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why are In Laws so flippin' irritating?!?!?!?!
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Hun you shold have just said at 4.30 really dorry but she is goig to sleep now, god job your only round the corner isnt it, cme round tomorrow a bit earlier. However I know it can be hard with thei inlaws!
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for yo and kudos fr not punching them.......
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for yo and kudos fr not punching them.......jennywren said:Hun you shold have just said at 4.30 really dorry but she is goig to sleep now, god job your only round the corner isnt it, cme round tomorrow a bit earlier. However I know it can be hard with thei inlaws!
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I know..i shouldve just told them to leave it, but his mum has a fantastic habbit of crying whenever we do anything she doesnt like
She even pretended to faint once because OH actually stood up to her for a change.... I try and be polite and i didnt mind them coming over, but they get really arsey if they come over and she's asleep (like its my fault 
) and they only want to stay if they can hold her the entire time theyre here. I (stupidly) thought that if i explained how important her routine is and what time she sleeps and stuff that they might actually take some notice, and that maybe they'd be happy to hold her for 15 minutes then just watch her while she sleeps....wrongo!sazzylou said:I know..i shouldve just told them to leave it, but his mum has a fantastic habbit of crying whenever we do anything she doesnt like
Jesus what a player...........
sorry I just cant imagine a ''mum'' doing that lol - you should have pretended to faint when they came round and said yobest go as she swas clearly rubbing off on you!Sandi4Paul
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i think parents in law sing a contract just before the wedding to beocme the most annoying people they can be.
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why do they have to be so bloody annoying? you have my sympathy.
i was with the in-laws at the weekend and connor was being grizzly. he kept doing little cries and the family were passing him round between them. i kept saying, "i think he needs a nappy change" (he hates wet nappies) but got "oh well i can't smell anything" back
then when SIL handed him back to me and i got up to change his nappy, MIL was straight up to me going "oh let me have him, let me have him".but none of them wanted to change his nappy. they just wanted to ignore the fact that he needed changing, ignore me asking for him back so that i could change him, and ignore connor's cries!!
A certain in-law of mine had an annoying habit of taking the baby off you the minute you were in the house. They seem to get so caught in in their enjoyment of their grandchild that they forget the baby is someone's child!
Becky said:
you've just described my FIL!
They went on their hols when Izzie was 2 weeks old...when they came back they popped round to visit...FIL comes in and without a word to me grabs Izzie off my lap! He proceeds to sit there doing his annoying whistling-in-her-face thing and totally ignores me..i mean not a single word. Not even "hello, how are you" ...it was sooooo awkward and horrible. At least MIL makes an effort at small talk (even though she doesnt really care, she's just here for the baby)
I wouldnt get so wound up about petty things but they make me feel like i was just the incubator for their grandchild and now im not pregnant they make no effort with me whatsoever and they completely ignore what i tell them with regard to Izzies routine etc
It makes me sad cos they are still OH's parents and it must be crap for him when i slag them off 
(i try not to..) and then we argue about it Plus his mums wanting to loko after Izzie and i just dont trust them enough with her...thats gonna start to cause yet more friction no doubt...It is hard when they pee you off so much but are still your OH's parents. Thankfully my OH understands just how annoying my MIL can be, although it has taken many years for him to see the light!
I don't know if there is a solution, I'm worried about it all this time around and not sure how I'll handle things, although I know about the incubator thing, when my MIL came to the hospital it wasn't to see me, she came into the room, walked over to the baby, picked her up and stood on the other side of the room to me holding my baby. I don't think she said more than the basic pleasantries the whole time she was there! It was made worse by the fact I was stuck in the bloody bed from the c-section.
I know this time I'll be sure that I'm holding baby when MIL comes to visit!
I've been with OH 8 years now and still have no solution, only coping tactics!
I don't know if there is a solution, I'm worried about it all this time around and not sure how I'll handle things, although I know about the incubator thing, when my MIL came to the hospital it wasn't to see me, she came into the room, walked over to the baby, picked her up and stood on the other side of the room to me holding my baby. I don't think she said more than the basic pleasantries the whole time she was there! It was made worse by the fact I was stuck in the bloody bed from the c-section.
I know this time I'll be sure that I'm holding baby when MIL comes to visit!
I've been with OH 8 years now and still have no solution, only coping tactics!
Becky said:
I had the same thing when i had Beth... I learned though, lol, told the inlaws that i wasnt having any visitors at the hospital cos i found it too stressful the first time!! She was pretty peed off, but it did the trick
Ive been a lot more assertive this time. Like she wanted to bring a load of her random mates round to see Izzie when she was about 5 days old, when i said no (as you would, id just had a baby and i hardly know these people!!...it was to show off HER granchild though) she got the right hump and snapped "oh well you'll have to come to us then" UGH Anyway, I put my foot down about it and she eventually astopped moaning about it!I dont feel like i should butt heads with them all the time though. If i say no to something or tell them a way i want something done or whateve i feel its totally unnecessary to have to defend the way i am about my baby. Can't i just tell them something and them say "ok fair enough!".
Crikey, look at all my rantings...i dont half moan a lot!!
sazzylou said:Can't i just tell them something and them say "ok fair enough!".
Crikey, look at all my rantings...i dont half moan a lot!!
You summed it up completely! The number of times I've had to insist that something be done my way (she doesn't think me and OH discuss these things so she thinks its my decision all the time
) but to be fair once I've put my foot down she's rarely gone against it, I just wish it wasn't a battle all the time or a case of me having to justify why we're doing something a certain way.Don't worry about moaning, I've always got something to say about my MIL - as you can probably tell, over the time I've been with my OH she's upset and offended me in nearly everyway lol!! I gave up worrying about it a long time ago and instead just have a ritual moan every so often to clear it out of my system!
