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What if my body doesn't do it?
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Pinkz you hit the nail on the head. My DH was amazing last night, I didn't wake him but he woke up as I was up and down to the loo and quietly grunting in pain. He sat on the floor in the bathroom holding my hand as I sat there crying and passing clots. Even though he was there and being fantastic, I still felt so alone. Like I was the only one in the world going through it. I also cried as I said to DH if I was full term I would be surrounded by midwives and doctors to help me out offering all the pain relief under the sun, but because my baby had died, your sent home to deal with it ALONE!
Maybe it was the hormones talking but at that moment it felt so wrong.
Feeling a lot better today. Dreading what tonight brings. Thank you ladies, along with DH you have been my rock through this.
Maybe it was the hormones talking but at that moment it felt so wrong.
Feeling a lot better today. Dreading what tonight brings. Thank you ladies, along with DH you have been my rock through this.
I think a lot of it is hormones. I know people don't really know what to say and I understand when they are saying these things but because it wasn't a living breathing baby. There had been no scan pics. It's just like "these things happen" but to me... my baby died! I'm heartbroken and grieving because I've lost someone close to me. Even the nurse in the EPU said "well do u have kids..." no! As if having a child already would have made it any better.
I'm a bit further down the line than you and I can tell you it does get easier. Just hoping to stop bleeding and for this stupid pointless hormone to leave my body so I can try again!
In a way I'm just taking it as a positive I got pregnant and I was unsure about children but this has made me certain this is what I want.
I'm a bit further down the line than you and I can tell you it does get easier. Just hoping to stop bleeding and for this stupid pointless hormone to leave my body so I can try again!
In a way I'm just taking it as a positive I got pregnant and I was unsure about children but this has made me certain this is what I want.
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Pinkz - wondering how you got on at the hospital today? Hope it all went well.
At the moment Im a ball of emotion, I want to scream, cry and hit out. I feel like a pressure cooker of sadness and anger. I spendon't every evening crying. I'm OK during the day rushing around with the girls and keeping busy. But when I'm alone it all comes flooding out. Hope you are all well. Xx
At the moment Im a ball of emotion, I want to scream, cry and hit out. I feel like a pressure cooker of sadness and anger. I spendon't every evening crying. I'm OK during the day rushing around with the girls and keeping busy. But when I'm alone it all comes flooding out. Hope you are all well. Xx
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So sorry love87, that's exactly how I felt when I had my mc as well. I couldn't believe there was no aftercare really. But there are charities etc you can go to. Some of them even have phone lines if you want to speak to someone.
I know it's so so hard at the moment but I promise that it won't hurt this much forever. Just do whatever you need to do, I would have a little cry a night for a good couple of months after. Strangely I felt much better after my due date passed and it felt like I could move on. it's so personal but I'd honestly say this is the worst bit (the bleeding just adds insult to injury) and it sounds like you're nearly through it xx
I know it's so so hard at the moment but I promise that it won't hurt this much forever. Just do whatever you need to do, I would have a little cry a night for a good couple of months after. Strangely I felt much better after my due date passed and it felt like I could move on. it's so personal but I'd honestly say this is the worst bit (the bleeding just adds insult to injury) and it sounds like you're nearly through it xx
As rubbish as can be really... It's only halved so need to go back. Again. Been told to expect more bleeding. At this moment it's like wow my body can't even miscarry properly...
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Oh no pinkz, thinking of you. hopefully you will have better news next time.
I have ultrasound at 3pm today. Hoping I passed everything because to through all that and then have to have a d&c would be horrible. Will update later when I have more news. Xxx
hopefully you will have better news next time. I have ultrasound at 3pm today. Hoping I passed everything because to through all that and then have to have a d&c would be horrible. Will update later when I have more news. Xxx
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Pinkz so sorry for your loss too. I felt exactly the same about my miscarriage, felt like my body was betraying me and I must have done something awful to suffer so much. I really hope it is over soon for you so you can grief properly and try again. Getting passed the due date was my healing time too, but I still remember and think about my angel baby on every due date and the day the mc started properly.
Love, gutted there is still a tiny bit remaining, so so similar to me. The doctors I saw wanted to see if I would pass it myself but my body clung on to it and I was eventually begging for the erpc. I was so bitter that I had to go through the horrendous mc and then still have the op, just wished things could have been so different. I hope they give you an option you are happy with xxx
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Love, gutted there is still a tiny bit remaining, so so similar to me. The doctors I saw wanted to see if I would pass it myself but my body clung on to it and I was eventually begging for the erpc. I was so bitter that I had to go through the horrendous mc and then still have the op, just wished things could have been so different. I hope they give you an option you are happy with xxx
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I was told there is one tiny clot there but that it will pass. Miscarraige was deemed complete and I don't need to return unless I start to feel ill or cramping and heavy bleeding return. So good news after a horrific week. It doesn't take away the grief or the emotional roller coaster I'm on at the moment but at least I know it's over. Xx
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Yes they did say take a pregnancy test in 10 days but they are very happy that everything is gone.
I did get very angry today. Sitting in the waiting room while women came out smiling with their scan pictures, and my heart broke bup instead of crying I got angry. I just sat there feeling anger toward my husband, towards the doctors, nurses, just everyone in general.
The doctor was so lovely and I felt much better leaving after speaking with her. She re-confirmed that it wasn't our faults and that there was nothing that would change it. She was just so lovely and softened my anger.
I personally want to thank you ladies for helping me through this hard time. I dread to think what would have been if I didn't have you all to vent to. Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. I will never forget how you were there for me. Xxxx
I did get very angry today. Sitting in the waiting room while women came out smiling with their scan pictures, and my heart broke bup instead of crying I got angry. I just sat there feeling anger toward my husband, towards the doctors, nurses, just everyone in general.
The doctor was so lovely and I felt much better leaving after speaking with her. She re-confirmed that it wasn't our faults and that there was nothing that would change it. She was just so lovely and softened my anger.
I personally want to thank you ladies for helping me through this hard time. I dread to think what would have been if I didn't have you all to vent to. Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart. I will never forget how you were there for me. Xxxx
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That's not good 
so sorry you had to go through that
Our epau was a little way away from the happy pregnant ladies thankfully but still someone did bring their small child (not much older than 1) with them which I thought was insensitive of them
Yes sadly there was nothing any of us could have done to stop a mc but hopefully it won't take you to long to catch again when you're ready xx
so sorry you had to go through that Our epau was a little way away from the happy pregnant ladies thankfully but still someone did bring their small child (not much older than 1) with them which I thought was insensitive of them
Yes sadly there was nothing any of us could have done to stop a mc but hopefully it won't take you to long to catch again when you're ready xx
Glad it's gone ok for you! Hopefully you can get that blank test soon then!
We had some woman in the wrong place. Had come to EPU instead of normal maternity. I thought she was overly rubbing her stomach and talking about symptoms. Me and another woman were looking at each other then she went in the room. Came out laughing because she should be in maternity... Yea get lost lol...
Hopefully that will be us soon. Sat waiting for our proper scans. 0 problems. 0 stress. Just lovely pregnancies and beautiful babies.
We had some woman in the wrong place. Had come to EPU instead of normal maternity. I thought she was overly rubbing her stomach and talking about symptoms. Me and another woman were looking at each other then she went in the room. Came out laughing because she should be in maternity... Yea get lost lol...
Hopefully that will be us soon. Sat waiting for our proper scans. 0 problems. 0 stress. Just lovely pregnancies and beautiful babies.
