So bloody irritated

[Squeakz]

went to my mothers this weekend and had a nightmare! Im so grateful for all the help shes given us cos she has been a wonder, giving us nights off etc but im ready for screaming at her. Basically, e went home and said he has 5 fl oz as and when he needs it and would she listen!? no.she was feeding him 7/8 fl oz wheneer he wanted it. He would throw loadsa back up but see that as normal baby sick and then say obvs hes still hungry so feed him more. when we told her not to do this (and make it very clear how much he was on (we'd only just increased it to 5fl oz each feed)) she would hae a massive go at us. She tried to feed him baby rice w/o asking and refused to listen to us and respect our wishes. Now we hae a baby who is really irritable as he used to getting too much....

She still calls him 'our' son and wants to hae 'my little soldier joshua james' tattooed on her.... im really peed off....i can't do this with her anymore, so gateful of her support but shess starting to turn around and say stuff like we should be doing it her way basically cos her way is right...... phil (OH) is fuming.... i dont understand why she wont let us find this stuff out ourselves, make mistakes obvs providing its not to his detriment but we're not hurting him at all we're just learning....

i could cry honestly....

xx

 

[titch]

OMG she tried to give your baby solids???? Is this the mother who wanted to breastfeed her grandchild?! or am I thinking of someone else?

 

[tinytoes]

I would be furious , you child is your child and its not up to her to be giving baby rice or not respecting your wishes .

 

[Squeakz]

yes that would be the very one tiny!! She knows best about everything and just refuses to listen to what we want! wanted to give him solids so he would sleep better through the night yet it was 2 days before he slept through two nights on the trot and after she had him fri night he woke up every two hours on saturday! im sooooooooooo mad!
x

 

[titch]

Oh I would be out of my mind with fury!! Thats a really difficult situation but I reckon you should have words. You need to be in control of your babies feeding and sleep routine. Maybe get her a puppy for christmas

 

[tinytoes]

why cant they just listen to us ?! my mum is the same , Aoibheann is not given dummys at home but always comes home from my mums with one it drives me mad , I caught her not long ago trying to give her a cornetto ice-cream AAAAGH ! Squeals , did I read that right did your mum want to breastfeed your LO ???

 

[Squeakz]

well not quite that bad with breastfeeding but she started to produce milk yeah....

 

[Squeakz]

the thing is im grateful and open to advice but if we do something one way and not the other then we're wrong, and if we say something then i expect her to understand and respect our decision....

 

[Squeakz]

and if we say something then we're not being grateful xxx

 

[tinytoes]

the thing is im grateful and open to advice but if we do something one way and not the other then we're wrong, and if we say something then i expect her to understand and respect our decision....

I agree I like the advice , but I think we shouls be let to learn how to do things OUR way without being accused of being ungrateful .