father, who is the most sane, well-balanced person I know.

4) If it gets really bad, I simply point out to them that although that is their opinion and they are welcome to it, I don't share it so could they stop going on about it. I don't angry, I just refuse to engage in that kind of conversation - works a treat.

Good luck, and I'm sure you will make wonderful parents

 

[amy]

my nan is the same, saying that i cant do anything right in her eyes, this is me 3rd baby as well and im married and she still thinks im silly at the end of the day i think they are just worried about us,and its a different generation. still annoying though! as long as your happy hun

 

[kirlykird]

 

[x-kirsty-x]

OH's parents are about 40, been together since they were about 18 and have 4 kids already, when she fell pregnant again earlier this year she waited til she was about 5 months before she told her mum and dad cos she knew they wouldn't be happy and think she was silly!

It never stops, even when you're older! They're probably just worried about you but its coming across the wrong way. Ignore it, at the end of the day its you and OH who know best and can prove that you'll make great parents!

My mum thought I wasn't going to manage when I had my first and during the first few months we hardly spoke, it was heartbreaking cos I really needed her. With time she got used to the idea and when Josh was born she couldnt thank me enough for giving her a grandson