So stressed and upset

[JayK2387]

Im gonna have a rant here, im really sorry.

Ok I dont know where to start, Im so stressed and sad that I think im actually going to break down ( Ive cried every night since saturday.

We have our scan next wednesday to do some measurement to see if or not the consultant thinks I should have an amnio which Im absolutely terrified of. We still dont have anywhere to live and are now applying to the council as we cannot afford a mortgage or to rent privatly. I wouldnt mind but I know they will only give us a 1 bedroom and I was really looking forward to decorating a nursery and it brakes my heart thinking my baby wont have their own room. My mate and her fella have twins and they are still in a 1 bedroom and the babies are 7 months old. Im trying to save every penny I can towards the baby and my bf is working every hour god sends but he's not getting paid properly and to top everything off he's just been issued with a £750 fine from the court for an incident that happend 3 and a half years ago. I just feel like everything is coming down on top of us.

Ive had a random sharpe shooting pain in my left hand side of my tummy (overies i think) for about 4 days and can only think its my own fault cause of the amount Im stressing.

Works driving me crazy, im an account manager looking after two accounts, one I work with another person but he's been off for 3 days with tooth ache and its been absolutely manic.

Seriously im trying not to cry/scream as I write this but Im honestly beginning to freak out.

I just wanna get under a rock and hide :'o(

I feel terrible cause I just wanna be happy and excited for my baby but I cant stop worrying about everything! (

God it feels better to rant xx

 

[KateQPR]

You poor thing - but it always helps to get these things off your chest!!

I'm sure things will seem better soon. HOpefully you can get a 2 bed place and the money worries will sort themselves out. You can always decorate the part of the room the baby ends up in if you do stay in a 1 bed (sort of section it off with mobiles and different wall paper on one wall perhaps??) so you can still feel like you've created a little special space for your bubba.

I reckon when your colleague comes back from his tooth ache, take a day off sick too, and try to put your feet up and not stress. All will be fine. And i have that bad pain on one side too!! Am sitting here wondering what the hell it is, but i guess it's just normal stretching etc.

Make yourself a nice cup of tea and take a few mins out. It's a lovely day outside - go get some fresh air and sunshine and take a deep breathe!

XX

 

[mum2A&L]

as you have said, you will feel better for getting it all down. As for work, don't stress - you are one person, you can't be expected to work miracles!!

Alice was in the same room as us till we moved in this place (6 ish months ago), and for a time we where staying at my mums. These things have a way of working out.


if the pain becomes too bad, don't hestitate to contact your gp / mw / local a&e. its most prob stretching, but these people are there to reasure you.


as for the fine, can they not allow a plan to pay it back say over a year? less of a shock to the system then?


take it easy

 

[JayK2387]

Thanks girls, your replies made me smile.

I love this forum, you always know what everyone is going through.

Thank you, I really appreciate it xxx

 

[EllieBelle]

All I can say is keep smiling and keep positive and I promise it WILL get better.

My DH and I have recently been worried to death to - we moved to France a year ago for some "us" time, having not seen each other for months on end due to previous high pressured jobs etc - came back to the UK a few months ago and with the credit crunch, it has been a testing time - we cant sell the French house as the market is crashing over there, and now have 2 mortgages, 2 sets of bills, no income and the savings are all but gone.....and what with a baby on the way too

Had to sell off most of the furniture etc we had in France just to pay some bills, and just didnt know what the heck we were going to do.

I have tried to remain positive throughout, and finally yesterday DH got a fabulous job offer, so we can smile again - Im just praying that the offer letter arrives soon!

I am absolutely sure it will all get better soon.......just keep thinking positively - hard I know!

Huge

 

[claire_louise]

aww hun firstly

secondly i know how you feel about the 1 bed thing me and my LO will be in same situation (and moving to a new 1 bed after 6months due to uni) this may sound really silly , in fact my mum thinks i've gone nuts but i've found some really lovely kids colouring pictures which i've started to colour in (im sad i know, but it kills time when baby sitting) im going to see about getting them laminated then using them as like a tempory decoration for areas baby will be in, it sounds daft but i'll get some pics up when theyre done and you'll see what im on about.

keep ya chin up and rant all you like, it definatly helps at times