Sounding off!!!

[Tan]

Just wanted to have a moan really so I apologise for the long post in advance!

Am really fed up at the moment and am getting to the impatient stage of pregnancy as well as waiting to move house still and pissed off with work using me as a fill in all the time whne it suits them and not giving me anything else to do. The MIL is also just irritating me (this happens pretty regularly and she calls all the time for no reason until DH says something then it all goes quiet for a bit!)

My Mum is annoying me too and it always feels like shes critisising me. The other day I phoned her cause I was feeling crap as my son has developed a lactose in tolerance and she said that maybe I should breastfeed for longer this time as if to say it was all my own fault. I did try last time but i was so big i was suffocating him and could only do it laying down so i was a great barrel of laughs hiding away in everyones bedrooms all the time!

Now she's said to me when I told her ive got SPD something along the lines of "well you don't ever get much exercise do you!" what does she expect when i'm 32 weeks pg? She's always gone on about my weight and size and yet i'm really similar to her but she thinks she's so bloody perfect.

Now DH has been a moody bugger all weekend and I dont know why. Ive tried asking and he puts it down to me going on about hurting etc all the time but not resting. Well i'm sorry but the whole world can't stop just because i'm not feeling great. There is still our son to look after, work to do, a house move to sort etc etc and I can guarantee that if I was sat resting etc he would get in a mood cause he'd have more to do.

I just can't seem to do anything right at the moment and i'm just so fed up but feel that if I try and tlk to others it just lloks like all I ever do is maon and its not like that.

Anyway - sorry for going on, it seems easier to just write it all down and get it out!

Tan x

 

[Em78]

sounds like you have a lot on your plate hun!

if you cant have a moan when you are almost term, have a little boy to take care of, moving house, all the usual mummy work then i dont know when you can!

never heard of any link between lactose intollerance and not b,feeding. and i dont think spd has much to do with exercise, in fact i think it would become very difficult from what i understand. the phrase if you cant say anything nice......springs to mind!

sounds like you do so well at coping and getting on with it that people around you have forgotton that you do still need some loving words of encouragement - or just to be told - you're doing great.

well if they wont i will!

you are a fab mum, great wife, wonderful daughter and i'm sure they would all be lost without you!

xxxx

 

[Tan]

Thanks Em. Now i'm sat here in tears just because someone has been nice to me. I just wish I could be happy when I have so many good things going on at the moment. I just feel like i'm being unreasonable and that i'm always in the wrong and am worried it will all get worse when baby arrives.

Work doesn't help cause ive got one of those bosses who is married but to someone who's more like a bloke than a woman, has no kids, is a psychologist and thinks he understands every emotional response etc and everytime I say i'll be off etc I just get a silent nod like he doesn't know what to say and then something like "well I think we can cope without you." It just sounds so sarcastic like they don't need me anyway!

Anyway, I won't start again or I might not stop! Thanks though. You've made me feel a bit better!

Tan x

 

[Em78]

sorry i didnt mean to make you cry!

just about anything made me cry at that stage! used to watch adoption stories or test tube babie on discovery and sit there stroking my bump in floods!

it doesnt sound like you are in the wrong to me - sometimes those we love can be really insensitive without even realising it, and we care a lot more sensitive while pregnant anyway.

My dh really peed me off the first time we went out after alex was born.
i got all dressed up, enjoying being back in normal clothes again and was a little concious but felt i looked ok. then dh looked at me and said - oh you've got a huge spot on your chest - that sticks out like a sore thumb!

if my parents werent there to look after alex the evening would have been cancelled! he realised from the look on my face what an arse he'd been and spent the rest of the night telling me i was sexy and i looked great etc. i had such go at him when we were alone.

i am normally so confident and dont care what anyone thinks of me that he hadnt considered that i needed a little reassurance and to be told i looked good.

maybe you should just tell your dh that you dont mean to moan but its all you can do. you cant just stop doing things so you just carry on but have a good moan about it! tell him to tell you he loves you everytime you moan - it might make you both feel better!


pm me anytime i fyou need a chat

xxx

 

[bubble_dreamer]

Tan *hugz* babe

both beth and kurt have a lactose intolerance i tried breast feeding them and it made it worse! Dont blame yourself.

If you need to talk give me a shout xx