Stop Moaning!!

[star fish]

Not you lot, my friend who is also pregnant.

I'm just so tired of her finding the negative in everything....

We both spent not just months, but years trying to get pregnant, and now we are she seems so ungrateful for the little gift inside!

I'm always saying upbeat stuff like "Squiggle had hiccups this morning it was funny" and she says "Mine too, but at 5am, it wasnt funny, just annoying"

Things like that, it's getting me down! I want to enjoy and have fun and she keeps giving me paranoid facts and complaining about every kick and I feel like not sharing with her anymore.

Do you think I am being harsh? Like maybe she is not enjoying the pregnancy and I should be sympathetic? Yet it seems to me that she is having a relatively easy time of it compared to a lot of people. Nothing has gone wrong, she has a healthy normal baby in there as far as we know......

Should I say anything?

 

[positivity :)]

i think you have the right to feel annoyed with this, u better than most know how precious ur little one is and it can be frustrating to hear people complaining..although i did start a thread complaining about my stretchmarks today xx

 

[roxane 1985]

well if she thinks hiccups at 5am are annoying, wait till she is waking up every 3 hrs to feed n change the baby lol

 

[Geminiblue]

Roxane youve hit the nail on the head. And get up during the night and by 6am most days still at 2.5yrs then lets see her moan. Unfortunately, some people are just born this way and you are right Star Fish I completely agree with you.

Could you say to her "oh I have this friend whos been trying to get pregnant and she cant, Im so lucky to be pregnant I dont care if Im in pain at the moment its a short period of time and worth it" just to hammer the point home and if she keeps on then be more direct? Its not a lie because you do know people on here.
MY first pregnancy was a tought one but didnt care coz of what it meant I got at the end

 

[Lilelephant]

That its annoying! I hate being pregnant. It is the fact that I will have my miracle tho that keeps me positive. I do t find the kicks etc annoy they r the best bit feeling him wriggling

 

[saze]

tell her she needs to get a grip and to stop being so self centered, you just get on with it she would f*** me off id have to tell her she was depressing me lol. Just make some little funny comments about it like..."are you EVER okay" lol or "God your making me feel depressed". Say something nicely and she will probably get the hint, if she doesn't just x how far along is she??

 

[roxane 1985]

some people just dont realise how lucky they are, i mean look at some ofthe poor ladies in the ttc forums that canthave them and need help.

as awful as both of my pregnancies have been especially this one, i wouldnt change any of it for the world.

tell you what she is going to really struggle to cope when she has had this baby if she is acting this way already. ,y daughter is as good as gold 95% of the time but my god it is still mega hard work, what will she do if hers happens to be one that just cries and screams all the time.

you just ignore her hun and enjoy your pregnancy and cherrish it xxx

 

[Geminiblue]

saze I love what you said lol yep thats a great way then its not all too serious other than the bit ha ha ha ha

 

[star fish]

Thanks girls, she is nearly 6 months, a month behind me. Which, quite frankly, is supposed to be the easiest stage! I dread how its going to be when she is in the last stages and it is truely uncomfortable.

I wish I could direct her to the long term ttc section on here, so she could see how some people would give anything to be where she is. I have tried dropping hints and making a few remarks but she seems so thick skinned!

She is kind of a negative person all the time, my husband calls her 'An emotional Vampire' because she sucks all the life from a room and leaves you emotionally exhausted.

Perhaps it's the added pressure of being pregnant but i cant deal with it right now! I've started avoiding her calls! I'm such a bad friend..............

 

[roxane 1985]

Thanks girls, she is nearly 6 months, a month behind me. Which, quite frankly, is supposed to be the easiest stage! I dread how its going to be when she is in the last stages and it is truely uncomfortable.

I wish I could direct her to the long term ttc section on here, so she could see how some people would give anything to be where she is. I have tried dropping hints and making a few remarks but she seems so thick skinned!

She is kind of a negative person all the time, my husband calls her 'An emotional Vampire' because she sucks all the life from a room and leaves you emotionally exhausted.

Perhaps it's the added pressure of being pregnant but i cant deal with it right now! I've started avoiding her calls! I'm such a bad friend..............

not at all, i dont know if any of the other ladies would agree with me or not but me personally, i think even if you have a piss easy pregnancy its still a hard time, as your running round trying to plan for things, fit in another person into your budget of every day costs, come to terms with being a parent, all the different appointments and feeling uncomfortable and general worries towards your unborn baby, the very last thing you need is to add negativity to the pot.

id just do what your doing and avoid her if she is bringing you down , iveavoided a fair few people in my pregnancy and quite frankly feel better for it, if they want to bitch and moan let them i dont need them bringing me down

 

[i.love]

how silly.

I am trying to complain as little as I can. Constantly moaning is not attractive and will drive anyone mad (her poor OH!)! You are pregnant now (I mean your friend, not you personally lol), and that's that, so try and enjoy it and make the most of it!!

I think you have all the rights to be annoyed with your friend. I know what your husband means by calling her an emotional vampire - I had a 'friend' like that. I used to feel really low after each meeting with her - she was so miserable and jealous of other people! Well, we are not friends anymore, and I feel much happier.

Happy mummy means happy bubba! If she gets you down, avoiding her phone calls might not be such a bad idea at all...

 

[Bexybun]

I must admit I'm a bit of a moaner, but then I have had a really difficult pregnancy this time. However I do make a point of reeling it in and keeping a check that it's not all I talk about, and I always finish with something like "I think it's just that I love the baby bit, 9 months is too long for an impatient mare like me!" Goes down better than "Poor me, poor me, blah blah blah" lol x