Sep/oct mums

[skatty]

Have any of you had any seperation anxiety going on?????????? Leorah has not wanted me out of her sight the last few days which is fine but I am feeling so bad for my DH Since the beginning he has always done the bedtime routine and feeds her EBM but now she keeps crying if I leave the room and will only stop if he brings her to me. We both know it's just a phase but I can see he's a bit hurt. Last night she woke at around 2am and he got up as we talked about it and decided she probably sees me as being the one that always gets up for her but she screamed and screamed until I came in the room and then stopped and smiled. I left again and she started screaming again and I had to take her and wait until she fell into a deep sleep before putting her down. She has been teething so I don't know if this has anything to do with that. Also if she stirs while napping she starts screaming unless I'm there so I am spending nap times reading in the garden (not that I mind!) I have to go she is crying in the other room now Any tips will be greatly appreciated

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

me and keeley have been going thru this for a while but i thought it was cos of me and my ex breaking up


whenever he has her she cries and as soon as he brings her back she grabs my face and is really clingy that night and has to sleep with me or she won't sleep at all....

the good sign is its not just keeley who's clingy

oh and i don't have any tips sorry

 

[mummykay]

im not a sept or oct mum but Jamies very clingy to me, i just think its cos they no theyre safe with mummy?

 

[h33]

HIya

Conal is November but has become very clingy to me i think it's because i am always with him my DH says he doesn't like him but he is working all the time so Conal knows that i am always there in a way i am the reliable one.

I'm off back to work so i'm afriad he is just going to have to cry at the moment i give him to Geoff and when he whinges try not to take him back just let him cry it out and then Geoff will figure out a way to soothe him by himself.


Heather

 

[Melanie]

Thea has been like this for the last few days, screams if i leave the room even to go to the loo but id put it down to daddy being on a business trip so im all she has.

No advice Katt but im sure its just a phase.

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

im a september mummy

braydon doesnt suffer from seperation anxiety but i do doesnt bother him being away from me, but i hate being away from him even for half hour

 

[Tina & Gabs]

Hey Katt

We have kind of been having this but I found it is more with the feeding.
I am now introducing much more formula for Gabriella (as I want her to be off the boob when I go back to work in June) and she won't let DH feed her; she messes around and looks for me and won't take the bottle unless I feed her. She doesn't cry for me but is always looking to make sure I am there.

I also don't have any tips but am hoping it is just a phase.

 

[skatty]

Crikey it's getting worst Poor Martin thinks she hates him!! He's such a hands on dad, I feel so bad for him. The last 2 weekends he's been working on the house rather than spending time taking her and Princess for walks and watching football on the TV together and it's obviously had some effect. She has been teething so I have been the one getting up in the night to give her cuddles and medicine so she obviously sees me as being there 24/7. I did read at around 6 months babies start to realise that their mums are seperate from them. Oh god she has just woken crying in his lap again, I can't even pee in peace at the mo'

Has anyone been through this phase and come out the other side, how long does it last? At least i know it is normal as you poor girls are going through it too!

Let's all pray they are over it soon

 

[Alfiesmummy]

Katt its normal, and I know how you must feel with the whole daddy thing. Ian works away but when he is home at the weekends he pretty much takes over and Alfie is all for daddy at the weekends, but the last couple of weekends he hasnt wanted to be anywhere near him. He cries whenever i leave the room and in fact hes crying when i put him down for longer than 10 minutes, i am putting it down to the fact these pegs must be causing havoc and he just wants comforting from his mummy, e has had phases of being clingy since birth but i just go with it, last weekend alfie woke up screaming in the night and wouldnt go back down all he wanted to do was lay on me, so me and ian lay in bed watching a dvd, I could see ian was desperate to cuddle him and comfort him but knew he'd make it worse and it must be so hard for them. especially being such hands on dads! I just accept that he will be back to normal soon, its such a hard time for them bless them they must be in agony with them and even now if im a biut under the weather i need to speak to my mum or have a hug off her, its natural instinct hun, after all we did carry them for 9 months and comfort them, it was our voice they alwasy heard and it just soothes them a bit. Tell your OH nbot to worry Leorah still loves her daddy she just needs mummy snuggkle for a few days.
What we did was bring Alfie in with us lay him on me whilst he was upset and he just cuddled me, but ian held out his finger for alfie to hold so he knew daddy was still there, and daddy knew alfie still loves him too

 

[skatty]

Wow, I can't believe Alfie and Leorah are going through exactly the same again! I thought it must have something to do with the teeth, I wish they would start to come through

Last night Leorah was much better with Martin and he did the whole bedtime routine as usual and when she woke at 11pm he gave her some medised and a cuddle and she went back to sleep no problems.

We are lucky he is going to be off for 10 days nw and we have decided family first, house second so he's going to have some serious bonding time with Leorah. I hope ian and Alfie get back on track soon too

Lets pray for teeth

 

[budge]

yep!
if i leave the room rachael moans and wimpers and if she hears my voice before she sees me she cries pitifully!
i rather like it as it makes me feel wanted

 

[Minxy]

Consider yourself lucky ladies.

Stanley's always got a smile for Daddy but sometimes doesn't even notice I'm in the room