Spoiling your baby??

[*Hope*]

Spoiling a 3 and a half month old??

Recently Annabelle has been a bit moany, for want of a better word. she isnt really crying and there is nothing wrong with her (winded, fed, clean and dry and warm etc) its like she just gets bored. could she need constant entertainment at this age???

am i spoiling her by giving her too much attention?! i do give her a lot i must admit. but i adore her and everyone says to interact and speak to your baby for learning and to create that bond? although i really dont want her to turn into a demanding grizzly baby when i cant play with her etc.

anyone have any tips on entertaining this age baby? My back KILLS by the end of each day!

what do you think?

 

[AugustMum]

I dont think you can spoil a baby at this age tbh. They need alot of attention so by playing with them and speaking to them ect you're just helping them learn, rather than spoiling them.

Sometimes though Paige will sit there and get annoyed if I dont hold her and ive been playing and holding her all day and she just fancies a moan. So if I want to eat or go the loo or something without her getting herself all worked up I will admit just just pointing the bouncy chair in the general direction of the tv and if, by chance, she catchs a glimps of it and decides that maybe shes a teenie bit interested in it......then so be it I never wanted her to sit infront of the tv, but sometimes Ive got to eat!

 

[scaredmum2be]

Prob tired.
My LO is like that but if its a wingey cry as i say i can tell so because hes teething aswell i put teething gel on his gums an put his pushchair right back so he can lie down an hes drifted off to sleep. I cant keep up of how livley babys are espeically when you feel tired by a certain time by sorting them out an entertaining them lol. x

 

[*Hope*]

thanks guys thats good to know then.

LOl i so do the tv cheeky trick too!! its so handy if im on the phone or doing the house or something and eating like u say!! thank god for tvs. i was always saying i will just read, talk to and play with my baby but its impossible to be like that AAALLLL the time! x

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

have you thought about getting a sling?

Jasper is having a really 'attached' phase and so i have borrowed a ring sling from a friend which is great for popping him in and out of around the house.

Of course they want entertainment at this age, they are awake for most of the day, they are limited in their ability to pick things up, they cant really 'play' with toys beyond a shake of a rattle or a feel of something, so they are frustrated, its a natural phase before being able to crawl and explore etc - we are creatures of exploration and so they need things to explore without movement, and you are the one who gives them that

Jasper very much enjoys just playing with my hands, or being led around the house shown various things and looking at bookcases/different rooms

he also loves going out for walks

I dont think you can 'spoil' a baby, to 'spoil' a baby assumes they are demanded attention they dont really need and that giving it to them you will be 'getting them used' to something they dont require

fact is, kids demand attention because they need it, you are all they have for a while until their bodies and minds start working fully

 

[inky]

my mum always says I spoil Cahal because I will pander to him more often than not, she thinks I'm setting myself up for a fall. But, I agree with BigBump, they 'demand' attention if they need it, and seeing as I get so much joy in interracting with him (he's an absolute joy ) then I couldn't think of a better way to spend my time. Plus my baby is happy, which is undoubtedly good

 

[MrsR]

I don't believe you can spoil a baby. They cry when they need something, even if that something is just a cuddle, reassurance or entertainment, they don't cry for no reason.

 

[scaredmum2be]

I dont think its classed as spoiling x

 

[*Hope*]

Bless them

 

[titch]

Morgans the same, very nosey. looking at everything and wanting attention all the time. waybuloo does the trick for us! we have an episode recorded and he watches it while i shower and get my breakfast.

I agree that theyre not spoilt. Its just their way of telling us theyre learning about the world. Im thinking about getting a bumbo for morgan cos he always wants to be sitting up so he can see whats going on, my mum hates them tho cos she thinks its bad for their backs

 

[lanny]

I dunno about spoil but I do think they can start winging for you if the are used to getting held all the time etc monty my first was like that but I had every hour in the day to sit and look and talk to him now onto my 3 rd I just dont have that time so herbie dose get put down alot more and now he is more use to it he is really got at just sitting when we are eatting etc of course at every spare min I give him all the cudles in the world but at 8am on a more getting ready for the school run there no way I could play with him all the time I would never get a thing done.

 

[bearsmummy]

I dobt think you can spoil them. I mean I'll probably ruin liv eventually lol shes very loved and has never sat on her own till very recently and now she goes in her walker and plays alone it's lovely! But she has all her day time naps on somebody usually me but sometimes my mum but she still gets herself to sleep on a night in her cot. I think babies aren't there to be seen and not heard! Liv screams all the time now but it's to be loud lol there's nothing wrong with her! I think I've rambled a bit here lol! Xx

 

[*Hope*]

i think annabelle moans if shes bored or tired and i guess im the only one who can help her!

 

[evajo]

I think its the age, my lo is the same. She has started to notice and expect certain things and when that doesn't happen she gets upset. Hates being over tired and cries just before bed if she is - all good signs of independance and that ittle personality shining through x