My OH has already posted to say that we lost baby Sam last week at 6 weeks. I stopped feeling pregnant on Monday. I started to bleed on Wednesday, but it was very light, and it got heavier on Thursday. Overnight Thursday seemed lighter, so I went to work but I felt what turned out to be the baby and placenta coming out. It was very important to me that it didn't get flushed away, so i wrapped it up and took it with me to hospital. the treatment there was fairly awful. I was sent to the gyny ward and left to wait for 3.5 hours in a public area even though I was really distressed and bleeding very heavily. they wouldn't let my husband and daughter stay with me because "it was sensitive". eventually I was seen by a junior doctor who wrote my notes on the back of an envelope, and then went to get a registrar. She did an internal and said she couldn't really tell if I had a m/c, so I showed her what I thought was the plancenta and sac and she said that it was, and she would have to sent it off to histogoly. She did an internal scan, but said that she wasn't very good at them but it looked like there was just a lot of blood and nothing else. I have to keep my appointment for a reassurance scan tomorrow to check whther there is anything left.
She then left agian for another age while she went to get a nurse to discharge me. When no-one came, I wnet out to the nurses station and asked if I could go home - I was in a pretty bad way and justed wanted to get to my husband who was waiting outside. A nurse came in and asked me why I was so upset. I couldn't believe she had asked that but I think she hadn't been told about the m/c. When I told her she went off again and got some leaflets but told me not to read them until I had calmed down. I really think I should complain, but I know the ward was really busy and last time I was there (for some perinium surgery after Charlotte was born) they couldn't have been nicer, but I did feel that they made a terrible situation worse.
The leaflets turned out to be about burial in a communal grave. I am agnostic, and would rather have buried him in our garden - that was why I was reluctant to let anyone know I had him - but I am glad that he is being treated with respect and I will know where he is. Although I think I am doing quite well in coping, thanks to having a wonderful husband and a beautiful daughter, all I can see when I close my eyes at night is the placenta with the little sac attached.
The bleeding seems quite erratic between heavy and light but there have been no other large clots, so I think the m/c was complete and I'm hoping I won't need a d&c. Although I have accepted it, I still forget sometimes that I am not pregnant anymore. You make so many adaptations to your life they become second nature and I keep reminding myself they are not necessary anymore.
I am sorry if this has upset anyone, I just needed to get it off my chest.
Thank you for all the support. I wasn't offered any at the hospital amd I don't know what I would do without this forum.
Andrea
She then left agian for another age while she went to get a nurse to discharge me. When no-one came, I wnet out to the nurses station and asked if I could go home - I was in a pretty bad way and justed wanted to get to my husband who was waiting outside. A nurse came in and asked me why I was so upset. I couldn't believe she had asked that but I think she hadn't been told about the m/c. When I told her she went off again and got some leaflets but told me not to read them until I had calmed down. I really think I should complain, but I know the ward was really busy and last time I was there (for some perinium surgery after Charlotte was born) they couldn't have been nicer, but I did feel that they made a terrible situation worse.
The leaflets turned out to be about burial in a communal grave. I am agnostic, and would rather have buried him in our garden - that was why I was reluctant to let anyone know I had him - but I am glad that he is being treated with respect and I will know where he is. Although I think I am doing quite well in coping, thanks to having a wonderful husband and a beautiful daughter, all I can see when I close my eyes at night is the placenta with the little sac attached.
The bleeding seems quite erratic between heavy and light but there have been no other large clots, so I think the m/c was complete and I'm hoping I won't need a d&c. Although I have accepted it, I still forget sometimes that I am not pregnant anymore. You make so many adaptations to your life they become second nature and I keep reminding myself they are not necessary anymore.
I am sorry if this has upset anyone, I just needed to get it off my chest.
Thank you for all the support. I wasn't offered any at the hospital amd I don't know what I would do without this forum.
Andrea
I am so sorry for your loss hun, and i am disgusted to hear how you were treated. I think its terrible and insensitive how they were with you, fair enough i understand that hospitals are busy, but to leave you waiting about all that time without your husband after the shock you were in is not right.
