TTC after a loss, how long to wait?

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  1. Clover

    Clover Well-Known Member

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    Hi Girls
    As you all probably know I'm at the moment going through a miscarriage, I was going to have Surgical management but I think I passed my baby on Wednesday evening the night before my scheduled op
    So I cancelled the operation and decided to let things progress naturally

    I've been bleeding now for almost 4 weeks and I'm guessing it's going to be at least another week

    Stupidly I did a pregnancy test yesterday and it was a strong positive, my levels were 13535 the last time they were taken 3 weeks ago and because the pregnancy hadn't passed I assume they would stay the same or rise slightly
    so the question is when will my body get back to normal and when can I start TTC again?

    Thanks my lovelies :)

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  2. scn

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    After my loss at 13 weeks pg I ovulated cycle day 21 afterwards so didn't have to wait too long, my hpt was still a squinter of a positive at that time too, but ov tests and temping confirmed ovulation.
    Hopefully you'll not have to wait too long xx good luck xx
    We didn't start TTC straight away as my baby died as a result of a chromosome problem so we were waiting on our chromosome tests to come back before we tried again. But with my other 4 losses we tried again straight away.
     
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    Thanks scn
    I've heard a lot of ladies ttc straight after a loss and Ovulating quickly after too, we haven't DTD since the day before my bleeding started and hubby is getting a bit impatient so no doubt as soon as I stop bleeding we will be ntnp
    I hope it happens quickly but I want to give my body time to recover too

    Did you get pregnant straight away after your losses?

    Thanks for your support hunny :)

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    This is my history
    Lost Nov 12 pg again Jan 13
    Lost April 13 pg again July 13
    Lost Sept 13 pg again Oct 13
    Lost Nov 13 pg again June 14
    Lost July 14 and not pg again until Dec 16 with this one
     
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    Clover, I'm so glad that you feel able to come back and try again. You have showed such strength and I'm sorry things hadn't moved as quickly as you'd hoped.

    Good luck to you xx
     
  6. phonixgirl

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    I'm sorry the bleeding has taken this long :-( and that the HPT is still positive.

    I know I've not been through this (except the chemical I'm going through right now) but I just wanted to offer my support. I've read that doctors say different things, from waiting a cycle to trying again straight away. I guess it's whatever feels right.

    We haven't BD since before the transfer so it's been ages. I'm still bleeding very heavily so we will try again once I've stopped.

    Good luck and hugs to you. Xx
     
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    Scn wow you've had such a tough journey, thankyou for sharing
    I'm so glad you've finally got your rainbow baby after all your losses , it gives us all hope

    Momoftheboo thanks sweetie, I will be glad when I'm here officially TTC this has been the longest 4 weeks of my life!!


    Katie I think loss however early is heartbreaking, how are you coping? I hope your ok, I haven't spoken to my GP but I will be going back to EPU next week for another scan so I'm going to ask about ttc and when we can start again, tbh once I stop bleeding we will be ntnp as my hubby is sex deprived and is going mad!!!

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    I thought I'd be ok as I was expecting it from what the nurse said, but it all started with me passing this huge clot and I actually got really upset. I haven't had any cramping at all which is something at least. I'm on CD3 now and it's still really heavy and really clotty (although not as big as the first two days). I've never seen anything like it before so I don't think I've ever had a natural chemical.

    DH clearly does want a baby somehow as he's been talking about it all with someone from work. Whether that's through ivf, adoption or naturally, I don't know. I think he just wanted to stop because it hurt him too much when he thought this was it and then it wasn't :-(

    How are your kids coping with it all? It must be hard for them too xx
     
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    Aww hun that sounds like what I've just experienced, I've passed some big clots over the past few days, not sure if baby/sac has passed but I think it has, I would class your chemical as a loss and take time to grieve for your embryo... your baby, mine didn't develop past a sac and Yolk but it's still my baby and no matter how small or underdeveloped your baby is, it's still your baby

    I'm glad your hubby wants to continue ttc or looking into other options, it really will be worth it in the end my lovely, did you say you were looking into implantation ?? I think it may be a problem for me too as I have fibroids & a thin lining so even if a egg gets fertilised it may not implant or implant correctly
    I'm going to start drinking Beetroot juice again and Raspberry leaf tea ...I think it helped the month I got my Bfp also I'm going to take Soy again

    I'm still taking Royal jelly to help my egg quality and pregnancy vitamins so I'll continue with those

    Ard you going to make any changes to your diet/ supplements this cycle?

