Ok I am finally ready to tell my birth story....
On Friday night I was having mild pains...not in agony just uncomfortable.
Went to bed that night and woke on Saturday morning to worse pains in my back but again nothing too bad.
They continued to get a bit sore, i didn't really know what it was as it was all it my back. I thought it couldn't be contractions.
I had a bath and my mum said she wanted to get me down to hospital to get checked. I didn't want to go as i thought I would be wasting their time. I also didn't want to see that mean doctor.
I then really needed a poo so badly...but couldn't go, it cracked me up!!!
My mum then knew that instant when I said that, that I was in labour.
My oh and mum came to hospital with me, when I got there the pain seem to have doubled.
My OH asked would he just come back later to collect us, he didn't know what was going on lol.
My mum shouted at him to go park the car and come straight in.
I waited a few minutes then a nurse came, I explained what I was feeling. She didn't think it was anything serious and told me the doctor would come to my room to give me some tablets as she thought it was a kidney infection
As soon as she left the room, I fell to the floor with a huge contraction, my mum ran like a mad woman to get a doctor, she came in straight away and put the scanner on me. I seen a hole in my womb with the babys feet dangling. I later found out that this was my cervix and the baby was in breech.
She did an internal aswell but my waters were in the way mostly. She guessed I was about 4 cm gone.
I was rushed upstairs, past everyone in the waiting room etc. I felt as if I was in a hospital programme lol, it was so dramatic.
As soon as I got there the contractions started coming around every 3 mins, I had gas and air. It helped a little but the pain just kept getting worse and worse. After about 2 hours, the pain was like every 20 secs. I asked for pethedine as I couldnt take it anymore. I was certain it didn't work but looking back the pain would have probably been a lot worse.
They seemed to be putting needles into me everywhere although because of the gas and air, I didn't really notice or mind.
They give me steroids for the baby, took blood, a drip and pethedine I think.
At about 6.15 pm my waters broke, now this wasn't something I was ready for. I couldn't believe the pressure, I mean it was as strong as a bullet coming out of a gun. Ohhhh it someone had been infront of them when they burst they would have been thrown by the force. It hit every wall. I couldn't believe it, the place was soaking.
Anyways the baby was in breech, my mum and the midwife were telling me to push now (they said I should have a natural vagina birth). My OH just sat there holding my hand.
But after my waters broke, the contractions eased off, then they completely stopped. They had put a drip in my hand and turned it on. It didn't help so I just had to do it on my own. At 6.52pm, Jayden was born, but somewhere between 6.15pm and 6.52pm, his heartbeat had stopped.
His was the most precious thing I have ever seen. It is hard to explain but he looked like a full term baby only smaller. No reddness or disfigures. He was perfect. He was 2 pound 1, big for a baby like him at 27 weeks.
He did have a patch of redness on his back from the spina bifida but it didn't look that bad.
I was in labour for 3/4 hours, everything happened really quickly.
After labour, I got up straight away,had a bath and then got my own room so me Jonny and Jayden could stay there.
We spent the night with him, got to dress him, the nurse got foot and hand prints for us. I took like 200 pics.
Family and friends came to the room, it was a nice private place.
A minister came and said a few words. It was really nice.
We did normal things like hold him and just got a chance to be with him.
Labour happened on the Saturday, we left on the Monday.
My mum sorted the funeral.
The undertaker took Jayden away for 3 hours to prepare him and we headed home.
There was gorgeous flowers and everything there, it was beautiful.
He came home that evening and stayed the night.
The next morning was the funeral. We had it at home with a minister who came out.
I couldn't believe how many people showed up, it was nice to see people cared.
We buried him after the service.
I can't think of anything else that happened but if I do, I will add it.
Sorry it took me so long to actually tell you what happened.
Everyone has been a great support throughout this.
Hopefully I can be back soon with a new pregnancy, hopefully with a happier ending.
I got a phone call this morning asking if I could come in and discuss what happened with a specialist and ask all the questions I have too.
It will also give me the opportunity to ask if it will happen again etc.
I am going to receive extra care with my next pregnancy, so if I tell her I'm trying again,she will be able to set up that care.
The appointment is next Thursday at 2.00pm, it seems so far away!!
Thanks everyone for caring
Kaylee xoxo
