Stressed

[MrsR]

The week I found out I was pregnant my OH got fired from his job. I'm not working due to a torn disc on my lower back. Basically I'm completely stressed out about paying for this baby. I really struggled with my DD as I was a single mother, still in college. I quit college whilst pregnant to get a job and I swore that next time I'd do it properly, have money behind me, own a house, be with someone successful. Well it hasn't happened. My OH has debt he's paying off, we struggle to pay bills and (I'm ashamed to admit) for the first time in my life I'm stuck eating frozen cheap food from Iceland. I hate it! My OH doesn't seem bothered, I try and express how I feel but he doesn't listen. I just wanna scream. I'm really struggling to cope with the lack of money. I want to give this baby all the things I couldn't give my DD but it's not going to happen. I'm so angry with my OH and myself.

 

[Mamafy]

Awww hun

 

[karenandbump]

Aw hon....so sorry ur in this situation.... xx

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Not much I can do to make you feel better but just to say that all the support you could ever want is right here

 

[nancy]

As long as you've got food in your bellies, a roof over your head and love for each other you'll be ok. We all think we'd like things to be a certain way but you can't have forseen or controlled any of these factors so you shouldn't beat yourself up.
Your love doesn't cost anything and I bet this baby is going to get a lot of that! Things won't always be this stressful, things will come back together before you know it.
I'm a total stress head but my OH says "what's the point in stressing about things you can't do anything about?" He's right too, you need to focus your energy on positive things that you can do.

With regards to shopping, I find it more cost effective to do my shopping online when I'm skint so I can take my time to find the best deals and get more for my budget. I swap between supermarkets (Asda and Tesco usually) to get the most amount for my money as they do vary from week to week. I must admit I'm anal about checking all the prices because "if you take care of the pennies - the pounds take care of themselves." I've fallen into the trap of thinking I needed to go to Iceland but unless you're really clever it's a false economy. You'll probably find that if you go to your local butcher you'll get better deals believe it or not - and the weight you see is what you get because they don't pump water into it.

I hope things start to get better for you soon. x

 

[Terrie]

i find shopping online really helps too.. i always spend about £20 less than if i go to the supermarket.

its not always about doing things 'right' its about doing the best you can with love and hope xx

 

[MrsR]

Thanks guys. Talked (and cried) about everything last night and he was really reassuring that he is trying his hardest to find a job and we're gonna start shopping online for food. I was an emotional wreck yesterday, one minute laughing and the next in floods of tears! Ended up phoning my mum and telling her she's gonna be a nana again!

 

[CrazyCoconut]

xxx