Toddler only wants me at the moment

[candymycandy]

I'm 33wks pg (with severe pgp) and my 2yr 8m old seems to be going through a phase of only wanting me - predominantly when upset. For example the last 2 nights for some reason (out of character) he's woken up crying/tantrumming at 12.30. First night I just dealt with it as he immediately cried for me (and told Daddy to leave!!) and last night Daddy went in first and he lost his sh1t immediately! He then took even longer to settle as I left DH to try and deal with it (In spite of screams for me) but after half hour I had to go in.

Our idea is he needs to be ok being comforted by DH as when baby comes there will little choice some times.

I wonder if he's sensing things are about to change with new baby? Also he knows mummy is 'poorly' (pgp) and I'm constantly guilty I'm not able to do things with him.

Anyone else experienced this? When will it end?! Thanks x

 

[Emmajaine]

No advice but i'm in pretty much the same boat hun, Lexi is doing the same, it's constant "I want mamma". It's soo hard isn't it? Especially with PGP!

I'm guessing it's cos they know things are going to change and are just needing some extra reassurance that we will still be there for them, love them etc.

I'm hoping that it will end once baby is here and she gets into our new routine (whatever that ends up being).

X

 

[kumber]

It sounds quite normal I'm afraid. Toddlers do go through phases of being very clingy and they definitely pick up that things are about to change even at that young age. Personally I would settle him yourself so he has that reassurance that mummy is still there when he needs you, as that is what he's craving. He will settle down much quicker with that reassurance, it just means you'll be a bit more tired unfortunately.

 

[candymycandy]

Thanks for your replies ladies. Emmajaine it's incredibly hard but glad I'm not alone!! I think you're right kumber, I actually read that last night and so decided not to fight him and let him have me! Last night we took his dummy away (he has for sleeps) so he went mental so decided it wouldn't be fair to deprive him of that as well as me if I can provide more comfort than DH. Do feel bad though as think it might be hard for DH, can't be nice getting told to go away etc but hoping he gets it's not personal x

 

[kumber]

It's rubbish for hubby, hopefully the phase doesn't last too long.

 

[Lucky2015]

Hi, just wanted to say my 2 and half year old is doing the exact same thing. I have a 10 month old also and daddy gets told , go away I don't want you, he finds this hard when he has come in from work and looked forward to seeing him all day. I find it easier just to sort him myself then have to put up with the screaming that doesn't stop until I am with him, like others just think it won't last for ever or much longer fingers crossed. Good luck x