Hiya i wasnt going to let myself get sad and I thought I was in a better place but today my hairdresser who is 25 years old told me she is 4 months pregnant. She said she just came off the pill and didnt even get a chance to have a period. She said she didnt even know she was pregnant. Anyway she was all glowing and excited abound finding out the sex. She asked me if I am having anymore. I just said you never know and not really decided. After I left I was so envious of how she didnt even try and just happened. I know she is honest about it though. I am so happy for her but after months and months of no pregnancy it does get to you time to time. I was imagining seeing those 2 lines and being surprised. I dont think that will be me anytime soon though. I just wanted to write here to get it out of my chest as you know men cant really understand how we feel and how sad we get sometimes.
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Sunflower1
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I wish there was more sensitivity among women to these issues. Sorry you had to go through that. hugs xx
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I'm sorry she was unintentionally insensitive. Even though it's never intentional doesn't make it hurt any less. The sad reality about infertility is that it affects so many more people than we realise but if you haven't experienced it, you just have no insight or understanding about what others may be going through behind closed doors. Sending hugs.
Thank you girls. Yes it’s impossible to understand what it feels like so of course she is excited about and I understand that. It’s just so sad that I can’t get pregnant like that. I am sure one day we all have our babies it’s just not knowing how long it’s goign to take. It’s so so hard to live it every month even though I am more relaxed about it. It’s the unknown with fertility that makes it so hard. We have no control over it. I tried legs in the air, conceive plus, preseed, monitors , vitamins blah blah I truly come to decision that it doesn’t matter what you do. It’s one of those things that doesn’t matter what you do even changing diet. I stopped eating gluten , dairy , more water, herbal teas you name it. After I ran out of the sticks no more to opks either just leave it and it will be a surprise if it ever happens. I think for me saddest part is that it might never happen. I mean going from it’s going to happen 100 percent to 0 percent is heartbreaking like dreams come crashing down.
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I know exactly how you feel.
Do try legs in the air and rocking gentley from side to side ... that's what I did the month I caught.
Do try legs in the air and rocking gentley from side to side ... that's what I did the month I caught.
My friend just announced her pregnancy. Came off the pill and got pregnant straight away. I think it might have crossed her mind about me when she told us but didn't stop me welling up and having a rubbish day because of it. It's such a horrible jealousy
Hey sunflower I just read your sig so sorry about your loss. How long did you keep your legs in the air for?
By the way I am still having a rubbish day unfortunately as where ever I have been today there were babies and I just cried and cried arghhh
By the way I am still having a rubbish day unfortunately as where ever I have been today there were babies and I just cried and cried arghhh
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So sorry to hear it and I can understand your feelings. Someone in my office fell pregnant and while I was happy for her it felt like she's stealing the wind from under my wings. I'm not sure there is a good way of announcing pregnancy as it may cause so many triggers for other women. It's not when people tell me though, the worst for me are these elaborate facebook announcements that really get me upset.
Yes the announcement on Facebook. They put a scan of their baby as well. I never done that with my daughter and I wouldn’t do it again if I ever get pregnant as you don’t know who is struggling with fertility. It’s such a lonely place to be. This is the only place I can come to and you girls understand how it feels. Coming here and writing my feelings really help me.
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I'm sorry you're feeling blue, does she know you're trying? It doesn't sound like she knows you're trying so I guess she is just a mum-to-be enjoying an unexpected surprise. I know that doesn't change how you feel, and I get it, it must be so hard. I have the upmost sympathy for women who struggle to conceive; I donated my eggs myself last year to a clinic.
You will get your BFP, it will come, and baby will be so worth all of the waiting!
Sending baby dust to you
You will get your BFP, it will come, and baby will be so worth all of the waiting!
Sending baby dust to you
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You can't expect people not to be excited about their baby and not post pictures on the off chance a friend has fertility issues and will be jealous. It took us 8 months to conceive (and I was desperate to try for about 4 years before hubby agreed!) so I know it's upsetting to see pregnancy announcements, but I think you're being a bit unfair there. I don't know how long it's been, but I really hope you get your bfp soon x
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Hey Maximus *huge hugs* I know how you feel. Everywhere I look at the moment its either people with huge bumps or announcing they're expecting. We've been trying for 3 years with no luck and am about to start IVF in the next few months. When people ask me if I want children, I admit, I'm totally honest and tell them that we're struggling to conceive, it normally stops the conversation (as in them asking too many questions about why we don't have kids already etc) and then they don't tend to bring it up again, which helps me because then they don't put their foot in it.
With the facebook thing, I do find it hard but I always post a congrats or a happy comment to who ever posted it. I try to remember that all the people on my facebook are my friends (im a bit of a neat freak on facebook and only ever add people I know) and even though im struggling they might have been struggling too and not told anyone, so if they finally got their pfb or even if it was a surprise and they're happy, then I should be happy for them too.
Our time will come hun
With the facebook thing, I do find it hard but I always post a congrats or a happy comment to who ever posted it. I try to remember that all the people on my facebook are my friends (im a bit of a neat freak on facebook and only ever add people I know) and even though im struggling they might have been struggling too and not told anyone, so if they finally got their pfb or even if it was a surprise and they're happy, then I should be happy for them too.
Our time will come hun
Well, I see you got your BFP in your other thread so this is probably a moot point by now but I have to agree re: facebook... I mean, there are people in miserable marriages who will get their feelings hurt if they see pictures of happy couples, or people with sick kids who will feel despair seeing pictures of happy kids, or people who can't afford a house who will feel sad seeing pictures of people in their gorgeous new home... I mean, where could you draw the line? Facebook and social media is for sharing pictures and news, and you have to be tough. People should still be thoughtful with how/what they share, but the reality is if you decide to be on Facebook, you will definitely see things that make you angry or sad. That's part of why people are hooked (and part of why I quit FB 7 years ago and never looked back!).
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Can't wait to see you over in February moms!
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Can't wait to see you over in February moms!
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Well, I see you got your BFP in your other thread so this is probably a moot point by now but I have to agree re: facebook... I mean, there are people in miserable marriages who will get their feelings hurt if they see pictures of happy couples, or people with sick kids who will feel despair seeing pictures of happy kids, or people who can't afford a house who will feel sad seeing pictures of people in their gorgeous new home... I mean, where could you draw the line? Facebook and social media is for sharing pictures and news, and you have to be tough. People should still be thoughtful with how/what they share, but the reality is if you decide to be on Facebook, you will definitely see things that make you angry or sad. That's part of why people are hooked (and part of why I quit FB 7 years ago and never looked back!).
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Can't wait to see you over in February moms!
Couldn't have put it better!
I hate Facebook! I only have it for family now to keep them in the loop with the kiddos with ease.
