Upset and Mad!
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That place should be shut down if that's the kind of thing that goes on.muppetmummy
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i hope you give them a good ear bashing today, its unacceptable how they've treated Fynn 
Id be tempted to report them, a letter to the manager might be in order too
Id be tempted to report them, a letter to the manager might be in order too
That is unbelievable!!!
What idiots!! The staff should be sacked IMO!! You always have time to feed the children in your care because they're your number 1 priority, everything else comes second!
Take it further, hun. It sounds like neglect to me and those people shouldn't be allowed to look after children
OMG that is terrible, what a shite nursery. Hope fynn is OK now, can't believe the never fed him since lunch, no wonder he was crying and all hot and bothered it was a hot day!!
My mate is anursery manager and I know she would sack any staff members that treated the babies like that (not that she is even ALLOWED 2 weeks off at a time without someone being able to get intouch with her), she has sack girls before for just being lazy and not playing with the babies and standing round talking so try not to worry about sending him to another nursery as I think what you experience is very few and far between and most of the nurserys can be creddited!!
A would kick off, then kick off somemore, then somemore telling them exactly what I think, then I would report to the council (council will probably come out and assess) then I would inform my local paper!
Good luck today - let us know how you get on
God infact im fuming for you about how they left your poor boy.....do you want me to go down and open a can of whoop ass on them.....it would be a pleasure!
that is terrible, what a shite nursery. Hope fynn is OK now, can't believe the never fed him since lunch, no wonder he was crying and all hot and bothered it was a hot day!!My mate is anursery manager and I know she would sack any staff members that treated the babies like that (not that she is even ALLOWED 2 weeks off at a time without someone being able to get intouch with her), she has sack girls before for just being lazy and not playing with the babies and standing round talking so try not to worry about sending him to another nursery as I think what you experience is very few and far between and most of the nurserys can be creddited!!
A would kick off, then kick off somemore, then somemore telling them exactly what I think, then I would report to the council (council will probably come out and assess) then I would inform my local paper!
Good luck today - let us know how you get on
God infact im fuming for you about how they left your poor boy.....do you want me to go down and open a can of whoop ass on them.....it would be a pleasure!
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I know how it feels... although our nursery at the moment is fine, I put him in a SureStart one just for the morning once and he came out sunburned, unchanged and unfed with no sheet for anyone to say they looked after him. He's not been back there since.
Must be tough with you going back to work and having this to think of too. Hope you find a new nursery soon x
Must be tough with you going back to work and having this to think of too. Hope you find a new nursery soon x
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mrs_tommo22 said:
ABSOLUTELY, i find it hard to keep my temper when it comes to my kids and their safety.
I was seething last night after reading this but was being huckled off the pc so couldnt reply. You must have been distraught and you would be well within your rights to go down and kick up an absolute stink and go to the papers or some governing body. Its quite simply unacceptable.
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That's disgraceful- make sure you go to the papers! At least you found out now, and not after a few months of this going on!I work in a nursery if you want to hit them where it hurts ring ofsted or find out who inspects them yearly. they'll have a suprise inspection then. trust me thats the worse thing to do to a nursery its ruins there rep if they fail.
From experience ive seen some terrible things in nurseries. but thats very very limited dont wanna be too negative! The main problem is usually the bosses are money grabbers that pay shi* wages and employ staff that are still wet behind the ears. They NEVER employ enough staff. theres been times where ive worked in a previous nursery and me and another girl had to look after 11 babies from 3months to 1 year on our own all day. it was unbelieveable and the reason i left to work in another nursery.
I hope you get some answers today. its unacceptable. those girls should of understood thats someones baby the most important thing in the world and to just shove them in the corner is heart renching!!
From experience ive seen some terrible things in nurseries. but thats very very limited dont wanna be too negative! The main problem is usually the bosses are money grabbers that pay shi* wages and employ staff that are still wet behind the ears. They NEVER employ enough staff. theres been times where ive worked in a previous nursery and me and another girl had to look after 11 babies from 3months to 1 year on our own all day. it was unbelieveable and the reason i left to work in another nursery.
I hope you get some answers today. its unacceptable. those girls should of understood thats someones baby the most important thing in the world and to just shove them in the corner is heart renching!!
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I agree with Sage, report them to OFSTED. It is disgusting that this is happened - nurseries have to have a ratio of children to adults that means that they always have time to look after the children in their care properly (for under 2s it is 1 adult to 3 children) there is absolutely no excuse for leaving a child hungry, hot and upset.
I wouldn't take him back there no matter what they say and report them regardless.
You poor thing I think I would have killed them.
I wouldn't take him back there no matter what they say and report them regardless.
You poor thing I think I would have killed them.
That's appaling, I'm shocked to read that anyone would allow a baby to be like that all day.
The hardest thing about going back to work is leaving your baby with someone else and now they have destroyed any confidence you might have had.
I would definitely have words with the Manager and possibly report them to Ofsted, you don't want anyone else to find out the hard way that they're a bad nursery.
