Starting nursey

[roxyroo]

My little girl is due to start nursery 2 mornings a week next month but I'm so nervous about it. Im looking forward to a bit of rest before her sister is born and then getting one to one time with the baby but I'm worried she will hate it and that she will be constantly poorly. I'm probably just making myself feel worse than its going to be but part of me thinks I should be glad I'm a stay at home mum and just do that, look after her at home. She doesn't see many other children and I find it hard work being this pregnant going to hectic okay groups so am hoping she will enjoy it and it will get her used to playing with others. Am I just worrying for no reason lol x

 

[Mayflower85]

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[KellyC89]

Oh I totally get this! I'm 35 weeks pregnant with our second and my son has just started nursery one morning a week. I have such a push and pull about it. One part of me thinks that it's wrong of me to be putting him in nursery when I'm at home and the other is really grateful that he's getting some time with other children. My son transitioned really well into going nursery. He's always been very social and I've always noticed how much he loves being around other children so I decided to put him in nursery for similar reasons to you! Obviously a bonus that I will get to spend some one on one time with the new baby.
Try not to beat yourself up about it, though I know us mums do that best! I'm sure she will be just fine.

 

[LaceyKeo]

DS has been in nursery for just under two years now (started at 6m old).

I dropped him up today and he was all clingy and didn't wanna go play/didn't want me to leave.

One of the girls distracted him and I slipped out. After a minute or so I peeked back through the window and he was elbow deep in playdoh, sand and smiles.

It'll really help her socialise, and also learn that she can have fun without mummy, and give her some "big girl independence" xx

 

[willow76]

My daughter is 15 months and goes to nursery 2 mornings a week. She has been going since January and seems to enjoy it. I am really pleased with how thing have went. I agree with the above comments that it is often harder for parents than the kids.

 

[Mrs M]

I did this with my daughter when she was 2, and it was the best thing I ever did! She loved it and it brought her on in so many ways. She was so shy and timid when she walked in, but within a month I could see her confidence building. The best thing for me was that there were 7 other kids there, who are in her class in reception now including her best friend who she met in her first week.
I felt awful for about 2 weeks! Ha ha! Then I just enjoyed the few hours with my baby finally bonding with him properly.

 

[roxyroo]

Thanks for all your replies! You've made me feel a bit more relaxed about it and less guilty. I know deep down she will love it but it's just that first step lol x

 

[Ella1979]

She'll be starting at a good time of year as far as illness is concerned. She's far less likely to pick up colds etc. now we're heading towards summer. When my two started last autumn they were ill non-stop, but that was definitely to do with the time of year.

Both of mine settled really well. They were 11 months and 2.5 years old when they started. I always thought my daughter got way more out of it than my son, but from his "parents meeting" we had a couple of weeks ago, it seems he has all the other little ones following him around and plays really well with them.

I had to send them because I was going to work and I can honestly say that back in November if I could have given up work and not sent them, that's what I would have done. BUT... thank goodness I did have to send them - my son thrives on time away from his sister and vice versa. They're very happy there. It doesn't seem to have impacted (positively or negatively) on their development, except my daughter is much better when it comes to eating since she went up to the pre-school room.

 

[Rooster30]

It is horribly scary isn't it? My son started 5 months ago and he does enjoy it but it took a good few weeks for him to fully settle. He started on one morning but has benefitted from going two mornings a week as it helped him adjust much more easily.

 

[littlemonkey]

My son has been going to the childminders since he was six months odd. I absolutely hated sending his at that age and if I could have given up work and stayed home when him I would have.

Now I'm on mat leave and am planning on going back to work part time in the evenings to avoid having to pay for childcare for two kids. However my eldest son is entitled to a free play group place and I will be sending him to that come September. I do think that he needs the company of other children his own age to play with.

It will also be good for you to have some alone time with the baby. This is another reason I'm sending my son!

 

[Ella1979]

Yes this is the one regret I have - when I was on mat leave with my second and then after he was born, his sister was constantly around, so he never got any time with just me... and still doesn't because we only send them to nursery on the two days I work.

Childcare for two is horrendous! The last few months (before my daughter's free hours kicked in) I was basically taking home £12.50 a day (less than my hourly rate!!!!).

 

[littlemonkey]

[two TE=Ella1979;4198745]Yes this is the one regret I have - when I was on mat leave with my second and then after he was born, his sister was constantly around, so he never got any time with just me... and still doesn't because we only send them to nursery on the two days I work.

Childcare for two is horrendous! The last few months (before my daughter's free hours kicked in) I was basically taking home £12.50 a day (less than my hourly rate!!!!).[/QUOTE]

It would cost us more than my OH earns a month for two or them to go into full time childcare.

We're at that awkward place of not being able to afford him giving up work completely, but not being able to afford childcare either! I'm looking into something working part time evenings which will help greatly, although means sacrificing my time with OH.I just keep telling myself it won't be like this forever!

 

[Mummybexee]

My sons been going 4 full days a week since he was 6 months old!! He loves it and they love him. Never had 1 tear yet and he's 14 months

I'm sad to have to pull him out all but 1 day a week when I go on Mat leave because I know how much he loves it there and the staff

 

[roxyroo]

I'm sure my little one will love it, I just have the same anxieties everyone has I guess like getting ill , horrible children picking on her etc x