Spilling the beans... any regrets?

[topbird]

Hi

We went to a "cocktail" party at a friends house for new year and decided we would tell our friends I was pregnant... but now I am not sure if I have done the right thing, it feels a bit like we are out of control!

I am only 10 weeks but as I have had 4 scans and seen baby growing, with a heart beat etc.... we SHOULD be confident that everything is OK, but I am so anxious about getting my bloods done and my 12 week scan now!

Did not really occur to us that our friends would be as excited as they are and the news has spread really quickly... got texts from friends that were not at the party congratulating us yesterday... so we sent a text to all of them asking them to keep it to themselves!

One girl had a call from her mum to wish her Happy New Year when we were at the party and she told her I was pregnant, only met her once!

Has every one else felt like this after they have told people? I thought it would be a relief to get it out in the open..... dreading telling work even more now!

 

[Sabrina]

Hi TopBird

Yes I've felt like this after my family found out. My mum went to a party at Christmas and people were talking about my pregnancy. I asked my mum how they knew and she said "oh I think I might have told them" I really didn't want it public news until I'd had my 12 week scan. I haven't even told my boss or work yet.

I think that little time when it's unknown and just you and your partner's secret is quite special. I wish I'd made the most of it!

Sabrina
x

 

[neeko_1]

Hi

We went to a "cocktail" party at a friends house for new year and decided we would tell our friends I was pregnant... but now I am not sure if I have done the right thing, it feels a bit like we are out of control!

I am only 10 weeks but as I have had 4 scans and seen baby growing, with a heart beat etc.... we SHOULD be confident that everything is OK, but I am so anxious about getting my bloods done and my 12 week scan now!

Did not really occur to us that our friends would be as excited as they are and the news has spread really quickly... got texts from friends that were not at the party congratulating us yesterday... so we sent a text to all of them asking them to keep it to themselves!

One girl had a call from her mum to wish her Happy New Year when we were at the party and she told her I was pregnant, only met her once!

Has every one else felt like this after they have told people? I thought it would be a relief to get it out in the open..... dreading telling work even more now!

i know how it can feel you just get to exited and you want to tell people in the street...

i waited for after my 12 week scan.. and told my family not to long ago.. but always in the back of my mind i think no i should of kept it quite.

why did you have 4 scans so early in your pregnancy?
i had to wait for my 12 week scan, but if you've had scans then tell the world hehe

congrats

 

[valentine]

Yes, yes, yes! I really wish we'd just kept it to me and my OH - we've only told his mum and dad and my parents but I feel like things are getting out of control already!

I don't think they've told anyone (to my knowledge), but they are waiting with baited breath until the scan until they get excited which is making me feel really stressed and pressured and even more worried that something is going to go wrong. They've not been very supportive, just worried which is making me worse!

Also - they've got their own agendas. My OH's mum wants me to call her as soon as I've had my scan as that's her first night back at badminton and wants to tell all her pals. I'm like, wait a minute - I haven't told my brother, my Granny or my best friends! I've got a kind of informal order I'd like to tell people in but obviously, that doesn't wash with her! It's my news too!

If I had my time all over again or in any subsequent pregnancies, we'll keep it to ourselves until 13/14 weeks and after my first scan.

Valentine xxx

 

[cloud9]

I was so excited I told just about everyone within a week of finding out...ITs great people are happy for you...enjoy the glory.

 

[topbird]

Glad I am not being a grumpy mare then.....

I think if christmas had not fallen when it did we would not have told our friends!

Neeko - I had 4 scans as I had severe pain at 5 weeks and doctors suspected an eptopic pregnancy... all turned out OK but was a very poorly thing for a couple of weeks (very long story - gave me antibiotics in the end as they suspected I had an infection which I had an allergic reaction to, lost 10 lb in weight and could not eat for a week etc... not nice!). We told our parents as they were miffed at why I was so ill and I thought I needed their support. My husbands parents have been brilliant but i wish I had not told mine now.

My mum and dad are really pressuring me for when they can tell people. they took it upon themselves to tell all my family in Canada and US which really p**sed me off, they have just gone on holiday for new year and I bet they told the friends they went with. It is my mum's 60th this weekend and they have asked if they can tell everyone who is coming, which we do not really want them to do!

 

[minikins]

I am the same, I told family early on and now feel out of control, I should have waited but it would have been obvious something was going on with me.

I wish I could keep my gobby mouth shut!

 

[Hypnorm]

I was so excited I told just about everyone within a week of finding out...ITs great people are happy for you...enjoy the glory.

I agree i told every one when i found out at 7 weeks and to be honest it was a relief to get it out in the open, also i HAD to tell my work place any way as i was in a high risk job.