I'm sorry that you had this experience, but I hope you don't lose faith, there are good nurseries out there who take good care of all the children they look after.
The hardest thing about going back to work is leaving your baby with someone else and now they have destroyed any confidence you might have had.
I would definitely have words with the Manager and possibly report them to Ofsted, you don't want anyone else to find out the hard way that they're a bad nursery.
I'm sorry that you had this experience, but I hope you don't lose faith, there are good nurseries out there who take good care of all the children they look after.
Thats awful I used to be head nursery nurse in the nursery our LO is going too and am still good friends with the Manager and deputy Manager so feel reasured that baby will be well looked after but that last nursery I worked in before that was appalling too quick staff turn over due to crap wages and the awful way nursery was run, all young girls not long out of school or college and hardly any experience, but there are lovely nurseries out there you just have to visit them before hand both with and without your child have a good talk to manager about their policies and ask to meet and speak with the people who will actually be caring for your child.
In my last nursery I was responsible for settling in new children in my group and this would be done over a period of time starting with Mum and child coming in together to play with the other children, then Mum leaving for half and hour, then maybe a couple of hours etc until they were staying a full session and only when they were staying a full session (i.e. full day if they would be doing full days or just half if they would only be doing half days) would they start properly and durring these settling in sessions the child would have 1 to 1 care from the person who was settling them in who would be free'd up from numbers and their other jobs so they could purely focus on that one child. Even then children can get very upset and I have had sessions where the child cried the whole time and calling Mum in can just teach them that crying will mean you get to go home and they would never settle but they are never left alone and the person settling them in will do everything possible to distract them and amuse them to help them settle and they usually are ok after a session or two (bearing in mind im talking about the early sessions maybe crying an hour or two on and off not all day)
I would be seriously unhappy with the way Flyn was left to get in a state on his own in the pushchair and not being fed because they didn't have time is just awful I hope you feel beter after going in an speaking to the manager I would definately tell her exactly what you think of the nursery and staff, if she was away they could have been slacking in her absence and she definately needs to know whats been going on! Was Flyn given any settling in sessions before today? I hope you find a nursery you and Flyn can be happy with you will have to find one extra vigilant with their settling in procedure as this experience will most likely cause him to be upset at being left in a similar setting again unfortunately!!
Sorry for such long post but wanted to let you know the kind of procedure that should have been in place for a new child starting nursery especially a young baby!
In my last nursery I was responsible for settling in new children in my group and this would be done over a period of time starting with Mum and child coming in together to play with the other children, then Mum leaving for half and hour, then maybe a couple of hours etc until they were staying a full session and only when they were staying a full session (i.e. full day if they would be doing full days or just half if they would only be doing half days) would they start properly and durring these settling in sessions the child would have 1 to 1 care from the person who was settling them in who would be free'd up from numbers and their other jobs so they could purely focus on that one child. Even then children can get very upset and I have had sessions where the child cried the whole time and calling Mum in can just teach them that crying will mean you get to go home and they would never settle but they are never left alone and the person settling them in will do everything possible to distract them and amuse them to help them settle and they usually are ok after a session or two (bearing in mind im talking about the early sessions maybe crying an hour or two on and off not all day)
I would be seriously unhappy with the way Flyn was left to get in a state on his own in the pushchair and not being fed because they didn't have time is just awful I hope you feel beter after going in an speaking to the manager I would definately tell her exactly what you think of the nursery and staff, if she was away they could have been slacking in her absence and she definately needs to know whats been going on! Was Flyn given any settling in sessions before today? I hope you find a nursery you and Flyn can be happy with you will have to find one extra vigilant with their settling in procedure as this experience will most likely cause him to be upset at being left in a similar setting again unfortunately!!
Sorry for such long post but wanted to let you know the kind of procedure that should have been in place for a new child starting nursery especially a young baby!
Hiya Girls... Sorry Its takin a while gettin back to you all.. Iv just got home from nursery hunting!
Well I didnt sleep a single wink last night.. It really sickened me.. couldnt get it out of my mind.
Anyway, went to the nursery this morning with my mam and asked to speak to the manager, again, I was told she wasnt there.. so I asked who in charge was there that I could speak too.. the assistant manager was there (she was about 20 years old) so we went into a private room and explained exactly what had happened yesterday.. she said that the usual girl Michelle who looks after the baby department had finished at 4.30 yesterday so this other girl who we seen with Fynn yesterday is 'normally in the toddlers room and doesnt normally deal with the babies!' so asked why was she in there handling my son if she 'doesnt normally deal with the babies' the assistant manager couldnt give me a straight answer to my question.. just saying to me that this girl was more than capable..my answer. obviously not! She went on to say that she had never had any complaints about this girl before and that 'she is really normally good'
I asked about why he hadnt eaten anything since 11.30 and she genuinely looked shocked, saying that she wasnt aware of this at all..and she would 'get to the bottom of it'
I asked why he was sat in the corner in a pram sobbing and soaking wet with sweat, again no answer... she said that to her knowledge he was fine and that none of the baby staff had told her anything other so she presumed he was fine.
