Self conscious and feeling rubbish

My mate has just invited me out for her 20th to Bistro Live. it's a school girl night and I was gonna go out. But I've just seen what they will be wearing (short skirts, fitted blouses, knee length sock, high heels, etc) and my heart has sank and I've cancelled.

I feel like crying. I know I'd just feel awful getting dressed up and going out dressed like that in front of all of her friends who are so pretty and none of whom I know.

I'm being such a muppet but PND is ruining everything, I can't even go out with my bloody friends. I'm supposed to be going out as a cheerleader for my mates 18th in a few weeks, have bought an outfit already, but really dreading it now I don't wanna go

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

awww babe i know how u feel the thought of it would panic me!!! could u go as a geek??? be diffo!!!

 

[Yvonne]

Have your mates had babies sami?!!

I know how you feel as i am the same but i stop and think.. "i have just had a baby, what do they expect in there size 8 clothes"!! lol

I have a 40th Next week of one of Andy's collegues and they are all rich etc and i will just feel so out of place with my big stomach and bum and legs in a new look outfit and they are all swanning round in their Selfidges outfits!!

I am dreading it

 

[Princess_Puddles]

Sami your so pretty though and from pics ive seen of you on here there's hardly anything of you!!

 

No they haven't. But I don't know anyone except one other person and I'll feel proper self concious. They are all a bit snooty. I know some of them are bigger than me, but i get so nervous just going out with friends to the pub. Plus I have nothing to wear!

 

[Yvonne]

Aaawww Hun, i know how you feel i am like that everytime i go out, the friend i go out with gets in teenages clothes she is that skinny i feel huge next to her!!

 

[ToriElla]

don't feel self conscious! You look fab. Even dionne posted that you don't look like you've just had a baby after you met up!!

Try and relax and focus on the night and making new friends rather than what everyone looks like and you might have a good time? xx

 

I feel like a plum. I know I should just get on with it and have a good laugh, but I'd have to buy something to wear too and god, me shopping is a nightmare task! I hate buying stuff for me when I know I'll feel rubbish wearing it. A size 10 I may be, but a wobbly arse, stretchmarked thighs and cellulite will not go with a short skirt!

 

[lauramumof2]

I feel like a plum.

You cannot go out dressed as a plum

I know how you feel, if you dont feel good it affects everything.

 

[ToriElla]

so buy some peddle pushers or capri pants with a flattering shirt (you should get a fitted one with a thicker material so you feel comfy) then you can wear heels and look like a sandy from grease type of school girl x

 

[Lauz_1601]

I know how you feel Sami, Im the same, people say you woudnt tell Id have a baby ect ect but its under the clothes that I feel self conscious. Im going on my hols on sunday and worried about wearing skimpy summer stuff becuase of my cellulite and stretch marks and my love handles and belly that get pushed over my clothes lol. Past couple of days Iv been feeling frumpy and Im sure Iv put on weight keep geting really bloated too, oh well
If you go out have a few drinks Im sure you will be fine, I find that I really dont wanna go out, but once I am out I enjoy myself!

 

[Dee1985]

Sami iv see u in person, you have a great figure your belly is so flat and your a size 8.... dont be so silly... me u meet up soon have a drink and girly chat

 

that'd be good Dionne i could do with that.

it's not so much my size, it's just in my head that i feel self conscious. I might feel better tomorrow i dunno.

LOL Laura - you always make laugh you nutter I'd probably feel less self concious dressed as a plum, at least it would cover my arse!

 

[Amanda]

Sami - my 13 year old goes to school dresssed exactly how I did in the 80's!! It's awful, but works if you are in the least bit self-concious about your body.

3/4 length black leggings under a short skirt, then black kitten heel shoes. This way it will cover up any bits of your legs that you don't want the others to see.

Don't hide at home hun. That's the start of the slippery slope. Before you know it, people will stop inviting you because you always say no. I've been there, done that, so know all about it.

Go out there, have a few drinks, and enjoy yourself!

 

[ToriElla]

sorry im just coming into this thread to slap you!!

*knocks some sense into sami* i've just seen you without makeup on and you are a stunner! All these mates will probably feel self conscious next to YOU!

feeling any better yet?? you better be .. gotta whole lots sense with your name on it x

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Sami you are gorgeous i wish i looked as good as you .... try still looking pregnant after almost 6 months.
I hope you end up going out i now how you feel though ive cancelled loads of things cuz i have nothing to wear and feel crap.
Katrina

 

[cassi]

or black tights..i have terrible stretchmarks all over my thighs now too...i used to love goin out in my short skirts too but even plain tanned tights will cover up stretch marks

 

[beanie]

I did the massive mistake of bra shopping today and there was amassive huge mirror in the changing room. It made me cry

 

[nicki]

I feel like a plum. I know I should just get on with it and have a good laugh, but I'd have to buy something to wear too and god, me shopping is a nightmare task! I hate buying stuff for me when I know I'll feel rubbish wearing it. A size 10 I may be, but a wobbly arse, stretchmarked thighs and cellulite will not go with a short skirt!

A size 10!!! OMG what is that like? I could only dream of being that small. (goes away and sobs!)

Sami you are gorgeous, but I know that no matter how many time you hear that, its how you feel that counts.

I went out last Tuesday night, when I got ready I felt ok but then I walked into Bar Med & felt like a fat ugly cow, sooooo many girls with short skirts & crop tops on

Do what feels right for you & chin up babe.xx

 

I didn't go out in the end with them, sent her a text to say happy birthday and she hasn't replied. She's annoyed at me apparently for letting her down oh well.