the dreaded gender disapointment.

[pregpixie76]

im quite embarrassed that today i got told the gender at the scan and ended up crying on the way to the day center to have my bp checked.
because ive had problems with high bp i was mostly hoping for a healthy baby so i really didnt think if i was told it was a boy id feel gutted but i did and still do.
i know i will get over it and love lil evan as much as i do my other 2 sons but a girl would have been nice to complete my family.
i really didnt expect to feel this way and i am annoyed at myself for this.........
just needed a little vent i know im not the only women in the world who has felt this way but its not nice.

 

[cosmicgirl]

You are most certainly not the only woman to feel this way and you won't be the last
Please have a read through my thread in tri 2 about my gender scan.
Please don't beat yourself up over your feelings x

 

[hellyH]

HI hun, I definately understand how you feel, I have just had my 2nd boy and he is soooo gorgeous and I wouldn't change him for the world, but at my 20 week scan I was upset too I found a brilliant website called Ingender which really helps with GD, you should check it out hun

http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/6.aspx

 

[tabbi]

my OH parents had two boys and wanted a girl so they tried again this was before you could be told the sex of baby, they wanted a girl that much they brought a few bits incase they ended up having twin boys. you dont always get what you want hunni i know. you never know they might have got it wrong x x x

 

[misscrazycooki]

I hoped for a little girl as I had a boy first time round I wanted a little girl when pregnant with him. I was a little miffed when they said he was a boy but then loved the idea of having a boy first. SInce I got pregnant again I was like its going to be another boy knowing me from the start that way I knew if he was a boy to which he is. I wouldn't be so dissapointed. I know its hard hun but they are healthy and will give you just as much love I can't wait for my new little boy now be glad once he is out as worried he isn't growing right x

 

[pregpixie76]

thanks cosmicgirl .
i know its a temp grieving process and i will have a read of your thread and try not to be so hard on myself.

 

[pregpixie76]

thanks for all the replies,its nice to know im not alone,i just feel so silly because last week i was in hosp with uncontrolled high bp having injections to mature babies lungs fast incase they wanted to induce.so yeah i guess i figured just let it hold on and be healthy.
my first growth scan indicates baby is on the small side so i need fortnightly growth scans.
( missCC hope your baby does keep growing )
i felt mild gender disappointment with my second son and he turned out to be the light of my life so i know i wont feel this way forever.hugs ladies xxx

 

[misscrazycooki]

Yeah thanks hun find out on tuesday how much he has gained in the last two weeks. I am hoping he is over 5lb's now as my previous son was over 5lb's at 34 weeks x Just so scary when you get worried about that little life inside you x Hugs x

 

[JJ Mum]

Don't worry, allow yourself to feel like this, it's perfectly normal.

My first two boys are two years apart and it's brilliant, football is no good on your own!! I actually do have a girl, and a third boy, but my daughter is so used to boys , that she is a tree climbing , football playing, absolutly no skirt or dress wearing lady, that frankly I have 4 boys!!

Hope you feel better soon, and once you can get past this , can start to bond with your new little man X

 

[saralou5]

Don't be annoyed at yourself. Lots of women feel like this and with 2 boys already it's understandable that you'd enjoy a little girl . At least you're both happy and healthy and he'll have 2 big brothers to look after him! . Chin up chicken! xx


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[Mummytoo2boys]

Hey huni I'm expecting son number 3, it was my two sons who had gender disappointment rather than me, my 5 year old asked if we could swap his brother for a sister at the hospital once he is born lol I spent time with the boys n we went blue shopping and now its all sunk in our while family are excited n can't wait xx