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Why did you quit breastfeeding?
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kelsey said:
Never did you fail them, you tried and did your very best. Breastfeeding is a great thing to do for your child but it is not the be all and end all - it does not make a great mum, there is so much more than that.
I think it was a lot easier for Isaac and I to stop as I only partially BF him, but before him arriving I did intend to stop at 6months, and by 6months time he was down to one night BF and so it was easy to drop and stop, we were both happy with it which is what mattered most 
I stopped because I am going back to work and it just isnt practical or feasible to express. I wouldnt get enough out!
I went down to 2 breastfeeds a day hoping that I could carry that on but once I started weaning (and I had to as Holly suddenly wouldnt go any longer than an hour or so without wanting feeding again) she seemed to wean herself off the boob.
I wish I could have b/f longer and if I could have afforded more time off work I would have done.
I went down to 2 breastfeeds a day hoping that I could carry that on but once I started weaning (and I had to as Holly suddenly wouldnt go any longer than an hour or so without wanting feeding again) she seemed to wean herself off the boob.
I wish I could have b/f longer and if I could have afforded more time off work I would have done.
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I stopped for a few reasons....
I've got flat nipples and Jacob had real difficulty latching on. When he did get on he broke away again within a minute! We were both getting frustrated, Jacob was getting hungry and I started to dread each attempt to feed
I remained on the delivery suite for 24 hours after his birth due to BP problems, the MW's there were brilliant, they tried to help me get him on the breast and really encouraged me but I just found the whole thing so upsetting I was crying all the time and really unhappy
In the end I just felt so cr@p and sore that I decided to put him on formula and a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders! We were both so much happier
It was a good job I made the decision as when I was moved to the post natal ward the MW's there didn't even have time to get me some water never mind help get my son latch on to the breast
It was awful!
I've since found out about nipple shields, maybe they would have helped
I personally don't think I will try BF again if I have another baby, well that's how I feel at the moment anyway!
I've got flat nipples and Jacob had real difficulty latching on. When he did get on he broke away again within a minute! We were both getting frustrated, Jacob was getting hungry and I started to dread each attempt to feed
I remained on the delivery suite for 24 hours after his birth due to BP problems, the MW's there were brilliant, they tried to help me get him on the breast and really encouraged me but I just found the whole thing so upsetting I was crying all the time and really unhappy
In the end I just felt so cr@p and sore that I decided to put him on formula and a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders! We were both so much happier
It was a good job I made the decision as when I was moved to the post natal ward the MW's there didn't even have time to get me some water never mind help get my son latch on to the breast
It was awful! I've since found out about nipple shields, maybe they would have helped
I personally don't think I will try BF again if I have another baby, well that's how I feel at the moment anyway!Suzie and Faith
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Full of hope! said:I stopped for a few reasons....
I've got flat nipples and Jacob had real difficulty latching on. When he did get on he broke away again within a minute! We were both getting frustrated, Jacob was getting hungry and I started to dread each attempt to feed
I remained on the delivery suite for 24 hours after his birth due to BP problems, the MW's there were brilliant, they tried to help me get him on the breast and really encouraged me but I just found the whole thing so upsetting I was crying all the time and really unhappy
In the end I just felt so cr@p and sore that I decided to put him on formula and a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders! We were both so much happier
It was a good job I made the decision as when I was moved to the post natal ward the MW's there didn't even have time to get me some water never mind help get my son latch on to the breast
I've since found out about nipple shields, maybe they would have helped
!!!!!! I thought i was the only flat-nippled person out there! I hadn't even realised that I had flat nipples until i thought about it and looked at the pics of other people breastfeeding (in my leaflets).
I am pumping away every time she wants a feed (so I'm a feed ahead with expressed milk, and top up with formula if i need) and this has helped bring my nipples out a bit but not enough. I have nipple shields and am trying them.
If it doesn't work I'm not going to beat myself up about it. xxx
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I will say other as I am still breast feeding but with some top up formula, but would agree no support in hospital I have even had no support from family and every one things that I should have stopped by now as he is 5 months and that I am only feeding for my own sake 
nicola0531 said:
ridiculous!! Babies gain incredible benefit from breast milk right up to 2 years! I intend to breastfeed Asher until he's around a year old and then wean him. But that's only cause I don't want a baby running up to me and getting my boob out! Think he'll be big enough by then! But I'm still breastfeeding at 9 months for HIM, not me! How dare they tell you you'er doing it for selfish reasons!. You're doing brilliantly.
K.xx
I put medical, but in all honesty I think that was definately the wrong one to choose. I was fine at the beginning, and then my mood started to dip, she got oral thrush and I got it on my nipples.