    My girls are coping but have got upset when we talk about it, my 13 year old has been talking to a teacher at school about it and is getting support there which is good, she was there with me when it all happened at the caravan and I think it affected her a lot, she was so excited to have a baby brother or sister :(
    I will keep a close eye on them

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    Oh bless her. I'm glad the school are being supportive xxx

    You might have seen the research on recurrent miscarriages on the news recently? Well it's my clinic in partnership with Warwick Uni that are doing all that. As part of it, they also offer an implantation clinic if you've had at least one failed IVF cycle or are just struggling to get pregnant. It costs £360 and is quite a comprehensive package so would definitely be worth it (including uterine NK cell testing). I know the lady there is really good and you get a consultation with her both before and afterwards. Maybe if they don't find anything then she may suggest other tests as my consultant and the nurses don't seem bothered at all. You don't have to be at my clinic to go for anyone reading this who is interested - you arrange the appointment yourself when you ovulate. I have to leave it a cycle to let things get back to normal a little bit first.

    I didn't start bleeding until I was what would have been 6 weeks, although I'd already tested negative a few days before that. I think I lost it around 5 weeks. I guess it's good in a way because something clearly happened - I got a positive hpt and had symptoms. Although it's really upsetting, this has never happened before and I've definitely never had bleeding like this. I guess it means maybe I could have a baby myself someday, somehow... I've just got to make it stick.

    I had a textbook 28 day cycle the one before the FET (we had the endometrial scratch though so couldn't ttc) so I'm going back on those supplements - maca, inositol, chromium and cinnamon. I'm also taking extra vitamin D and iron as I'm deficient. I will also be trying a low dose of soy - I've read mixed things about whether you can take it with maca but most say it's ok and my dose will only be low anyway.

    I was taking royal jelly and CoQ10 but I ran out of those. I am changing my diet to gluten free though as everyone keeps saying I need to... no excuse really, even DH says I should! Xxxxx
     
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    Aww sweetie I just wanted to say I am sending you massive hugs. I have a feeling you will probably want to try again very soon and I really hope it doesn't take long for you at all but I think only you can know when you are ready to try again. Xxxx
     
  12. Clover

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    Hey Broody
    I know I'll be ttc as soon as possible, I know I've said I wasn't sure and thst I'll wait but I know as soon as get the chance I'll become the old obsessed ttc mad Clover!!!
    How are you feeling? I'm feeling sad and down but I'm hoping my mood lifts next week when I'm back at work and I'm getting further through/past the m/c

    Phenioxgirl
    that implantation clinic sounds really interesting! I don't live anywhere near but I would definitely consider travelling
    Are you going to go for it?
    It may help.to have thst before you have another round of IVF?

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    Aww! Well hopefully it won't be a long wait for you sweetie. You deserve your sticky bean as soon as possible xxx

    I've been really struggling with the depression lately but having a long weekend off work has helped lift my mood slightly as work is really stressful right now. I know what you mean about getting back to normal and working certainly keeps us busy which will help take your mind off things slightly. It will be completely normal to feel upset after all that has happened but please see your GP if you think you need to Hun xxxxx
     
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    Oh glad you're feeling a bit better hun, a break from work sometimes helps, tbh I know I'm going back next week but I may need more time off, if I go back and don't feel ready and comfortable I will tell work and take more time off
    I just feel guilty being off so long

    You take care and text me whenever you want hun I'm here for you too :)

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    Hi Clover, sorry to hear about your mc :(

    We have had two mcs and didn't wait to try after either of them. However neither time my cycle returned at all and I had to have a bleed induced both times, the first time as we were waiting for testing and the second as we were waiting to start treatment. The clinic said it could take up to 6 months for your cycle to return and they would have left me that long if we hadn't been waiting for tests/treatment. Most ladies seem to return to normal pretty quickly, I seem to be a bit of an exception.
     
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    Yes I'm definitely going to go for the implantation clinic! I'll try to find a link...
     
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    Sorry for your loss clover, Mother Nature can be so cruel.
    Wishing you a speedy recovery nth physically and mentally

    As for the trying to conceive, I'd have a word with your g.p or fertility specialist if you have one, mixed reviews on whether to jump straight back in the saddle or to wait a while.

    Suppose it's upto how you feel, pregnancy is a roller coaster as you know with emotions up and down .

    have they ruled out any issues that had caused the misscarriage ?
    Infection/ trauma / stress etc

    If you have passed naturally you should heal quicker then the surgical method. I really praying for you and hope things will improve. Your always so caring and supportive of other mums and mums to be on this site. It would be nice if you had a little good luck for a change .
     
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    Hi Clover, I've been looking at this too. I've found some useful info from the miscarriage association, their info sheets have been great for me over the last few days. Have a look at this link: http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/trying-again/

    We're planning on trying straight away as there were no complications with my miscarriage
     

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