"stop thinking it and it will happen" GRRR

[kazzerly88]

Any tips on getting over the frustrating 'advice'?!
Is there even any fact behind it?

My partner works away, so need to track ovulation so he can come home to perform the task so we can't just "leave it to chance".

So many friends are getting pregnant and I'm msierable. Been off the pill for 7 months now and nothing

 

[snowbee]

No fact behind it other than stress can affect your cycle. I'm afraid it is just one of the many many irritating things people feel entitled to say to you when ttc! We were ttc a long long time and I lost count of the times people said unhelpful and sometimes hurtful comments. Best thing to do I found is just to walk off or change the subject, the longer it went on the blunter I got, to the point I just said well it isn't that simple for everyone, which tended to shut most people up.

Stay hopeful, stay positive, ignore the morons and good luck.

 

[Sunflower1]

The evidence shows that while stress can delay ovulation it doesn't tend to stop it. People love to give advice...maybe don't talk to them about it? Maybe it is taking your body a while to adjust after stoping the pill. Are you having normal periods and cycles?

 

[Melly41]

No fact behind it other than stress can affect your cycle. I'm afraid it is just one of the many many irritating things people feel entitled to say to you when ttc! We were ttc a long long time and I lost count of the times people said unhelpful and sometimes hurtful comments. Best thing to do I found is just to walk off or change the subject, the longer it went on the blunter I got, to the point I just said well it isn't that simple for everyone, which tended to shut most people up.

Stay hopeful, stay positive, ignore the morons and good luck.

Here here!

 

[Bexta123]

I feel like I'm in a similar situation, been in the same situation as you for 10 months now. Currently in tww but no obvious signs. I've only been charting my periods & predicting ovulation but other than that I think I might try some vitamins & boost my immune system.

Don't lose faith though !
X

 

[Eryinera]

It's annoying and smile and nodding is a good coping mechanism. As far as I'm aware stress rarely prevents ovulation but it can delay it. However high stress levels (well the stress hormone cortisol) have been linked to very early pregnancy loss (at 3 weeks or so so mostly the ones called "chemical pregnancy")in a recent study increased cortisol led to a 2.7x greater chance of early loss than if you had no increased cortisol levels in pregnancies upto 21dpo.

 

[CoolNoMore]

People are rubbish. I am finally pregnant (yay!) and have had a couple of people tell me 'look, see, you just needed to forget about it!'

No part of me forgot about it. I was still doing my opks, still planning sex, etc, in fact I had started taking more vitamins, eating organic, drinking bottled water...I had gone full crazy.

So try to ignore them. People are stupid, and like hearing things come out of their face hole.

 

[redbear]

Nah it makes no difference, but it does make life less stressful if you can.
I must say with my 1st we where trying 12 months, and on the month i conceved we where on a camping holiday. I wasnt ttc that month because we where camping. Doubt it was related but who knows xx

 

[Melly41]

Along similar lines, There are a couple of women at work who are pregnant and there was a group of people talking about sleepless nights and nappy changing, and because I am 41, i had someone say "I bet you are glad you don't have to do that anymore". I did feel Like telling them where to go. They don't know I'm ttc, but thought it was rather rude they should assume I'm passed it! Coolnomore is right, some people like the sound of their own voice and actually believe they are wise.....have to feel sorry for them!

 

[CoolNoMore]

they don't know i'm ttc, but thought it was rather rude they should assume i'm passed it!

rude!

 

[kazzerly88]

Goodness... Just been to the doc and they won't do anything until you've been TTC for 2 years so looks like I'll have to just rely on my own body to get there I guess. Had a meltdown and cried in front of the doctor and everything :S

I am ovulating within my 5 week cycle and use a calendar as well as digital and non-digital ovulation sticks so I know that I am ovulating.

We are buying a house which is a tad stressful... but were TTC for months before that.

 

[Alexis2017]

Goodness... Just been to the doc and they won't do anything until you've been TTC for 2 years so looks like I'll have to just rely on my own body to get there I guess. Had a meltdown and cried in front of the doctor and everything :S

I am ovulating within my 5 week cycle and use a calendar as well as digital and non-digital ovulation sticks so I know that I am ovulating.

We are buying a house which is a tad stressful... but were TTC for months before that.

Could have told a white lie ? 😉

 

[Casey]

Any tips on getting over the frustrating 'advice'?!
Is there even any fact behind it?

My partner works away, so need to track ovulation so he can come home to perform the task so we can't just "leave it to chance".

So many friends are getting pregnant and I'm msierable. Been off the pill for 7 months now and nothing

Ah Kazzerly I can completely understand this too - I had a friend tell me to just 'enjoy the BD' and it will happen. Honestly it's really not want you want to hear is it?! I started a blog as means of expressing thoughts and I wrote a little bit about this because at 40 I've had more than my fare share of comments about this subject .... I'm really not sure why people think they can be so intrusive and blase' about such an emotive subject, it's so insensitive. I wish it were as simple as just forgetting about it, I seriously would love this not to be on my mind so much, but how can we be relaxed about something so important!

 

[redbear]

Goodness... Just been to the doc and they won't do anything until you've been TTC for 2 years so looks like I'll have to just rely on my own body to get there I guess. Had a meltdown and cried in front of the doctor and everything :S

I am ovulating within my 5 week cycle and use a calendar as well as digital and non-digital ovulation sticks so I know that I am ovulating.

We are buying a house which is a tad stressful... but were TTC for months before that.

Could have told a white lie ? 😉

Swap Dr's if possible and say you where trying two year, id be tempted to, it used to be a year. or say they typed it down wrong.... am i evil??

 

[Casey]

Goodness... Just been to the doc and they won't do anything until you've been TTC for 2 years so looks like I'll have to just rely on my own body to get there I guess. Had a meltdown and cried in front of the doctor and everything :S

I am ovulating within my 5 week cycle and use a calendar as well as digital and non-digital ovulation sticks so I know that I am ovulating.

We are buying a house which is a tad stressful... but were TTC for months before that.

Could have told a white lie ? 😉

Swap Dr's if possible and say you where trying two year, id be tempted to, it used to be a year. or say they typed it down wrong.... am i evil??

Lol that's not evil...I agree with this, my practice nurse told me to!!!!

 

[Melly41]

You just need to play the game hun x

 

[kazzerly88]

Am moving house in the next few months... so it could be worth a shot

Only problem is... I was on the pill, so they could ask why I picked up the pill prescription if I was trying?

 

[Melly41]

Maybe say you were thinking ok having a break from ttc so collected prescription but changed your mind.they cant prove you didnt. I cant imagine theyll quiz you more. Defo worth a shot i reckon xx

 

[MoominGirl]

Yeah I'm another one in support of telling a few fibs if you can!! The ones that get are the ones that shout the loudest!!

Length of time TTC seems to vary before the GP will do anything as I think in my area it's still 1 year - just thought I'd mention in case you're moving out of area.

TTC can be so stressful. I don't know why people feel it's OK to butt in with opinions or offer 'advice'. Usually it's from people who just looked at each other and fell pregnant!! I try and ignore them but sometimes it's hard. I'm glad only one family member and a carefully chosen work friend know we're trying. At least if anyone else makes inappropriate comments, I can just change the subject!

 

[kazzerly88]

I will probably exaggerate on my next visit to my new GP wehn we eventually move house.

My general stress levels will be lower then as won't be worrying about the move so who knows...

Partner should be home more too so can get some extra practice in