think ive got postnatal depression, please help

[LucyB.]

really sorry for the long post but i just really desperatgely need advice

ever since i had my little boy in july i have found that i have been very stressy with my OH like snapping at him and crying to him afterwards because i know he didnt do anything but i just snapped anyway. because i was just feeling angry and snappy i never linked it to postnatal depression jusst thought it was the strain of a baby on our relationship and would take some getting used to. this has continued ever since july and bless him hes been an absolute star, so patient and understanding with me, never making me feel bad for shouting at him. i also get upset when he has to go to work, or even go for a shower!!! i feel really lonely and ugly anyway so thats making me down but in the last couple of weeks it seems to of turned from anger and snapping to jjst full blown crying for no reason during the day. i spoke to my OH about it (well cried to him AGAIN lol) and hes begged me to give him 1 month to try and make me feel better before i go docs. i feel awful cos its nothing that hes doing thats making me feel sad i just do! i have nothing to feel sad about, my oh is perfect lovely and i trust him, our baby isnt whingy and i dont find it hard tto look after him. my sadeness isnt related to our baby its more towrds my oh which makes me think its not pnd?? my oh doesnt want me go docs cos he doesnt want me on antidepressents, says hes seen his family get addicted and once i do come off them i'll be suicidal, will anyone whos had pnd please share their experiences with antidepressants! does it sound like thats what im suffering from? has anyone else felt the same? xxx

 

[Happyred]

Hi hun, im sorry you are having such a difficult time. I am very lucky and have no personal experience of PND but I have worked with many people who do, so can offer some advice.
From what you describe it does sound like it could be PND but really you have to go to your G.P to let them know how you are feeling. Im afraid I would disagree with your OH and would go sooner rather than later. With the right treatment and support PND can be quickly and easily treated, however the longer you leave it, the worse it can get.
The anti depressants they use for PND are not addictive. Some people will claim to be addicted to them but actually they have just become mentally reliant on them, iykwim. If used correctly this should not happen.
Do you have a health visitor you could talk to about how you feel? Maybe you could approach them first if it makes you or OH more comfortable. There are lots of things them or your G.P can offer you to help tht doesnt include anti depressants. Deep breathing exercises, Talking therapies,etc can all really help. They would also be able to give you and OH information so that things dont seem so scary to you both. Please make an appointment with either you H. V or G..p as there is no point in you suffering any longer as the support is out there.
Hope you feel better soon. Xx

 

[Emily0505]

Aww hun, sorry you're feeling rubbish

I have PND and I'm on antidepressants. I just felt... bleugh. Random crying fits, lack of motivation, struggling to sleep if i woke in the night, not wanting to get up in the mornings, just didn't feel right.

I spoke to my HV who advised I see my GP.

If you are struggling hun then you must get help and do it sooner rather than later. The sooner you see someone, the sooner you'll feel better

XX