Too nice for my own good.

[violet13]

Hi ladies,
I really just need to vent. I feel like I'm just a big convinence for some people who I'd of classed as friends, people only seem to contact me for something and it's really beginning to hack me off. I don't know if it's just hormones or what but whenever someone contacts me its for something they need always a favour but if I ask for help or to borrow anything I get ignored and I don't know how to tell people no. I think I'm just too nice but it's weighing on me now. I feel really lonely at times too and if I ask if I can hang out with anyone they make excuses but expect me to drop everything to spend time/ do something for them. I'm just fed up of being the one people always come to with problems I've got a lot going on right now and no-one ever bothers to see if I'm okay. I'm thinking of just ignoring people and staying in my pjs all day and ignoring the texts or messages. Sigh.
Xxx

 

[russellmuscle]

I have my pregnancy to thank for all of the above. I used to be really patient, kind natured, drop everything and run to help people at the drop of a hat and always felt never any return. Then I fell pregnant and developed a dont give a fuck attitude... I ended up just ignoring facebook/texts etc for a while had some me time and now only reply if I genuinely wanted to.

Sometimes hormones rock. If they are released in a safe enviroment of course... lol

xxx

 

[violet13]

Haha thanks Hun, I do feel like why should I? I don't mind helping people but it's all the time and honestly I know damn well once my baby is here no one is going to come and help me out so I don't really think I should help anymore xx

 

[russellmuscle]

Focus on you, and dont feel selfish for doing it!

I was really close with my cousin all my life, even through her pregnancy, until it was my turn and I was still expected to do all the running, I gave up thinking shed come to me. She didnt. And I realised how long I would have wasted chasing her about...

Somethings things work out that way. Pregnancy is a blessing in disguise.

xxxx

 

[violet13]

I'm finding that out with a lot of people lately. My friend who I've known a long time has pretty much dropped me for a boyfriend and seems to think it's okay to just ask me to run about its really annoying so I stopped answering the calls. I feel better for venting about it too. Xxx

 

[JJ Mum]

I loose my bedside manner during pregnancy with hormones, unfortunately sometimes it gives me that extra bit of rarrr
To say exactly what I need to say but never could!

Ignore them, stop worrying about others, get into you and your newlittle family mode, comcentrate on you and nesting- enjoy , anyone really chases you down and they are not doing it to ask how you are , then tell them your too busy with baby arriving soon xx

 

[violet13]

That's something else bothering me, I clean and clean and clean and my husband just doesn't do anything I ask. I've not cleaned properly in over 2 weeks and I'm not going to. The house is appalling and he just sits there leaves dishes piling up, plays on his Xbox while I was cleaning. I think not. He doesn't even wipe down the kitchen sides properly this morning it got too much and I've literally scrubbed it all down and chucked tea towels in the wash as they've been sitting there under chopping boards for weeks,it's disgusting a health visitor will take one look at it and take my child away. I've asked him if we can not put down tea towels...flat out no. I'm actually that close to telling him I'm leaving it's too much now. I can only clean so much and I'm not getting any help he never listens to me either I ask him to do one thing and he just carries on, the draining board today was appalling! He said I can't do the dishes properly but the actual state of my house it's just beyond a joke. Xxx