Unable to hold wind and number 2s in following forceps delivery

[Ljd401]

Hi girls,

I'm nearly 14 days since Toby's forceps delivery and I have no control over holding on wind or number 2s I'm so embarrassed. Really scared that this will be a permanent problem. Seeing my gp today. I've been doing the pelvic floor exercises but haven't had any improvement with them
Anyone else have this problem?xx

 

[Louise2013]

Oh sweetie I had very similar..

I had almost no feeling at all inthat region, and could only hold in until I got to a loo, (if I ran ran ran) but once my bladder or bowel opened I had no control over any of it. I became very upset and traumatised by it as I worried for months it would be a permanent problem despite everyone's reassurances this was normal following our types of delivery (i had a forceps delivery with third degree tearing, and 50 stitches). But, they were right; it got slightly better every week, and I saw a physio and gynae consuktant at about 8 weeks who confirmed these were side effects of nerve damage during delivery, but that it would all repair almost back to normal, if not back to 100%. And you know what, it did! I would say in all of that region I am back to 95% of ehere I was before I had my first baby, however, it was a big factor in my decision to have an elective c sec second time round (last week) as frankly, I didn't want to 'push my luck' with my pelvic floor.

I am sure you will be fine my love, but I feel so sad for you as I remember that fear and worry very very clearly and it is horrid and so deeply psychologically traumatic. But the one thing I will say is stick with the pelvic floor exercises. They may seem like they are doing nothing but you have not had much time for them to take effect yet. But I swear by them. I did them almost constantly when I was sitting down as the worry over my bowels was on mind constantly, so I just kept doing them, even when in the beginning I had no feeling of them 'working' at all but they really are; my doc reminded me that just because you can't feel the musckes firing doesn't mean they aren't. They are invaluable; do them as much as you can and you will see improvements, slowly at first, but then one day you wake up and realise you haven't worried about a bowel movement or toilet trip for longer than you can remember.

Big hugs hun, it is a horrid experience but it will get better xxxxxxxx

 

[Ljd401]

Oh louise thank you so so much for your reply. It's been getting me so down. I've never been one for ''letting one out" in front of anyone so am mortified when it happens and it makes me so embarrassed in front of my husband. Will keep up with the pelvic floor even though I can't feel anything..but at least I feel I am doing something x x

 

[Ljd401]

Good luck with your c section...consultant has said I can have one next time too xx

 

[Mummybexee]

Don't panic. Foreceps and episiotomies are leathel!

See your GP - ask for gyno referral if need be. Just keep doing your pelvic floors, keep the area clean by washing a and drying with hairdryer 2/3 times a day and change your pad frequently

I remember the pains of my epi - whilst I didn't have problems holding poo in- even now I am known to slip a fart out without realising.

Chin up it does get better - you've had a major trauma x

 

[Natalie_reid]

Im still feeling a bit like this and I mentioned to my midwife. She said about doing my pelvic floors or maybe an appointment with the physio. Maybe ask midwife or health visitor about physio app?x

 

[Ljd401]

Thanks girls. I've seen no improvement at all so went to my gp who said I have weakness around the back passage and she suspects nerve damage. I am being referred to physio and if no better in two weeks then being referred to a gynaecologist. I feel I can't go anywhere because I need to be by the toilet. It's making me so down xx

 

[Natalie_reid]

See I had a day there where I was like that and I can pee ALOT as soon as I sit on the toilet but im not to the point I cant control it I think I just need to get the pelvic floor muscles done more often xx

 

[Mummybexee]

Glad they are referring you hun. Try not to get down - physio and gynae can do Amazing things these days x