Single Mothers by Choice....
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I don't think a child is a right, I think of them as a privilidge (if I can spell it). In an ideal world a child would have two parents that were there for them and cared for them but I know we don't live in a real world. I don't agree with single women choosing to become single parents - single parents who have found themselves in that position for different reasons its a whole different thing. I have no issue with two same sex people havinga child but I do think a child has a right to a mother figure and a father figure (whether its one mum and two dads or 1 dad and 2 mums). But if at the end of the day the child is being loved and looked after people can't ask for more.
But beanie if you hit that ladies age and hadn't found a partner would you just think 'oh well, thats me not having kids then'? 
Especially when there are sperm banks ready and waiting to donate to you
I agree with what you are saying but I don't know how I would feel if I were in that ladies shoes if I'm honest
Especially when there are sperm banks ready and waiting to donate to you I agree with what you are saying but I don't know how I would feel if I were in that ladies shoes if I'm honest
Sorry, was putting Evie to bed.
I agree with beanie that a child is not a right. Most of these women are 30's/40's and chose careers over meeting Mr Right and starting a family. To me it almost seems like a status symbol.
I actualy don't personally agree with lesbians using sperm donors either but that's because of my personal experience- not because I am a homophobe. I am quite 'in' with the gay scene here and although I can only quote from my personal experiences the relationships between women and women and men and men are a different dynamic than a male-female reltionship. 2 of my friends met each other, moved in with each other and were planning a baby within 6 weeks and that seems to be the norm
I have no problem with same sex adoption because both parents are legal guardians and it's not just a case of handing over cash IYKWIM.
go on... shoot me down 
I agree with beanie that a child is not a right. Most of these women are 30's/40's and chose careers over meeting Mr Right and starting a family. To me it almost seems like a status symbol.
I actualy don't personally agree with lesbians using sperm donors either but that's because of my personal experience- not because I am a homophobe. I am quite 'in' with the gay scene here and although I can only quote from my personal experiences the relationships between women and women and men and men are a different dynamic than a male-female reltionship. 2 of my friends met each other, moved in with each other and were planning a baby within 6 weeks and that seems to be the norm
I have no problem with same sex adoption because both parents are legal guardians and it's not just a case of handing over cash IYKWIM. go on... shoot me down Lou said:But beanie if you hit that ladies age and hadn't found a partner would you just think 'oh well, thats me not having kids then'?
I agree with what you are saying but I don't know how I would feel if I were in that ladies shoes if I'm honest
well if I had made the choice to concentrate on my career then yes I would say that. It is incredibly difficult to have children and a career (not impossible but very difficult) and sacrifices have to be made. I had only started in my career when I fell pregnant with Seren, and I knew full well I would never reach the top of my career ladder if I had my children. However I didn't want to wait too long in case there were any fertility issues and I was aware that after 30 my fertility would decrease. The feminist in me is shaking her head but women can't have it all, however you do have a choice.
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Jade&Evie said:and even more so that she has hired a nanny to look after the child she desperately wanted
Why? I absolutely wanted my daughter and I love her to bits, but I also want to go back to work, not only because I have to. You don't have to be a SAHM to be a good mother.
widowwadman said:Jade&Evie said:and even more so that she has hired a nanny to look after the child she desperately wanted
Why? I absolutely wanted my daughter and I love her to bits, but I also want to go back to work, not only because I have to. You don't have to be a SAHM to be a good mother.
No, that's true. But in this case- she's gone out of her way to have a child... I don't understand how you could yearn to be a mother that much that you o against nature... to then leave the child with someone else while you go back to being a career woman.
She's not a normal parent.
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Ah, gotcha. I see your point. Still, even if it's slightly weird, it's not wrong.
And I think having offspring is not only about changing nappies when they're little, but they grow into people, which hopefully will be great to be around. Plus something of yourself lives on, so I do understand her, too.
And I think having offspring is not only about changing nappies when they're little, but they grow into people, which hopefully will be great to be around. Plus something of yourself lives on, so I do understand her, too.
Jade&Evie said:widowwadman said:[quote="Jade&Evie":1tklk7dc] and even more so that she has hired a nanny to look after the child she desperately wanted
Why? I absolutely wanted my daughter and I love her to bits, but I also want to go back to work, not only because I have to. You don't have to be a SAHM to be a good mother.
No, that's true. But in this case- she's gone out of her way to have a child... I don't understand how you could yearn to be a mother that much that you o against nature... to then leave the child with someone else while you go back to being a career woman.
She's not a normal parent.[/quote:1tklk7dc]
Why has she got 2 heads or something
Whats a 'normal' parent then Jade?
I've put the
so you know I'm only asking out of interest and not trying to argue with you 