She tryed to reassure me that this wouldnt happen again and tryed to reassure me that on Thursday, Fynn would be well looked after!!! I told her I wouldnt be bringing Fynn back to their nursery, that the situation shoudnt have happened at all.
To cut it all short, I didnt get any answers at all... but what she herself did advise.. was for me to write a letter to OFSTED if I wasnt happy.
So, Thats what Im gonna do!
This afternoon I went nursery hunting and found one that I was really happy with... CCTV all over ..older staff.. just a really lovely atmosphere, I felt at ease as soon as I went in there.. I am taking Fynn over tomorrow for a couple of hours to see how he gets on. When I explained to the manager what had happened yesterday, without giving her the name of the nursery.. she said 'let me guess' and said the name of it to us she said that she had heard bad reports about them before!!!
Well I didnt sleep a single wink last night.. It really sickened me.. couldnt get it out of my mind.
Anyway, went to the nursery this morning with my mam and asked to speak to the manager, again, I was told she wasnt there.. so I asked who in charge was there that I could speak too.. the assistant manager was there (she was about 20 years old) so we went into a private room and explained exactly what had happened yesterday.. she said that the usual girl Michelle who looks after the baby department had finished at 4.30 yesterday so this other girl who we seen with Fynn yesterday is 'normally in the toddlers room and doesnt normally deal with the babies!' so asked why was she in there handling my son if she 'doesnt normally deal with the babies' the assistant manager couldnt give me a straight answer to my question.. just saying to me that this girl was more than capable..my answer. obviously not! She went on to say that she had never had any complaints about this girl before and that 'she is really normally good'
I asked about why he hadnt eaten anything since 11.30 and she genuinely looked shocked, saying that she wasnt aware of this at all..and she would 'get to the bottom of it'
I asked why he was sat in the corner in a pram sobbing and soaking wet with sweat, again no answer... she said that to her knowledge he was fine and that none of the baby staff had told her anything other so she presumed he was fine.
She tryed to reassure me that this wouldnt happen again and tryed to reassure me that on Thursday, Fynn would be well looked after!!! I told her I wouldnt be bringing Fynn back to their nursery, that the situation shoudnt have happened at all.
To cut it all short, I didnt get any answers at all... but what she herself did advise.. was for me to write a letter to OFSTED if I wasnt happy.
So, Thats what Im gonna do!
This afternoon I went nursery hunting and found one that I was really happy with... CCTV all over ..older staff.. just a really lovely atmosphere, I felt at ease as soon as I went in there.. I am taking Fynn over tomorrow for a couple of hours to see how he gets on. When I explained to the manager what had happened yesterday, without giving her the name of the nursery.. she said 'let me guess' and said the name of it to us
she said that she had heard bad reports about them before!!! Tangerinedream
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Thats awful hun 
Hope you have both recovered now
Just wanted to let you know not all nurseries are like that, hope this new nursery is better
Hope you have both recovered now Just wanted to let you know not all nurseries are like that, hope this new nursery is better
Foxxi said:Today, was Fynns first full day in nursery... My DH took him this morning and told the nursery staff what was in his bag.. clean bibs and water etc.. last week they also told us to write a list of his likes and dislikes and stuff.. Fynn isnt a cryer baby at all, infact he very very rarely crys, if he does, I know there is something wrong and I wrote this down for the nursery staff to know and said that if there ARE any problems i.e if he doesnt settle to give me a ring!
When DH and I went to collect him.. we heard him crying..when we went into the room for him he was sat in the corner in a pushchair..just sat there sobbing, god knows how long he'd been sat there for in that state.... when the nursery woman seen me and my hubby she rushed over to the pushchair and picked him up... I held my arms out to take Fynn and at first she wouldnt pass him to me even tho he was still sobbing..so I had to quite forcibly take him off her... he was sweating..still had his shoes and socks on (which had been left on all day) and was in a right state... she said that he had been like this most of the day
The nursery girl also said that she didnt give him any tea because she said, in her words 'didnt have time to feed him!' So he hadnt had anything to eat since 11.30 which was his dinnertime and we picked him up at 5! So for quickness as soon as we got home I had to give him a bottle!
I am absolutely furious and very tearful over this...
Tomorrow, Im gonna look round for a new nursery... my first day back at work is Thursday.. there is no way im taking him back there... Im gonna go to the nursery tomorrow and tell them what I think.
The manager of the nursery wasnt there all last week when I wanted to go in and pay my bond and she isnt there this week.. I have no idea where she is... I wonder if this is why the standards have dropped cos she isnt there
I cant stop thinking about this at all...I feel so churned up!
oh my god reading this made me want to cry!
that so bad hun..i don't blame you for not taking him back there ever again!! i used to work in a nursery and there is NO excuse whatsoever for not feeding him and leaving him in a corner sobbing..that serious neglect!! poor boy..i'm glad you've found somewhere else you like..deffo report them...imagine other babies being left like that ..its evil!!
