Right then i'm gonna ask.....SEX!

[Lexusno1]

I need to ask because i've learned that this forum is as much as a sounding board more than anything else but is anyone else totally off sex??

I feel so sorry for my OH cos i've turned into this frigid alien! I had a moderate sex drive before we got pregnant. I'm nearly 21 weeks now and we've done it 3 times since conception.

Without sounding like a Mills & Boons book, when I look at him, I melt. He really does it for me still but I can't bring myself to do it. At all. Not even a little bit!

He's so understanding about it and the only thing he's said is "Its not helping matters that your boobs have doubled in size!" but I wish I could do it but the thought makes me wretch on so many levels and I don't even know why!?

Am I the only one???

xx

 

[pinkymum]

I'm single, so this might not be the best example. I've had a higher sex drive since I concieved but there is no way I'd want to have sex with anyone or if I had a partner. I defo don't feel sexy and I wouldn't want anything up there lol. So its just me and the toys

x

 

[clairebear22]

Can I join the frigid alien club?!

I lost my sex drive a week before I got my BFP. It was one of only 2 signs I could be pregnant. The second being my boobs grew massive!!

We still do it around twice a week because I feel sooo sorry for my OH. He's gone from having it every night if he has the energy to practically begging me!! lol I do still enjoy sex, it's weird I just don't get the urge anymore. My sex switch has broke!

I'm hoping my mojo returns very soon!!

xxx

 

[amyjayne77]

No!! I was exactly the same with my last pregnancy and for me it hasn't gone away

I love dh so much and although he is a raging sex pest, lol, I can't get in the mood at all. I know he's finding it tough but I just cba even trying. I'm such a frosty bitch!!

 

[Lexusno1]

Glad i'm not the only one with issue! It's so strange I cant even really describe how I feel. I think it's that fact of 'down there'. It's not an area i'm a fan of at the moment?!

Claire; sorry, you CAN NOT join my frigid alien club hun. Not with twice a week anyway, WOW, how jealous am I? I'd rather be in your club than mine. At least you get to burn calories in yours! lol GO CLAIRE!! I think twice a week is very good going!

Hope mine comes back. I keep imagining after the baby's born, booking a hotel, getting my hair and nails done, bottle of bubbly and doing what I used to be good at!! I just cant bring myself to act on anything I feel now though! *sigh* IM SO BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol

 

[xshauna_bazx]

OMG i was gonna ask this today! I havent had sex in about 2 month! I feel bad for my OH as he has a high sex drive but i really can't be bothered with it...it isn't interesting me anymore for some reason. Wish i could though! xx

 

[amandapanda]

I only see my OH on the weekends and so far our sex life has remained pretty high. I have found that if my hormones are bad and I'm feeling low and moody then I don't really fancy it, but to be honest sometimes I just go along with it to keep him happy and once I get going I enjoy myself! I think your sex drive is something that is easily lost and you need to exercise it to get it back, and the only way to exercise it is to have sex! You might feel a bit detached at first but if you relax and just lose yourself a bit I'm sure you'll enjoy it! xx

 

[Lexusno1]

I know what your saying and that totally is the best way to get past it but I physically cant handle it and dont even get me started about what would happen to him if he touched my boobs. They're so sensitive I honestly think I would punch him square in the face if he touched my giant nipples.

Even typing this is getting me all gittery at the very thought. I've got real issues man! haha

 

[amandapanda]

Awww hun! My boobs hurt in tri 1 but they are not so bad now. Well if it's not just a mental block and you are having physical problems too then stop putting pressure on yourself. Or to give him a treat cause you are feeling bad for him you could always pleasure him but tell him he can't touch you! Tie him up if needs be! Oooh it's all coming out now....ha ha!! x

 

[Lexusno1]

Haha! Yeah, done that a couple of times and he thought it was Xmas, his birthday and Easter all at once bless him. If he stops getting on my nerves for 5 minutes I might treat him!

It is a mental issue but it makes it a physical issue then. Think i'm just a weirdo. I'm so envious of women who's sex drives go through the roof!

 

[tipper]

We haven't had any since I found out I was pregnant! I feel absolutely awful for him, but I feel sick almost ALL the time. I can't even hug him normally (have to keep my belly away) as that little amount of pressure doesn't feel good.

The poor guy has been a saint though. I think I need to make more of an effort for his sake and just suffer through the icky feelings. Now doesn't that sound like fun!

 

[clairebear22]

Burn calories?! Sod that I lay flat on my back thinking 'hurry up'!! ha ha ha ha Trouble is he can last as long or a short as he likes!! lol

xxx

 

[mumofmany]

I have the opposite problem, i have got a really high sex drive but my husband hasn;t, he is working all the time 2 jobs at the moment so he is the one that is always tired,plus he had the snip over a month ago and ended up with an infection so nothing going on cause of that too. I think we have had it about 3 times since i found out i was pregnant, he struggles with my pregnant figure aswell so i know as i get bigger he wont want to have sex too. its been the same with all my pregnancies. I'm sure your OH's are very understanding not as understanding as me, it has caused alot of rows in the past so now i just DIY if the mood takes me, its not the same but i cant help it for some reason when i;m pregnant i always want it all the time, I would definately say as long as your OH knows you still find him attractive and love them and you still give him cuddles and kisses then that really helps them feel not rejected.

 

[Cantstop]

Me and poor hubs haven't done the dirty since conception. He's mentioned it a few times but I just do not feel in the mood at all. Do I win for having gone the longest?! Reckon I should be allowed in the club lol!

 

[tipper]

Me and poor hubs haven't done the dirty since conception. He's mentioned it a few times but I just do not feel in the mood at all. Do I win for having gone the longest?! Reckon I should be allowed in the club lol!

I'm in the same boat as you We can share the prize!

 

[Lexusno1]

Yep, more than welcome! It's no fun being in his club alone!!!

I think I would find it more frustrating to want it badly and not be able to get it. And OH still wants it so I suppose I'd be moaning if he didn't! The last time I was pregnant my sex drive was so low, he got used to it then when I'd given birth he couldn't keep up!

I hope I get a phase where I'm rampant! I don't even have the urge go Do it Myself! But never really been one for that a great deal! I may as well join a convent and be done with it! Lol

 

[flopsybunny]

You poor girls!! I can't imagine losing my sex drive! OH and I both have really high sex drives and luckily pregnancy hasn't changed that too much. The longest we have gone without any is 4 days. Lol

Xx

 

[XHopefulX]

Oh my god I am soooo happy a thread on this has been raised, thought it had been just me. Lexus feeling it hun, I am totally the same as you, apart from boobs doubling in side (if only ha ha) xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Ah girls Im with the majority of you here! I STILL havent DTD since getting pregnant!

First it was because I just didnt feel like!
Then it was coz I was throwing up 24/7!
Then it was simply because I was paranoid something would happen after my MC in April so nearly 27 weeks along and I still havent been there! lol

Poor DH!

Luckily hes no bother bless him and doesnt hassle me although I still wake up with a gun in my back during the night or morning but I just chuckle at him! lol

So no your not alone....xxx

 

[Skysara]

I totally lost it in tri one i couldnt even stand the smell of my oh!!!! Weird! I was very scared it would not return. Tri 2 has been better if im not too tired fine, afternoons are best for me then i can sneak a snooze (he works from home lol) and Im glad to say he smells fine again and i really fancy him, he does have to avoid the boobies sometimes tho!