ungrateful??

[nmf1987]

ok so this is my situation just want to know if you think im being ungrateful. please be honest i dont mind.

we still need to paint our nursery and have decided on theme and colour etc.

well my mum and stepdad have bought all the starry night things from babies r us for us and then the other day said that they have arranged for there friend who is a painter/decorator to come and decorate it for us.

this is lovely of them but i was really looking forward to me and lee doing it together. i want to be able to look at my sons room and think yeah me and daddy done that for you. sounds silly but there isnt alot for daddys to get involved in as such until baby gets here so thought this could be something we could do together.

i just dont know how to break it to them as i feel like im throwing the offer bk in there face.

also it is only a box room so it wont take long at all. i have just thought of every last detail that i want to do with the room.

oh i dont know. sorry girls im mumbling. xxx

 

[Kay1987]

Nah its not ungreatful atall, its all part of it and its exciting. im sure if u explain it 2 your mum that u want it 2 be something special for your OH to do she will understand. x

 

[charliebear]

I agree. Just explain its something you'd like to do together and to help you and Lee feel closer to baby. Definitely not ungrateful. x

 

[Tracey M]

Oh deffo not ungrateful.....it probably never crossed her mind! She wants to help... Explain they have helped sooo much already buying the stuff that you Cant wait to do it yourself....

 

[Lou_1]

id agree with the girls xx

 

[erimela]

Definately not ungrateful. If anything, it shows how much you love your baby and that it is important to you and your OH to prepare the room.

It seems like your mum and stepdad are very involved (which is great) and I am positive that when you explain the situation as you have done here, they will completely understand.

Perhaps you could think of another way they could help other than sending a painter friend across?

Good luck and let us know how you got on with the conversation.

 

[nmf1987]

thanks girls. the only problem ive got is my mum is abit of a hot head. i never feel like i can say anything she doesnt want to hear. we have a whole load of history from when i was a child. (didnt see her for 8 years as i felt ill at her house and asked for my dad as i lived with him)

its just sooo awkward. we want to repaint the whole house to make it all fresh so would help it he would paint another room for us. xxx

 

[AbbyJ]

Can totally see where you're coming from, I still remember decorating my first's nursery, and that was nearly 14 years ago! Its'a special thing and you should definitly be the one to do it, i think you should just tell them politely that you really appreciate their generosity but you want to do it yourself, wmaybe they could help in another area, like buying the pram or something equally important?