Sneaky ;)

[corky]

Well me and OH have been ttc for nearly nine months, nothing's happened so far and last month was so stressful that I said enough is enough and wanted to stop trying, of course when I'd got over my little tantrum I realised I still want this I just don't want the stress and hassle of trying to cram in as much BDing in the first part of cycle and not bothering for the rest! So my action plan has become as follows, i've told OH that i'm back on the pill- he was bitterly dissapointed,but I'm not really, so we cancarry on BDing and he will blissfully unaware and I won't have to think of ttc and be dissapointed each month. However some of my friends say this is wrong, I would totally agree if it was the case that OH didn't want a baby and I was tricking him but surely this way is just better stress wise and plus it'll be a lovely little surprise... opinions ladies? xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Hmmmm thats a tough one. I completely see where you're coming from and why you would do it. Thats why I'm on a break myself, it was too stressful. I also understand what you mean by saying that he wants a lo so it's not like you're tricking him into a lo he doesn't want. The thing is that you will know youre not on the pill so will your fibbing to him change your behaviour and lower your stress levels??? Will you now just be stressing in private, without oh to lean on?? I'm not saying you're wrong, just looking at it from another perspective x

 

[LikeJohnnYoko]

I do think it is wrong, because telling him that has obviously upset him further. If you were to be unsuccessful with this route and had to go to the doctors for additional help, do you not think it would be difficult/confusing for him to be told there or just before you went in that you had lied to him about going back on the pill?

Why can't the decision to take it as it comes (excuse the pun) and just enjoy the process instead of regimented trying be a mutual one?

If I were your partner it would be the fact you lied to me, rather than over what that would hurt me. For me, knowing that would dampen the surprise, it puts a gap or distance between you based on knowledge and, well, you lied.

 

[kirstymichelle]

hmmmm well i see where your coming from but its that moment where you tel him you lied and wasn't really taking the pill , i know it would be a nice suprise but at the same time its a lie x x

 

[Demi]

Well if he wants a baby and you think that it will help you to become less stressed, then why not?

My cousin did something a little similar, except she did actually take the pills for a month before realising she wanted to carry on. He was thrilled when he found out about the unexpected positive

Good luck! x x

 

[corky]

I get where you'reall coming from. but when i'm not on the pill he stresses me out about ttc and i know he'll be happy if i get pregnant, so why would he ever need to know I lied if it's not hurting anyone i could easily say it was an accident, he knows I always forget to take them anyway.. I don't know it's either this or not try at all :/ xx

 

[Welshhunniexx]

To be totally honest, i wouldn't lie to him as it isn't right. he may not like the fact that you have lied to him. he may want a lo but lies can ruin a relationship.

i think you should sit down with him, explain that you do want a lo but the ttc part of it is stressing you out big time. explain you just want to ntnp iykwim, that should take away all the pressure x x

 

[BevG]

why not just tell him your sick of all the stress and say lets try but not actually try, just see what happens. no precautions, no poas just relax and enjoy each other, thats what me and my oh did, never even mentioned or thought about it till i missed an af.

 

[corky]

everyone is right, I just guess I like the idea of making his day and preventing dissapointment every month xx

 

[eliviasmummy]

you know your OH if u think it will help and he wont be mad then do it! trust your gut, i would !

 

[Olive]

I wonder if you'll stress yourself more knowing your ttc by yourself hun and knowing that OH doesn't know. It could be a lot more pressure on you.

xxx

 

[corky]

you know your OH if u think it will help and he wont be mad then do it! trust your gut, i would !

that's what i'm thinking, I know my OH and I know his reaction will be omg wow yaayyy you forgetting to take your pills actually worked hoorayyy, knowing me im veryhonest and i'll tell him and explain to him after I get my bfp and i know he'll get it and be like who cares how we got here we're here he won't be all 'you lied to me' he's not dramatic like that he's so laid back he's barely conscious xx

 

[corky]

I wonder if you'll stress yourself more knowing your ttc by yourself hun and knowing that OH doesn't know. It could be a lot more pressure on you.

xxx

it sounds weird but since I said I was back on the pill it's like a weights been lifted it's almost like I believe it myself and stop pressuring my body to perform, if it happens i'll be thrilled but this way I can't see myself being too dissapointed xx

 

[FebMum2Be]

I personally wouldn't, but you know your OH and how he would react etc.. Just make sure you aren't putting yourself under too much pressure good luck x

 

[Olive]

Good luck hun. I hope you get your bfp v soon.x

 

[Princess81]

I'd just say see how you get on, but if he's feeling the pressure just don't tell him where you are in your cycle etc and maybe he'll relax more. Agree with what cosmic said though, if you aren't on your pill then you may still need him to lean on which you coldn't do really if he thought you were on the pill

 

[corky]

me too, eight/nine months is taking the mick slightly especially considering me and OH are very young and not drinkers/smokers/drug abusers.. we want to be parents so badly and we know we'll be good because it would fit into our life already, it's like we were made to have a family so I don't see why it's not working xxx