When did you leave your baby?

[Wishing84]

Just wondering when you guys left your little ones overnight? Only thinking with my mum. Currently breast feeding but trying to wean as struggling x

 

[caseysmummy11]

My son was 5 months old when he stayed away overnight, however we don't really go out so it was for my sisters wedding, possibly would have left him before but like I say we're home birds so didn't need to. It depends on if you feel ready too really hun. There's no right or wrong age really hun xxx

 

[Wishing84]

We have a leaving do at the end of July. He will be 9 weeks. My mum is great with him and I would feel happy leaving him with her just feel like a bad mum leaving him that early x

 

[Mrs M]

Everyone is different. I know people who have 5 year olds who have never stayed out. Me though, dd stayed at nanas at 5 months, and ds at 4 months. I forced myself to leave dd as I knew I was getting clingy with her lol. Not they stay out approx. once a month, maybe 6 weeks and they love it.

 

[caseysmummy11]

Your not a bad mum for doing that at all hun. If my sisters wedding would have been when my son was 9 weeks I would have let him stay away for the night hun. Xxx

 

[juliekim0908]

2 weeks old, with my mum. It's difficult, and we all need a break. I cried when we left. But the full night sleep was appreciated.
it was only 1 night. You won't be a bad mum for doing it or even thinking about it =) If you feel comfortable with your mum looking after her then go for it.

I left a list of approx. feeding times with my mum and just got her to txt me every now and again until he ahd fallen asleep for the night. x

 

[El1en]

My oh and I had our first date night tonight (baby 4 weeks), my mum picked baby up at 4.30 and had her until 10. She suggested having her over night but it was too soon for me, however we have a wedding party in 3 weeks and she is having her over night then

 

[Kiagirl]

Lucie was 3 weeks, my OH had to go to hosp for an op and be there for 8am and mums is half an hr from hosp in the wrong direction so she offered to make it easier. It was hard but a welcome rest. She's stayed out one night a week since and it's fab! I get all the jobs done and a chance to wash her bedding etc x

 

[littlemonkey]

I first left my eldest when he was three months when OH and I went to a wedding. He was with my parents. I didn't have him stay out overnight until he was about a year. We've not had a huge need to leave him overnight to be honest cos I'm not a massive drinker and my parents are always happy to come to ours to watch the boys if we go out for an evening.

I hated leaving my eldest to begin with but now I'm used to it, I don't mind. With my youngest I'm already thinking about leaving him so OH and I could get out on a date and he's five weeks old. It's definitely easier the earlier you leave them, at this age they don't mind who has them as long as they're fed, changed and cuddled. The older they get the more aware they become of being left and it can be difficult if it's not something they're used to. My eldest loves having his granny and grampa look after him now.

 

[Rooster30]

I think my son was 9 days old. I suffered with baby Blues and subsequently PND. He had super bad colic and I was desperate. As a result though, he got a great, amazing bond with MIL.

I BF my daughter so can't envision leaving her overnight anytime soon - not until she's fully on bottles anyway. I did leave her for the first time though (5 hours) with MIL last night and was almost crying when I left, but it's good for them and you to have a bit of time apart from you.

 

[CARNAT22]

It's very subjecive and as you'll see there will be a variety of answers.

I've never left James overnight (nor Bee). The need has never arisen? We have people close enour who are happy to babysit at our house and to be honest we don't go out all that much.

I'd have no qualms about leaving James now - in fact if anyone wants him for a week then let me know ha ha. Bee is exclusively breast fed and refuses expressed milk in a bottle so she would be difficult to leave. I want to go out for my birthday soon (with OH) and I'm trying to get her to at least take a little milk from a bottle.

OP you do whatever you feel comfortable with. There is no right or wrong answer.

X

 

[Ella1979]

The only time I've left either of mine overnight is when I had to be readmitted to hospital after my son's birth. We've had my parents look after them in the evening to go out for a meal on one occasion, but that's it. I wouldn't say no now that they're older, but no one's ever offered and I'd never ask.

 

[northerngirl]

I think felix was 4 weeks old when he stayed with my mum overnight the first time, same as others in that I was struggling massively and needed to catch up on sleep, just do whatever feels right for you! xo

 

[TTT]

I've never left my lo, mostly because he's bf and has a suspected cows milk allergy so Hhave hadto stop bottles until I get the hang of expressing, but really I'm only comfortable with him being with my husband if I'm not there. Mt husband has had him with me not around between feeds a few times.

My parents are involved a lot and lo is more settled with other people if they are at our house so if I did decide to leave him they would have to baby sit at our house.