When should I tell people????

[suz24]

Hi
I found out I was pregnant last week. I thought I was only 5 weeks gone. I had a little bleeding and was sent for a scan 3 days ago. Turns out everything is OK and I'm actually about 11 weeks gone. I don't have my first official midwife appt until next week.

Me and my hubby are desperate to tell people (only parents and close friend know at the moment) but I'm anxious incase something happens and I've gotten everyone's hopes up.

What should I do?

 

[*sara*]

Its up to you when you tell people....when you feel ready.
We told everyone as soon as i found out but everyones different

 

[hellie123]

We told our parents and sisters about two weeks after finding out but no one else until after the 12 week scan. As you so close I would wait til after you've had your scan then not only can you tell them the good news you can show them a picture of your baby!! (or babies!!)

 

[suz24]

I got a scan picture the other day. Its so cute. I still get little aches and pains which i know could just be growing pains but still paranoid that something will go wrong.

 

[Becky]

Do it when you're ready. I told friends and family really early on but waited till about 13 weeks to tell work. It really depends on what you and your OH think.

Oh and Congrats on your pregnancy!!

 

[Carley1985]

We told both our parents and brother and sisters a week after we found out at the end of my sons 2nd birthday party and told them not to tell anyone, except my mum was so exited that she didn't hear the 'don't tell anyone' bit! Next thing i know i have a friend who i haven't seen for aaaaages congratulating me on facebook (so everybody could see!), my step-nan told her!! My mum is a big blabber mouth

 

[Jaidy]

Do it when your ready hun! Congrats to you!!

 

[Tiny Sue]

Hey hun

Congrats on getting through all the first trimester without even knowing, it must feel so brilliant!

The accepted wisdom is not to tell anyone till about 12 or 14 weeks when there is less risk of miscarriage. With my first pregnancy I told everyone as soon as I knew. With the second I did the same but had a miscarriage at 6 weeks.

With this pregnancy (heading into week 6 soon) we have told - my sister, my SIL who lives next door and knew everything about our fertility issues etc - OH Mom and Dad. I am not telling my Dad because that would be the same as telling the Daily Mail! I told my boss at work cos I work in a school and I'm not supposed to get hit in the tum with a ball or stuff just so he knows why I'm avoiding that kind of activity and treating myself like an egg.

I am not telling anyone else till I get to 12 weeks - if I get that far. It's just too hard to untell them if something happens.

BUT in your situation I would say that you should wait till your scan and then make a big announcement!

Sue

 

[Anna23]

ohhh i'd say tell people when you feel comfortable telling everyone

 

[minxie]

we told close family (parents and siblings) as soon as we found out but reminded them not to spread the word until we have our first scan and all is ok. I can't keep something so big quiet to myself! lol

 

[poppyangel]

We only found out yesterday, I am five and a half weeks I think and we are planning on telling no one until week 12 except my Mum. I have a big mouth though, dont know how I will keep quiet.......................

 

[Dustydog]

Hi Hun, my advice is to tell people when you feel comfortable and ready. The normal rule is to wait for the first 12 weeks to pass and your scan so you can show people ur lil bubs! I have told my Mum and sisters but planning to tell everyone else after my scan which is in 2 weeks when i will be 13 weeks by then. However some of my friends have worked out that something is different as I am working on the ground and not flying so will have to tell the suspicious ones. most of my collegues at work know as they see i am in a maternity uniform so cant even deny it! if you want to chat PM me as we are around the same stage, im due on the 9th May what about you? Dusty x

 

[meandthebump]

I told my parents at 6 weeks. Within the hour OH parents, all Grandparents, brothers and sisters knew. Then came congratulations from cousins - the news spread very fast. I wasn't planning on telling people but i can't help it. i am telling my friends as i see them as they would be suspicious of my not drinking anyway. I told a girl at work today as i am finding it hard to hide the fact that i spent the first couple of hours of the day running to the toilet! My job involves some physical work so i am going to have to tell my boss as I'll need to become more office based.

Well done all you secret keepers! I can't help myself!

 

[suz24]

Thanks all.
I had my midwife appt last week and she said cause my scan that i got at 11 weeks was Ok then it was Ok to tell people as by the time my next scan appt comes in it may be another 4-5 weeks (and I can't keep it secret for that long).
Anyway - all are pleased and I've been feeling well so fingers crossed all is OK.
Chat soon with the next development.
S x