Sad because son split up with his girlfriend....

[Sabrina]

My son told me yesterday he'd broke up with his girlfriend of 18months. He said he wants some freedom as he's "only 17" and she was getting a bit "possessive".

She was a regular visitor to our home, often stayed over and I got along really well with her. It was nice to have another female around.

Anyway, the thing is, I can't stop thinking about how sad she must be feeling. She is such a lovely girl and was really sweet and helpful when I was pregnant with George. I don't know whether I should contact her .. but what would I say?? "Sorry my son finished with you?""

Anyone else been through this?

 

[noodle1]

Hi hon

Sorry to hear that

I think if I was him I might be angry if you contacted her without me knowing so why don't you ask him if he minds if you keep in touch with her?

 

[foxred]

If you were close I'm sure she would appreciate a wee note or something from you, even if it just says that your sorry you wont see her as much any more and that you hope things go well for her.... its sad when people go out of out lives without us having any say in it.

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

aww its lovrly u become so close, but before u choose to contact her or not id speak to ur son
if it was me i wouldnt appreciate my family contacting my ex

 

[Sabrina]

Thank you for the replies. Yes it is that we never really got to say goodbye that's bugging me when we got along well. My son doesn't want me to contact her so I will respect his wishes. She babysits for one of my friends so it's possible our paths may cross in the future one day and, in the meantime, I will have to just hope he eventually comes to his senses about her.

 

[Princess_Puddles]

Oh thats sad
I have to say though in the past when I was dumped by ex's I would have loved their Mums to have stayed in touch! I got along really well with all my ex's Mums but never aapproached them because I always felt that they were going to take their sons side and hate me too She may feel the same way and im sure a little letter/txt message or phone call wouldnt hurt just to let her know your not taking sides on the break up and that you're still there for her if she needs someone to talk to!

 

[Sabrina]

Oh thats sad
I have to say though in the past when I was dumped by ex's I would have loved their Mums to have stayed in touch! I got along really well with all my ex's Mums but never aapproached them because I always felt that they were going to take their sons side and hate me too She may feel the same way and im sure a little letter/txt message or phone call wouldnt hurt just to let her know your not taking sides on the break up and that you're still there for her if she needs someone to talk to!

Thanks for that Princess_Puddles.

I asked my friend to tell "L" (my son's x) I was sad about the breakup and thought a lot of her. So at least she will get to know I'm not taking sides. I wouldn't want her to feel embarrassed should we bump into each other.

 

[kellysomer]

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I bet you loved having nother female in house surrounded by all that testosterone!
Maybe a note as suggested t her saying your thinkingof her and hope to see her about. Just mention to your son that you will be doig it though so he knows