Symptom spotting. A waste of time?

[Rachel87]

Me and OH are on our 5th cycle TTC now and in those 5 months I have had sickness, random cramping, dizziness, headaches, achy boobs etc and have all ended in AF. I've also noticed this on the forum too with ladies asking if symptoms they are having means they are pregnant and ending in disappointment. So I've decided that from today I'm no longer going to SS. Any twinges or sickness I'm just going to ignore and wait till AF and see what happens. Who else is with me?

 

[graci9]

I am with you Rachel !!! Best is not to SS as it just gives you a headache. From now on I am gonna try to ignore them

 

[Kirstyt]

Deffo with u on this, I think to much heartache is caused and we could prevent a little bit of it by not getting our hopes up so much because we had a sharp pain in boob or coz we had twinges, to be honest I don't ss anyway coz I think af and preg symptoms are to similar, hears hoping to a none ss two weeks and a bfp at end xx

 

[Rachel87]

It's awful. I read threads on here with ladies getting excited when they feel sick etc and I just think "yeh I had that too" and it's horrible when they post that they have been caught by the witch. I think as you go through cycles you learn each time something new about TTC.x

 

[nicejuicypear]

I had loads of symptoms last month, even nausea that felt like my earlier pregnancies and got a bfn. This month, I've felt nothing and got a bfp, so symptoms don't always mean anything.

The thing is, we all know this but it's hard to keep it in mind when you're in the 2ww!

 

[graci9]

That's for sure we learn as we go For the last two months I kept getting different type of symptoms and thought that's unusual ( but now I think I might of had some of them even before when I wasn't ttc just never paid enough attention to it). Of course every month can bring something new as each cycle is unique.
So let's just wait and see

 

[Rachel87]

I'm 5dpo today and not even thinking about SS.i think half the time out minds make up these symptoms to make is think we are when were not. Nicejuicypeae has proven a point that you don't need symptoms to get a BFP. X

 

[Kirstyt]

The only thing I do is when gets closer to af is see if my boobs hurt as I never ever get this with af but when I had my little girl the only thing I felt was very sore boobs and that's what made me test and got a bfp, so every month that I don't get sore boobs I no I'm out, x

 

[stacesl3]

I try not to take much notice of any symptoms now, before ttc the only thing i would get before my AF was slightly sore/tender boobs maybe about a week before and the occasional mood swing.
Now in the tww my symptoms vary from sore boobs, nausea, lots of CM, exhaustion, cramping, backache, high cervix, low cervix, bloating, headache and many more! And then get a bfn!!

Incidentially the month i got my bfp i cant recall getting any symptoms other than tingly/sore boobs about day 10!

 

[LauraJane9]

I've driven myself nuts with ss, last month was the worst when I had a dream and in it I was sick and then I woke up feeling really nauseous, I took a test straight away because of it and the bfn was heartbreaking.

I'm ignoring all 'symptoms' from now on no matter how convincing they may be because I really think we place to much meaning on every little twinge in the tww and are looking so hard for symptoms that we actually create them.

 

[candymycandy]

Yep I'm with you too! I'm 2dpo and trying to be relaxed this time.

Rationally I got a lot of symptoms that could be pregnancy symptoms when I wasn't ttc so I'm just going to assume its random if I do get any! The 2ww is bad enough without getting stressed with SS!

 

[Delta]

Absolutely with you! Going to ride out the tww and busy myself seeing friends, spring cleaning, focussing on work, and then when af is due I'll test is she doesn't show up. No more wasting tests and getting my hope up just to set myself up for heartbreak. to all and let's get busy doing other things!

 

[candymycandy]

I actually just came across this article which is quite helpful!

http://m.voices.yahoo.com/am-pregnant-not-during-two-week-wait-6771090.html

 

[Kitty2013]

I am going to try not to SS as like all of you I have had all sorts of things during tww ! Thinking this is my month every month ! Just need to not be a mad woman while waiting for AF lol ! I'm on cd4 today urgh! Sending lots of baby dust xx

 

[Dodsy83]

Def trying not to SS this cycle...It's been so bad over the past 5...even when I was 10 days late and get BFNs
I've also read that actually you need to get excited when you don't have symptoms lol! especially if you don't get your usual PMS symptoms....but let's forget any type of symptom all together and concentrate on being positive.

Kitty, im CD4 today as well!!

FX everyone xx

 

[Kitty2013]

Dodsy Maybe we will get our BFPs together! ? What's your cycle length ? When do u usually ov? X

 

[TerrifiedNoob]

I'm new to all this and have driven myself insane symptom spotting this week and spending a fortune on tests only to come on today. Admittedly I'm a week late, according to an app I use but that doesn't help matters either! Can we start a new sub group of 'waiters' that don't discuss symptoms or test?! Would be the most boring group ever lol but at least the horrible let down and disappointment would be easier to deal with. I'm almost relieved af has arrived after the week I've had! !
X

 

[Rachel87]

I think SS is worse when AF doesn't show. I just don't take any notice now. Otherwise you stress yourself out looking for things that aren't there and end up late and then thinking you are pregnant just to end up disappointed when AF shows.x

 

[Dodsy83]

Hey Kitty, let's hope so!! My cycles are usually 27-29 days with ov around day 16 (this is from reading body signs not from OPK) but for whatever reason my last cycle was 39 days and ov was around day 21.

I'm hoping it was an off cycle due to stress or something (probably not helped by SS) and that I'll be back to normal this month and that my CBFM will help me with my BFP.
What about you?

TerrifiedNoob - I like the idea of the waiting thread with SS discussion banned....but don't be terrified! I'm trying so hard with PMA this month, it's very easy to get down about it all and I've had quite a few pg announcements from friends and colleagues over the last few month's that make it worse. But I've decided I must think positive thoughts and bounce these off of other people so that the energy does good things for us all.
(sounds a bit hippy I know, but I have read stuff about positive energy doing great things....might be a load of rubbish, but it's worth a try right?)

Baby dust to all x

 

[stacesl3]

I think the main problem is pregnancy symptoms are the same as AF ones - well in my case they are! I agree with whoever said to get more excited when we have no symptoms