So the thrush thing was the reason I gave to everyone, but I guess the real reason was bonding. Difficult pregnancy, a long, painful labour which ended in intervention, I refused to hold her at first then they had to take her away to give her oxygen, nearly sent her to SCBU and was told I couldn't go with her..I just felt I failed her really, I felt down before she was born, kept leaking her fluid (even though she was fine without so much), I couldn't push her out myself and when she did come out I didn't hold her, she was being comforted by sucking the midwifes finger..I didn't feel like she needed me and as a result I couldn't bond and it really changed my attitude towards breastfeeding.
So the thrush thing was the reason I gave to everyone, but I guess the real reason was bonding. Difficult pregnancy, a long, painful labour which ended in intervention, I refused to hold her at first then they had to take her away to give her oxygen, nearly sent her to SCBU and was told I couldn't go with her..I just felt I failed her really, I felt down before she was born, kept leaking her fluid (even though she was fine without so much), I couldn't push her out myself and when she did come out I didn't hold her, she was being comforted by sucking the midwifes finger..I didn't feel like she needed me and as a result I couldn't bond and it really changed my attitude towards breastfeeding.
Grace self weaned about 10 months - I would have liked to carry on feeding for a bit longer but madam decided she had had enough.
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Re- starting to bf. I had a dreadful time in hospital and nearly gave up. I had an emergancy c-section and bf Grace straight away. After that I just 'felt' that Grace wasn't getting enough milk and seemed really unsettled. Several MW told me that I was being silly and that she was feeing fine. But I kept watching other mums in the ward breast feeding and their little ones seemed so much more settled.
Eventually after 2 days of me complaining they agreed with me and said that if things didn't improve they wouldn't let me discharge and that Grace would have to go on formula. They then spent ages trying to get Grace to latch on but it just wasn't happening. Eventually we had a change of nurses and I then spent the next 12 hours saying how welll she was doing with BF -
The next day the breast feeding specialist came to see me and weighed Grace and couldn't believe how much weight she had lost - she went from 8.14 to 7.2 - she then watched me bf Grace and said that she definately had problems latching on and that perhaps I should consider fomula !!! I couldn't believe that a BF specilaist would say that to me......... anyway, I phoned my friend who is a mw but lives in another town - she came straight over - she had Grace latched on properly, and feeding within about 5 minutes. She taught me different posiitons to put Grace in and how to listen for her swallowing the milk so that I knew she was feeding, plus heaps more
from that moment on Grace put on weight in leaps and bounds
I think it is dreadful that there isn't enough support for mums who want to bf - I know that they made me feel like I was neglecting Grace instead of understanding that I thought bf was the best for her and that I wanted us both to succeed
- Sorry - a bit long winded
Re- starting to bf. I had a dreadful time in hospital and nearly gave up. I had an emergancy c-section and bf Grace straight away. After that I just 'felt' that Grace wasn't getting enough milk and seemed really unsettled. Several MW told me that I was being silly and that she was feeing fine. But I kept watching other mums in the ward breast feeding and their little ones seemed so much more settled.
Eventually after 2 days of me complaining they agreed with me and said that if things didn't improve they wouldn't let me discharge and that Grace would have to go on formula. They then spent ages trying to get Grace to latch on but it just wasn't happening. Eventually we had a change of nurses and I then spent the next 12 hours saying how welll she was doing with BF -
The next day the breast feeding specialist came to see me and weighed Grace and couldn't believe how much weight she had lost - she went from 8.14 to 7.2 - she then watched me bf Grace and said that she definately had problems latching on and that perhaps I should consider fomula !!!
I couldn't believe that a BF specilaist would say that to me......... anyway, I phoned my friend who is a mw but lives in another town - she came straight over - she had Grace latched on properly, and feeding within about 5 minutes. She taught me different posiitons to put Grace in and how to listen for her swallowing the milk so that I knew she was feeding, plus heaps morefrom that moment on Grace put on weight in leaps and bounds
I think it is dreadful that there isn't enough support for mums who want to bf - I know that they made me feel like I was neglecting Grace instead of understanding that I thought bf was the best for her and that I wanted us both to succeed
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Maia just gave up one morning at 11 weeks!
She had been combination feed up until then but apparently decided the bottle was easier. I persisted trying for a while but she just screamed and screamed! I continued expressing until she was 15 weeks when I realised I was just punishing myself and let it go!
She had been combination feed up until then but apparently decided the bottle was easier. I persisted trying for a while but she just screamed and screamed! I continued expressing until she was 15 weeks when I realised I was just punishing myself and let it go!
Fiona said:
That's how I was made to feel too by the midwives. Even indirectly by my mother. She's a loving, caring woman and her support means everything to me. But my sister's baby was re-admitted because of weight loss after my sister was determined to b/f, and my mum was wary when Stanley began to struggle. When he went onto formula her relief was obvious.
I understimated how the birth would take it's toll. I felt I had a rough time, I was a crap example of woman as I found it so tough, and to be crap at something else like feeding my baby was more than I could cope with. I felt everyone was disappointed in me and worried for Stanley's welfare.
