I went for a scan yesterday as I had some bleeding. The midwife took ages and didn't speak or show us what she was looking at, after the silence she said its not good news, you were pregnant with twins but they have stopped growing - any questions? At this point I was totally in shock and couldn't speak. I was then bundled into another room then taken to a doctor who gave me the 2 options of the operations or to wait for it to happen on its own. I feel slightly like this isn't enough closure. I want another scan and for someone to talk me thru it and show me whats there and even give me printout of the scan - am I expecting to much? And also at 12 weeks with twins do you think I've made the right decision to have the miscarriage at home?
Waiting for miscarriage - another scan?
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first of all i'm really sorry for your loss hun 
i had a very similar experience last may mine was a single feotus tho, i think the decision to have the naturel miscarriage is a very personal one, i chose to wait for a naturel miscarriage, and this helped me come to terms with it all before i actually miscarried and i really didnt like the idea of medical management as this can be very painful and distressing.
your description of you scan and experience sounds almost identical to mine, the woman was very quiet then said she was very sorry but the baby had stopped growing a week earlier, i was then ushered into a room with lots of leaflets on miscarriage before being sent home, i don't think its unreasonable for you to ask for another scan and a better explanation, they should understand that now the facts have sunk in you would like some extra information, and help coming to terms with it in your own way.
good luck hun and once again i'm really sorry for your loss
i had a very similar experience last may mine was a single feotus tho, i think the decision to have the naturel miscarriage is a very personal one, i chose to wait for a naturel miscarriage, and this helped me come to terms with it all before i actually miscarried and i really didnt like the idea of medical management as this can be very painful and distressing.
your description of you scan and experience sounds almost identical to mine, the woman was very quiet then said she was very sorry but the baby had stopped growing a week earlier, i was then ushered into a room with lots of leaflets on miscarriage before being sent home, i don't think its unreasonable for you to ask for another scan and a better explanation, they should understand that now the facts have sunk in you would like some extra information, and help coming to terms with it in your own way.
good luck hun and once again i'm really sorry for your loss
I am so sorry for your loss babes, I can only imagine how you must be feeling. I agree that you deserve to have some answers. It will help you come to terms with what has happened.
Look after yourself and keep in touch. xxx
Look after yourself and keep in touch. xxx
Hi I only had one baby, but the scan was the same result, at 8 weeks. They peer at the screen for ages until they tell you 
I felt the same at first, wanted another scan etc, but stopped feeling queasy and pregnant over the next couple of days, so I accepted it. I had a D + C.
If you want another scan to double check and stuff again, if you're firm I'm sure they'll understand.
Hugs and I'm sorry this has happened to you and your partner
I felt the same at first, wanted another scan etc, but stopped feeling queasy and pregnant over the next couple of days, so I accepted it. I had a D + C.
If you want another scan to double check and stuff again, if you're firm I'm sure they'll understand.
Hugs and I'm sorry this has happened to you and your partner
hi i had same experience but woman at scan wouldnt tell me anything she just sent me to wait in early pregnancy unit. as mine was a missed mc and baby died at 5 weeks and was not picked up on until 12 week scan i opted for a d/c and with that i also insisted they scanned me again a week later to make sure. as they assured me baby would have doubled in size in a week.
it is totally your choice wether you have mc naturally or not and i only chose a d/c because my body showed no signs of miscarrying and alo i was only 15 and my mum and docs thought it would have been less emotional for me to have a d/c.
i would ask for some answers such as when your babies stopped growing etc and i hope you find your answers hun.
im really sorry for your loss.
xxxxxx
it is totally your choice wether you have mc naturally or not and i only chose a d/c because my body showed no signs of miscarrying and alo i was only 15 and my mum and docs thought it would have been less emotional for me to have a d/c.
i would ask for some answers such as when your babies stopped growing etc and i hope you find your answers hun.
im really sorry for your loss.
xxxxxx
kimheath said:
yes I should explain I went for the d + c as I had had the same thing happen in a previous pregnancy and it had not left naturally, had to have a d + c that time too. Personally I wanted the supposedly quickest option. Although it turns out the d + c wasn't performed very well
Wishing you all the best Jussy and sorry for your loss.
Let us all know how you are getting on 
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Im so sorry for your loss, loosing one baby is bad enough but loosing twins is awful and im truly sorry and know how you feel.Having a MC at home or having the D and C is your choice and you must do whatever is good for you.
So sorry for your loss like the other ladies have said its totally your choice about having the m/c at home or opting for a d & c if you think it might be a bit much for you to handle have a word with your doctor talk it through,i had my first m/c at home and my last one i had the medical management with my last one i was so sure i wanted a d & c cos i wanted it over and done with but they couldnt do it for me cos i was too far on and they wouldnt do it so had to go with mm but it helped me deal with it i think.Good luck in what ever you choose and remember we are always here if u need a chat.
like the other ladies have said its totally your choice about having the m/c at home or opting for a d & c if you think it might be a bit much for you to handle have a word with your doctor talk it through,i had my first m/c at home and my last one i had the medical management with my last one i was so sure i wanted a d & c cos i wanted it over and done with but they couldnt do it for me cos i was too far on and they wouldnt do it so had to go with mm but it helped me deal with it i think.Good luck in what ever you choose and remember we are always here if u need a chat. Thanks for all your support and advice. I have decided to go for the D&C as I have no signs of miscarriage yet and I need some closure now. I did get my second scan which was very comforting - totally different experience to the first. I was talked thru it and given photos of my twins, I feel much more at ease with whats happening and have found it easier to deal with now it has been explained to me. I am feeling very apprehensive about tomorrow, I'll let you know how I get on. Thanks again everyone, it is very comforting having kind words at a time like this,
im not sure if they will give u a printout of the scan. i didnt get that option but then all we could see on mine was fluid and blood. was alot and alot come out. she said that she thought i should have a natural m/c but next time when i get to that stage 11weeks 6days or more they can take it out of me. cause it freaking hurts. it did help me to come to terms with losing the baby aswell tho. fetus was smelly when it came out so i think it dies around 6weeks.i was given leaflets etc on mc too and i rang work that saying i aint coming in cause im micarrying, such pain bleeding alot and been crying, lack of sleep.
