Was i really ever that naive?

[Denver]

So today I got yet another BFN, and I dont know if it's just that or the fact that I now seem to be riddled with the cold but I am feeling very sorry for myself tonight, and slightly stupid!
I mean when me and the OH decided to start trying i figured that i would take about 4 months tops! and that i would NOT become that person obsessed with ovulation charts ect... and yet here we are post 4 months and all I ever seem to do is pee on fertility sticks! How could I have been so stupid to think this would be easy and why did not one tell me that it is one of the most heartbreaking processes you can ever go through!

Sorry for the rant, just feeling rubbish and sorry for myself

 

[Katkin72]

Sorry you are feeling low. You definately aren't stupid wanting to conceive easily, I'm sure most women feel the same and have the same frustrations and rollercoaster of emotions. I have been trying for just over 4 months now and I stupidly thought I would catch soon after I came off Cerazette, especially as I had read you can be super fertile after coming off the pill. Well that proved not to be the case for me! I started off trying to be chilled out but am now obsessed with POAS and charting everything I can think of lol! I know its only early days for me and there are many other women here who have been trying for much much longer. It is a difficult and emotional journey and my heart goes out to everyone TTC. I hope you feel happier and more positive soon and FX you get your BFP soon xxx

 

[tambo1976]

I couldn't agree more, no-one realises how stressful ttc can be until you actually start yourself! I feel low about it alot but I just try and keep my mind as occupied as I possibly can, my house has never been so clean lol.

Sending lots of luck and a virtual hug, hope you feel better soon xx

 

[mrsolly]

I am exactly the same. I said that I would just let nature take its course. Been trying since November and now I'm peeing on opk sticks every day! It's sooo frustrating! I think back to when I was at school and my teenage years thinking that just looking at a penis would get you pregnant!! Hope you get your BFP soon! Xx

 

[itisbabytime]

Its hard I know. Every month it gets harder and harder but the truth is only 20% of fertile couples will concieve in a month. In a year only 85% will concieve. This is even if there is absolutely nothing wrong with either of them. Don't stress too much, it will happen!! Easier said then done though!!

 

[crazycatlady]

My best friend tried for years then had 3 rounds of ivf. Now i have a gorgeous godson. However another close friend, due any day now, got her bfp 2nd month of trying, and she didn't try at the right time first time round. One friend, with 3 girls, says she just bd's every day for a month when she's TTC - and it always worked!

I have friends who have caught easily, had issues and lost babies - but like you Denver I feel a little naive now I'm 5 months in and still no bfp. I may have to take the whole thing more seriously next month if af arrives in 2 days.

The one thing I know is that it does happen, and it happens for people for whom it just seems impossible, therefore we all have hope and need to stay positive. I have become a little obsessed since joining pf, however i also feel more positive that i will get my bfp. And so will you xxx

 

[hayes]

I stupidly thought that i would fall within a few months as everyone else around me seem to so quickly but a yr later and still no bfp, but as itsbabytime has said you only have a 20% chance every month and my doc told me last month that it can take a healthy couple up to 2yrs to concieve naturally and that they would even consider anything under 2yrs as a prob he just told me to relax and not think about it!! lol which even he admited is ALOT easy said than done.

Postivity is the key tho try not to get to down just think how special your bfp will be when you get it.

Fx to all of you.

Michelle. x

 

[CARNAT22]

As someone already mentioned even a "healthy" couple only have a 20% chance of conceiving during any given cycle.

I know it's hard but perserverence and patience is key! It took me over a year and 3 miscarriages to get where I am

Best of luck

xxxxxxxx

 

[Denver]

Thanks guys
Think I was just having a down day! I suddenly came down with a cold and was feeling sorry for myself xx

 

[lizsamuel80]

OMG! This is our first month trying since our second MC and to me the BFN and the spotting has hit me almost as hard as the MCs.

I now know I'm not pregnant but last week I was walking around almost as happy as I was in Jan. Now I'm back were I was 12 weeks ago. I've never wanted anything so bad.

I really hope you have a successful month next month!

 

[mali1234]

I came off the pill 10 months ago and we had the attitude of it'll happen when it happens( quite a laid back approach!)

Well, I definately don't have that attitude now. I had my hopes raised last month. I was convinced I was pregnant as I was 7 days late. Then the witch came and got me. I was so upset.

The good thing about this forum is that everyone is in the same positon or has been there and everyone has good advice for others.

I feel a lot better about myself, I'm becoming a poas addict this month, I've bought a load of cheapies off the internet and will test everyday, day and night. I'm also trying a supplement that can help apparently. Got t o try these things haven't we!!!

Good luck!!!!

 

[Drummers_wife]

from a LTTTCer ill just say 1 thing- take every day as it comes - you have up days and very bad down days xx just be supportive to everyone who has bad days as we all have them whereever we are in our journeys xx

yesterday i had a very bad day but now im a little brighter today and life isnt so bad but next few days i might be back down again - thats what these fertility drugs have done to me (clomid) but im still thankful i have my OH and have the possibility of getting pregnent not like some women who know they can never have children xx

to all that are feeling rubbish today

 

[Clairabella]

Hi,
I am sorry that you had a down day we all have them and they are tough. I think we all are lead to believe when we are younger that it is easy to fall pregnant little did we know! We are on our 9th cycle and I do think it gets easier I now just expect a bfn but we all need to believe that it will happen for us all eventually and it will be extra special when we get a BFP. I try go for a walk or read to try and take my mind off TTC.
I really hope you get a BFP soon
Xx

 

[Titch85]

I think because we have 'safe sex' drummed into us from such a young age, and that so many of us were on the pill to stop pregnancy, it's made us believe that it's so easy to get pregnant. It's only when you actually try, that you realise that it's not as simple as that.

 

[Denver]

from a LTTTCer ill just say 1 thing- take every day as it comes - you have up days and very bad down days xx just be supportive to everyone who has bad days as we all have them whereever we are in our journeys xx

yesterday i had a very bad day but now im a little brighter today and life isnt so bad but next few days i might be back down again - thats what these fertility drugs have done to me (clomid) but im still thankful i have my OH and have the possibility of getting pregnent not like some women who know they can never have children xx

to all that are feeling rubbish today

So sorry you had such a rubbish day *hugs* xx

 

[Ann30]

I'm new on here and for the first time in months I don't feel like I'm on my own the down days r horrible I get so low and get really dark thoughts but then a couple of days later I'm back to my old self and feel quite positive that it's going to happen one day. That's all u can do really but knowing that others are feeling similar can really help too xx