Excuse the subject heading. Its just been one of those weeks.
So girlies any of you going through the same things, or in the same mood feel free to use this post to let off steam
(Based on ttc only please!)
RANT 1
After TTC for about 8 months without temping/OPK/Charting Cycles etc and just having regular BDing nothing happens.
RANT 2
It is 12 months before my gp would run tests on me, thats 12 months wasted if there was something wrong! Luckily there is nothing wrong with either me or my partner.
RANT 3
Refferred to Fertility Clinic, and on our first appointment there the doctor explains that there is only so much tests they can run, and whatever the outcome if they can not find anythign wrong with either of us, in our records we will be deemed with "probable fertility problems" or "Unsuitably compatibly".
Is it just me or is this the 21st Century???? Shouldnt the doctors be clued up on things like this? I mean am all for them finding cures for illnesses but infertility is an illness. If more and more couples are being written off as infertile just due to being referred to a clinic and doctors labelling them as unfertile just because they have ran out of tests to do this may prevent them actually tryin for children when in fact they can but they are just taking a while to conceive!!!!! Why write someone off just because you run out of tests or examinations to do.
RANT 4
When wannabee grans keep coming round to your house and are set on telling you about all their freinds whose daugters are now expecting and how many grand kids there friend rita or whatever has. Your screaming inside god damn it woman do you not think we are trying.... but you know if you tell them your ttc you will then be bombarded each week with "so any news" - cant win either way.
RANT 5
When you are walking up the street and you see women with their new born babies in a pram, a ciggerette in one hand another sprog on the other arm screaming at the young child. Then there are people out there who have been ttc for years and years, or those who cant have children and i just sit there watch them and think why are there people out there who have children like this and treat them that way. (I am not being disrespectful maybe that child was playing up, but there is a time and a place for loosing the rag with a child and in the middle of marks and spencers on a saturday afternoon isnt).
RANT 6
Each month since trying i feel like am pregnant about 5 days away from test date, so i do a test early it comes up negative but i dont loose hope (after all some women dont get a negative til after their missed period) Then you find yourself testing each day up until your period, blowing about £20 a month on pregnancy tests.
RANT 7
AF - WHY??!?!? WHY!?!?!?! DEAR GOD WHY?!?!?!?! That morning/afternoon whenever she arrives, and thats it hormones emotions flying everywhere. Your mind is not on anything, you walk about in a daze all that day trying to get to grips that your not going to be a mummy, and you have to go through all the temping, peeing in cups over again for another month.
RANT 8
When everyone you know seems to be falling pregnant. Your extremely happy for them, but deep down you feel like crying and become an emotional wreck because your ttc and its just not happening. It hits home more when all your friends are blooming.
RANT 9
When your mind just plans everything out in your head, you have already thought how your going to do the nursery, what pram you want, how you want your pregnancy/birth to pan out,... and your still ttc.
RANT 10
When all you think about is OPKS, BDing (not so bad), TEMPING, OVULATING, PREGNANCY TESTS, AF AND SIGNS
GRRRR Its just one of those days girls - plus just getting a new bathroom in, and there was a water leak which the previous owner did a botch job on so am pretty fuming about that too!!!!!!!
So girlies any of you going through the same things, or in the same mood feel free to use this post to let off steam
(Based on ttc only please!)
RANT 1After TTC for about 8 months without temping/OPK/Charting Cycles etc and just having regular BDing nothing happens.
RANT 2It is 12 months before my gp would run tests on me, thats 12 months wasted if there was something wrong! Luckily there is nothing wrong with either me or my partner.
RANT 3Refferred to Fertility Clinic, and on our first appointment there the doctor explains that there is only so much tests they can run, and whatever the outcome if they can not find anythign wrong with either of us, in our records we will be deemed with "probable fertility problems" or "Unsuitably compatibly".
Is it just me or is this the 21st Century???? Shouldnt the doctors be clued up on things like this? I mean am all for them finding cures for illnesses but infertility is an illness. If more and more couples are being written off as infertile just due to being referred to a clinic and doctors labelling them as unfertile just because they have ran out of tests to do this may prevent them actually tryin for children when in fact they can but they are just taking a while to conceive!!!!! Why write someone off just because you run out of tests or examinations to do.
RANT 4When wannabee grans keep coming round to your house and are set on telling you about all their freinds whose daugters are now expecting and how many grand kids there friend rita or whatever has. Your screaming inside god damn it woman do you not think we are trying.... but you know if you tell them your ttc you will then be bombarded each week with "so any news" - cant win either way.
RANT 5When you are walking up the street and you see women with their new born babies in a pram, a ciggerette in one hand another sprog on the other arm screaming at the young child. Then there are people out there who have been ttc for years and years, or those who cant have children and i just sit there watch them and think why are there people out there who have children like this and treat them that way. (I am not being disrespectful maybe that child was playing up, but there is a time and a place for loosing the rag with a child and in the middle of marks and spencers on a saturday afternoon isnt).
RANT 6Each month since trying i feel like am pregnant about 5 days away from test date, so i do a test early it comes up negative but i dont loose hope (after all some women dont get a negative til after their missed period) Then you find yourself testing each day up until your period, blowing about £20 a month on pregnancy tests.
RANT 7 AF - WHY??!?!? WHY!?!?!?! DEAR GOD WHY?!?!?!?! That morning/afternoon whenever she arrives, and thats it hormones emotions flying everywhere. Your mind is not on anything, you walk about in a daze all that day trying to get to grips that your not going to be a mummy, and you have to go through all the temping, peeing in cups over again for another month.
RANT 8When everyone you know seems to be falling pregnant. Your extremely happy for them, but deep down you feel like crying and become an emotional wreck because your ttc and its just not happening. It hits home more when all your friends are blooming.
RANT 9When your mind just plans everything out in your head, you have already thought how your going to do the nursery, what pram you want, how you want your pregnancy/birth to pan out,... and your still ttc.
RANT 10When all you think about is OPKS, BDing (not so bad), TEMPING, OVULATING, PREGNANCY TESTS, AF AND SIGNS
GRRRR Its just one of those days girls - plus just getting a new bathroom in, and there was a water leak which the previous owner did a botch job on so am pretty fuming about that too!!!!!!!
silly man......
