Trying to conceive at 39

[Amanda1104]

Hi everyone! I don't really have anyone to talk about trying to conceive so I signed up here.

I'm almost 39 years old and this is the first time I'm trying to get pregnant. We'll see if it will ever happen but I try to think positive. My mom and her mom both got pregnant when they were +40 years old. Also, I always know when Im ovulating cause I have cramps and then 14 days after my periods come. My cycle is quite regular. All that should help.

I'm so excited to start trying. Just got a bunch of pregnancy tests on the mail today cause I know I'll be eager to test when it's time

Is anyone else here in a similar situation? Maybe the same age as I? I'm bummed I have no one to talk to about this. I do have friends but my very best one I don't feel nice talking about this too much since it's a touchy subject for her.

Hi. I'm from Canada, I just turned 39 and my husband and I are ttc. We have only been trying for one cycle and just found out that we are out this month. We will keep trying and I am hopeful it will happen. I have an additional problem though - I have a fear of pregnancy. Not labour, I think I will be able to handle that, but a fear of the 9 months preceding it. I'm the world's worst hypochondriac and I worry about what could happen to my body and if it will ever be the same - not in a vanity sense, more like will I end up incontinent or something.

I had a terrible experience when I was younger, where I had cervical ectropion which wasn't diagnosed very quickly and I didn't know why I was bleeding after sex and I think I may have slight PTSD over it. I know that this is common in pregnancy and I am fearful about getting it again even though I know it is harmless.

To make matters worse, I had an unplanned pregnancy a few years ago and suffered a miscarriage. I am afraid that it will happen again.

All of this is the reason I have put it off until now but we have always really wanted a baby so I have decided to suck it up and just do it now before it is too late. I am very nervous though. I did have counseling, but it didn't help much.

Best of luck and hope it happens for you soon. Would be good to talk to someone of a similar age, however I don't want my fears to rub off on anyone else.

 

[MissMe]

Hi. I'm from Canada, I just turned 39 and my husband and I are ttc. We have only been trying for one cycle and just found out that we are out this month. We will keep trying and I am hopeful it will happen. I have an additional problem though - I have a fear of pregnancy. Not labour, I think I will be able to handle that, but a fear of the 9 months preceding it. I'm the world's worst hypochondriac and I worry about what could happen to my body and if it will ever be the same - not in a vanity sense, more like will I end up incontinent or something.

I had a terrible experience when I was younger, where I had cervical ectropion which wasn't diagnosed very quickly and I didn't know why I was bleeding after sex and I think I may have slight PTSD over it. I know that this is common in pregnancy and I am fearful about getting it again even though I know it is harmless.

To make matters worse, I had an unplanned pregnancy a few years ago and suffered a miscarriage. I am afraid that it will happen again.

All of this is the reason I have put it off until now but we have always really wanted a baby so I have decided to suck it up and just do it now before it is too late. I am very nervous though. I did have counseling, but it didn't help much.

Best of luck and hope it happens for you soon. Would be good to talk to someone of a similar age, however I don't want my fears to rub off on anyone else.

Hi there! Thanks for your message. I'm from Finland but I just somehow ended up in this forum.

Sorry to read about your fear and history. I've had some fearful thoughts myself too but I try not to think about them too much since many of those things are out of my control. So maybe try not to worry about them beforehand. Lets not worry before the bad things happen because they might not even happen at all

I've also thought about miscarriage and what if it would happen to me. I try to think that in a way it would be a good thing. If something is so very wrong with the embryo that I have a miscarriage then it's probably for the best. Obviously we all want to have a healthy stong baby. I know it's not that easy and simple when it actually happens but I think its important to try to see things in a somehow positive way. Of course it's ok and good to feel sad as well.

I'm gonna try ovulation tests this time. It's our second cycle ttc. I should ovulate end of next week and then it's that terrible 2 week wait again. I feel a lot more relaxed and calm compared to 4 weeks ago. I hope it will happen soon but I refuse to get too worried if it doesnt!

I hope we both get pregnant soon and have a pleasant pregnancy