This may be a little long winded. So for the past several months me and my wife have been going to a fertility clinic to try to conceive, and the doctor recommended IVF to my wife because he said my morphology is low, but said that she her eggs were fine. so instead we did IUI because my wife wasn't and isn't comfortable with IVF not to mention its a lot of money. so after 4 IUIs my wife wanted to try donor sperm. (I have nothing against using donor sperm) but from everything I've read my SA was completely normal, and motility was much better than the normal range. So I didn't want to do donor sperm, because I didn't see a reason to, my wife would argue that the doctor said morphology was low. Long story short it started causing a huge rift between us, started going to consoleing and like any marriage we have our ups and downs, (we were able to work things out though). I just wanted a second opinion on my SA, so I got a second and third and forth. It turns out my SA are normal. And the fertility doctor was lying to my wife and I, she was going to talk to the doctor about using donor sperm (with my consent) and the doctor completely did a 180 on her and told her my SA was normal and that he thinks its her eggs that are the problem, (Doctor has been pushing IVF hard) and that he won't even attempt to do donor eggs without doing an IVF first, so my wife said that we were also thinking of adoption, and he told her that if we did that then we would end up with a crack baby, and honestly that's a pretty awful thing to say. So it turns out that we never needed to do IUIs in the first place, and has cost us a lot of money for nothing. we are by no means going to stop trying to have baby. But I wanted to make people aware of this. get a second opinion from the start, because if could save you a lot of money, and frustration . I wonder if anyone else has had a similar experience, wish us luck as we will find out soon today if she is pregnant.
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Wanted to share my nightmare experience
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I think (from hearing other people's stories) that unfortunately there are a minority of fertility doctors who are only in it for the money and don't actually give a toss about their patients. IVF is what gets the most money for them, so it's what they'll recommend even when they're not sure it'll work. It's scummy, because it's easy to convince desperate people to pay them over and over. I'd definitely get a second or third opinion if IVF was looking like something I had to do.
